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male
age
41-50,
*randen
writes:hi I saw this woman at the beauty supply store when I was trying to find my moma a wig for her head. The woman that was helping me and moma was beautiful and have the personality to go with it. I begin to like her right then.. but I then want to ask her out.I was very busy but I said when i'm not busy any longer I going to ask her out, but start off friends, and let the relationship grow, if the love is there. My sister said no, you need to start now before it's too late.So she start trying to hook us up and it seems like it was looking good because she could not remember me. So my sister show her a picture of me on Facebook and she said the woman smile real hard and said he is kinda of cute and ask where I work at and what I do for living. Every time my sister see her anywhere she would say my brother said hi and my sister said she smile like she was interested in me.I told my sister I said hi So I decided to go down introduce myself that Friday and so sister told her I was coming and she said sorry but I have a boyfriend. My sister really trying to bring us together, bragging about me how I provide for moma and how I take care of my little sisters and how I take them out of town take them out to dinner at 5 star restaurant buy them clothes that are expensive and I will do the same thing for her. My sister said she keep smiling all the time when my sister boasts about me and she was all ways asking things about me. why did she reject me? What I didn't get is..... is she shy ?Does she really have a boyfriend?Or was this a test and I should have went down anyway.I'm confused. maybe you can help me.
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (8 July 2015):
 Hi,
i know you like this woman very much, but as the first reader stated, she is off limits & you must let her be.
Do not visit her, ask about her, think about her daily, because you will only end up even more broken hearted, as it seems you've already invested much of your time & your hopes in this woman, that to be very blunt, you don't even know on a personal level.
She states that she has a bf, but whether she truly does or doesn't, isn't even the real issue here.
The real issue is that she is not interested in you, as boyfriend, or relationship material.
Now, i am not saying that there is anything wrong with you, that you're not worthy, that you are not kind, funny, attractive, or anything else that's positive to a woman, but quite simply, she does not wish to engage in a relationship with you & that is her right.
You know you cannot force this upon her & why would you want to anyway?
You are not that needy, nor desperate, right?
You are man, you have your own self-worth & pride, so stick with that always.
You sound like a great guy, with very good & meaningful intent, but please save yourself for a woman who truly deserves, respects & appreciates you & only then will you & she be truly happy.
As a man, you would know that when you do meet 'the one', you'll know. It's that simple.
Please try not to complicate this matter any further. This woman sounds a bit like me to be brutally honest.
She is very friendly, polite & she is just being nice, she doesn't want to sound directly rejectory, so she asks about you, as she can see you're a decent guy but again, as far as love, romance is concerned, it's a no go zone between you & she.
Leave your heart open to the real love that you deserve & be patient, because it will happen when it's supposed to.
Keep enjoying your life, go out, meet new & interesting people & eventually you'll spot another gorgeous, intelligent & kind hearted woman & you'll just know deep in your heart & soul that she is 'the one'.
All the best! :-)
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (8 July 2015):
 If she says she has a BF, then she HAS a BF and that means, she is off limits to you.
She was being polite to your sister, that is why she asked questions - that is HOW you have a polite conversation you talk, listen and ask each other questions about the subject (this case YOU were the subject).
Keep looking you might meet another lovely lady. This one though, is taken.
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