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writes:Hi so I've been kinda "seeing" this man for a few months now, his a lot older than me, we are both single may I add, and at first it was just a friendship thing, we enjoyed each others company I'm not looking for a relationship. Then one night too many drinks later we end up sleeping together, I regretted it at first then I thought well we're not hurting anyone, so now and then we sleep together, we also go out together (we basically are like a couple but not) his very good to me. anyway we went out for dinner and he told me he has told a few of his good friends we have slept together, showed them my picture etc and I can't help feel annoyed, it's like his a grown man he should have more respect! I confronted him and he laughed and said his a bloke, all blokes do it. Things is he gets drunk quite a bit and I don't no if he has told them more then he has, knowing him probably! Am I over reacting? I only told my mate and that was the day after when I was regretting it,coz his older his acting like he scored a goal! And he wants to show me off!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (22 August 2015):
 I agree with Cindy.
He is a GROWN ASS man. Bragging about whom he has sex with is pathetic and not "that is how men are"... Seriously? That is the excuse? Like men can't HELP themselves? Men can't show respect? SURE then can, but this one just don't care.
Dump his immature old bum, and find yourself a man who can RESPECT you and your boundaries.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2015): I think you know you can do better. A guy like that rarely changes. A respectful person, man or woman, would not blurt about and brag they bedded a younger partner. Seriously, ditch this guy and tell him straight that you're not some object to be shown off and bragged about in a pathetic attempt to show off!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 August 2015):
 I have to disagree with Rebecca c,I think that regardless of your unofficial status you'd have ANY right to call him out on his loutish behaviour and ask him to stop. The problem is that a guy like this would not listen at all, so yeah , basically hold your breath - and change lover as soon as possible :)
He's boasring and bragging, as men do ?
WHAR men ? Not all men of course! Not real men ( i.e. not highschool kids who need to impress their pals, but self confident mature adults who do not need to reassure an audience , and themselves ,they can still wing it ). And surely , not gentlemen.
Do not kiss and tell is still a pretty much valid , valuable, and well known rule,- that a guy chooses to not apply it , IMO says more about his yob mentality, than about his "right" to dispose of it .
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2015): why is it so bad unless it was a naked picture.Dont you know that even walls talk....just be assertive..if you choose sex with him,he will talk.If you marry him he will probably pay for the wedding and one day you will pay for the funeral, but if you just want secret, occassional sex then thats what it is , jst fwb,but how far do your feelings of coupledom go..would you enjoy a holiday abroad or are you nowhere near thirty and we should be cutting your age in half and multiplying his by four..that would change my attitude about it to a whole different level.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2015): He's boasting and bragging, as men do. You can react however you like, butactually ggiven you are not together, you don't really have a right to tell him what's ok or not regarding this- u must see that right? I suggest you either don't sleep with him again if he isn't willing to tell you he isn't going to not boast, as he can do as he pleases really here can't he? Same as u can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2015): This guy has no respect for you or your boundaries. You had sex with him but you're ashamed that he's old??? Both of you are being shallow in your own ways.
But he has no rights to go around telling everyone without your permission, especially showing your picture. That's ultra cheap and shallow. Stop sleeping with a man who looks at you as a score. And you should also stop being ashamed of an older man. Have some respect for sex, even if it was casual.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (20 August 2015):
 You have to define your interaction with that guy because you can't meet up for sex, be uncommitted and walk around as though couple. He is either your BF or he is not.
If he is not your BF, then you have no business wondering what's he talking to his blokes. He can basically say anything because you two are basically nothing.
However, if he is your BF then you get to set boundaries of your relationship as in what should be revealed to others, in what manner, when, including his drinking. etc. In this case, you get to decide and have a say so.
So, go to your man and make him decide: either a committed BF or I walk. Unless you don't want him as a BF...
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (20 August 2015):
 A good comeback would be to say,"If you keep that up, I'll tell folks how small your penis is." That is going to be the end of his tall tales!
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