When I asked him out he said "let's get to know each other better, first". Is this his polite way of saying No?

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Question - (20 January 2007)

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A female , anonymous writes:

ive liked this guy for a while now (about 10 months) and he claims he liked me the same amount of time but when ever one was singel the other was taken and finally after 10 months we both single. we have flirted loads and had a few kisses. last night when we was walking to get some food he held me close to him as we walked and i turn to him and asked him out he said maybe and i asked for him to explain it he said i want to know u better first is this just a nicer way of saying no. it really confusing me though as he tells me he likes me then when i ask him out he says no :(

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A female reader, willywombat +, writes (20 January 2007):

I think then he just wants to 'get to know you better' before choosing to make any sort of commitment to you which would involve being exclusive to each other. Go out on a few dates and see if you enjoy your time together.

Good luck.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2007):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

im 18 and go out as in gf/bf as we have been on a few dates already

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A female reader, cd206 + ♥, writes (20 January 2007):

Unfortunately the only way to know is by asking him. Maybe this is embarassing but you sometimes have to take risks to be happy.

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A female reader, HardNut +, writes (20 January 2007):

to be honest.. i think well i mean i dont know this guy but from what you have said it sounds like maybe he just wants the flirting and few kisses here and there maybe he's unsure of putting a name on your relasionship? If he's liked you for the same amount of time as you have liked him (10 months right?) he should've jumped at the chance to go out with you when you asked him out.. maybe he didn't fully understand what you was asking him? I think you need to sit down and be completley open with him forget embarassment you shouldnt be shy about any feelings you have be open tell him how you feel confused see what he says and take it from there

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A female reader, AngelofLove +, writes (20 January 2007):

You need to have a proper conversation with the guy and asked to clarify.

It is very easy to jump to conclusions but in the middle of the street perhaps he did not feel very comfortable to talk about it.

Good luck x

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A female reader, willywombat +, writes (20 January 2007):

Can I ask how old you are? Plus, can I ask what you meant when you said you 'asked him out'? Only, I am unsure if you meant you wanted to go out with him on a date or as BF and GF?

Cheers.

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