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When I give him a hand job, he doesn't come, so I want to do better!

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Question - (1 April 2005) 12 Answers - (Newest, 30 July 2010)
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My boyfriend hasn't been able to ejaculate the last three times in a row when I have given him a handjob. The first time I gave him a handjob he came but now he doesn't seem able to. I think it's because I give a rubbish handjobs as I am not very experienced. He is the first guy I have given a handjob to, but is there anything I can do to help me and him.

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A male reader, olderthandirt United States +, writes (30 July 2010):

olderthandirt agony auntlingham massage use your searh engine . if that doesn't work he has a problem or you're doing it wrong.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2008):

Gently massage his penis with his briefs on. As he gets hard, reach through the fly and caress his dick and balls. Pull down his briefs and lick the head. Once you have a good amount of saliva on it, slowly go up and down. Use your other hand to gently squeeze and fondle his balls. This should make him cum good. It does for me!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007):

Say dirty things to him - "make" him cum - my wife can beat me off in no time if she says dirty things!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007):

to give a guy a good hand job you need to be gental yet wild at the same time. when you are fooling around unzip his pants and start rubbing then start pulling them all the way down. When the pants are off start rubbing at a medium pace then get slow and fast. As he starts to ejaculate slow the pace down. If you feel comfortable to give him pleasure start with a blow job go down slow and gently start then change ur speeds

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007):

I'm not sure how old you are, but hand jobs are a good place to start and if you are not ready for more yet it at least gives him some release. Hand jobs can be very arousing for a guy, but make him really want it before you pull the front of his undies down and grab it. Make sure he has a nice BULGE before you touch it. If it's sticking striaght out with pre-cum on the tip when you see it, he's very ready for you touch it. When you stroke it make sure to get some of the pre-cum between your hand and his hardness for lubrication. The rim of the penis is very sensative so be sure to be rubbing this part of his penis when pumping it. pump slowly at first and then pick up pace with his breathing and then enjoy the sight of his semen shooting into the air, a good sign of a good handjob.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2006):

It's easier for the guy to get really excited the first few times a girl gives him a handjob. After getting four or five or more, it's gets to be slightly less exciting, but still enjoyable. Ask your boyfriend what feels the best to him, or have him take your hand and show you. Also, you may want to try giving an hj after you spent a lot of time flirting, and kissing, and cuddling, and other things. Start the hj after he is really hard and is really needing to cum badly.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2005):

Well its kind of old, but I think its important to add:

- duration. Plan on at least 15 minutes. The goal is not to get him off as soon as possible.

- use a thicker type lube. You dont want to reduce friction to nothing.

- not too fast or slow. Like one stroke per second. Too fast just causes numbness.

- You need a two handed technique. One jacking and the other on the testicals or one jacking and the other doing a circular twisting under the rim.

- The advantage of the women doing the jacking is that she can use her thumb on the underside of the head.

- After the guy cums, the sensitivity totally changes. Do not stop jacking but you need to do it much softer- focusing on the head and rim lightly. Do not go fast that is just painful.

Good luck and we thank you for your interest!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2005):

well i want to know how to position your self as a female... sometimes i get SO AROUSED AT NIGHT with out him i get cravings...and now iwanna like give him a hand job but im not sure if HE"S READY...even though he whaks of and so on..what do i do?

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A reader, Angelbear88 +, writes (4 April 2005):

Did you have sex with him? If not, maybe you should try. Hand jobs don't always get it.

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A female reader, Bev Conolly Australia +, writes (3 April 2005):

Bev Conolly agony auntThe other answers are excellent, but you can also ask him to hold his hand over yours and demonstrate what he likes, using your hand.

Generally speaking, hand jobs aren't very satisfying for guys (they can masturbate themselves better than we women ever could). If you really want to rev him up, consider using your mouth, your tongue and lips, as well. (Other answers in this column give great advice on how to give mind-bending blowjobs.)

Have fun!

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A reader, AMY1972 +, writes (2 April 2005):

Use baby oil. Works every time. You dont even have to put in too much effort either.

Good luck although I doubt you will need it.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2005):

Men are not that hard to please just go with the flow, stop being nervous and ask him how and what he wants, they love that!

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