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writes: I've been with this guy for about 2 monthsish and the other night I lost my virginity to him. It was my choice nd I've got no regrets at all. I was just in some kind of numb pain all the way through, and wondered how many times you have sex before it starts to feel good and not hurt. xxx
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reader, Sexyteen  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 I tryed having sex with my boyfriend 2 years ago and it hurt to bad we didnt continue. I just had sex for the first real time the other night and it hurt for there first 5 seconds and then I didnt feel anything. I would rather not feel anything then it hurt. Just give it time, maybe your not ready emotional, it effects how your body works. so think about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): I recently lost my virginity,and it hurt, but not as much as i thought!! I've done it a few more times now, and it still hurts when he first goes in, but after that it feels fine, not really pleasurable, but nice enough :D I will just be glad when it never hurts again :P
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): i have had sex about 5 times now and it still hurts for me... but its only at first now its not all the way through so just keep doing it and maybe it will start to feel better
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Well when i first lost my virginity , It didn't hurt as much as i thought it would , it started feeling good for me the same time but a little bit after . The third time for me was the best , was when it started feeling good. Keep in mind that all women / girl's are different =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): Im alittle embarass about it but Im having the same problem. I have had sex a few times but I didnt enjoy it at all. The only thing that made it worth my will was being close to my bf. I hope it gets better and i wish you the best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): yea , so sex huh i am 21 and had sex 4 times ina day already
it is so much fun. i even did a double with two guys and it hurt a lot and i MEAN A LOT it kills the first ime but now i have sex 24/7 i swear i love sex, and i alwasy will, i have it every night it's fun now and inserting the penis in your vagina is the part where you feel real tight and weird but tell your boyfriend not to puch so hard at first, but i alwsy say PUCH HARDER, it is so good i love to have sex: i can insert two penises in my vagins it hurts but it feels good, and i dont care about protection, it is about the fun... if you want to have sex with me call em at 604-598-341 please i need sex!!!
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reader, helpplease! +, writes (28 August 2007):
i feel the same way.sex is so boring for me.sometimes it hurts, other times i just feel nothing.hopefully someday itll get better.i guess just keep trying untill it feels better and your comfortable with it.thats what im doing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2007): I am wondering the same thing \= I've had sex twice and it still hurts extremely bad. Actually, it hurt worse the second time. After the fifth/sixth time or so it should start to feel good though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2006): it feels good when you are half way through and ypu are both horny
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reader, amyz +, writes (3 February 2006):
Hmmm it still is sooooo boring to me. I mean it's nice being near my bf and all but it doesnt feel good to me, it hurts sometimes, but other than that it's boring to me. Maybe it'll be better for u, as someone said have fun trying!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2005): lolololol....i was rofl at your question....I've been having sex for 27 years since I was 13 years old and i'm still wondering the same thing...when will sex feel good....I believe sex is for men...at least they make it that way ....
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2005): I found it took having sex about 3 times for there to be no pain....however the third time included foreplay and arousing each other...then it just slid in amazingly lol. Some friends have said that sex never hurt them... but i have my doubts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2005): I found that losing my virginity was insanely painful, and I couldn't bear to have sex again until at least a month afterwards! The second time I had sex, I wasn't so scared, and so I let my boyfriend arouse me properly beforehand, and it was a bit better, but it took several tries before it stopped hurting. And then evenually it got so good we were having sex about 5 times a day :D
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reader, carn1x +, writes (17 November 2005):
Im reluctant to say this but this is how it was with my last girlfriend. She had only had sex 3 times, however spaced out over a year previous, and when we started having sex we did it quite alot. The first time was very strange, even i was numb and neither of us enjoyed it much, probably nerves, but after this is got better and bette, bit by bit. Eventually we stopped using condoms and she went onto the pill and she absolutely hates condoms. I suppose it is possible that some women simply hate condoms from the start and but just odn't realise because they have little to compare to? I know our sex life definitely got a lot more exciting without the element of condoms. Perhaps it was the excitement of going to the next level, or the fact that having to pause for a minute in amongst lovemaking just to unwrap and rollon can be a mild mood killer. This isn't to say my girlfriend didn't enjoy sex with a condom, but in comparison she says theres such an improvement. We used condoms for atleast 3 months i think and we had sex about 2-3 times and it was definitely enjoyable. I think you simply need to keep going with using condoms, i think nerves are a huge factor the first few times!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2005): it didn't start to feel good to me for a long time, probably 20+ times. i was starting to think that it never would! it just took me a long time to get comfortable with it and know how to make it feel good, i guess. i agree with the answers above- it's probably different for everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2005): its normal for it to feel numb all the way through and it takes about 2-3 times for it to stop hurting just make sure he's still careful and doesnt push too hard during those 2-3 time you have sex with him oh yeah and i recomend that you try and get on the pill as fast as you can
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (15 November 2005):
 This all depends on a number of factors such as how understanding and considerate of your needs is your partner, how relaxed you are, emotional matters such as whether you are really ready for an intimate relationship, etc, etc.
Physically speaking, because you were a virgin, some discomfort and even pain can be expected. This will indeed lessen in time, the more that you do it, but being very aroused and relaxed will enhance the experience for you.
Try to think about what you find arousing and experiment on your own through means of masturbation and fantasy. What really turns you on? Once you know this, you can implement it into your love-making with your partner.
Guide him to the areas you find arousing and make sure there is sufficient foreplay so that when intercourse takes place, you don't find it to be uncomfortable.
As time goes by, you will find any discomfort will be reduced but do work with your partner to enjoy the experience more and try to keep the communication channels open with him.
I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2005): Your question made me smile because i dont think anyone will be able to give you an honest answer, everbody is different so it could be next time you have sex it will feel great or it could be after the next 5 times. Im sure if you and your boyfriend take it slow and are considerate of each other and make sure the other party is comfortable with whats happening then the sex will start to get better. It can take a while to feel totaly at ease i spose and really get into it but im sure your have fun trying! x
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reader, Belle +, writes (15 November 2005):
Only when you start to feel comfortable and relaxed about what you are doing generally!!!
You maybe need to spend some more time 'warming up' and feeling relaxed with touching each other!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2005): It will hurt at least two-three times, after that, it will feel good. But when it feels GREAT is the when you orgasm, after that, you will want it ALL THE DAM TIME.
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