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When do I know when he wants to become official? What are the signs?

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Question - (25 March 2014) 2 Answers - (Newest, 28 March 2014)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *ebeccaa writes:

I need some help haha.

I have been seeing a guy for some time now, we constantly text all the time, and we have also spent some time together. I asked a couple of weeks ago what was happening between us, he told me he wanted a relationship however after experiancing to cheaters he wanted to take things a little slower so he can really build up his trust for me before, which I think is pretty fair.

Anyway after that we met up again, but this time I met two of his friends, his dad and sister. He also took me past his Nannas house and said he will take me there one day.

I also heard him telling one of his friends how perfect I was for him, and he has established he doesn't want me seeing anyone else.

So I have no idea what is happening now.

When do I know when he wants to become official? Or do I just take each day as it comes? I spoke to my older cousin and she said I've met his family, hes talking about tjr future, he's said he doesn't want me seeing anyone else so basically that just says it all.

I don't want to ask him again what is happening because I dont want to push it and I don't want to pressure him.

Has anyone got any idea what is going on and what I should do next?

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A female reader, Marilissa75 United States +, writes (28 March 2014):

Marilissa75 agony auntGive him some time and give him his space if you sense he needs it. It should become clear within a couple of months. If he is still wishy washy after you have been dating for a few months, I'd recommend having a conversation about it and if he is noncommittal, take a break from the relationship. Men will do what they can get away with (anyone will). It is a positive sign you've met family and friends. It is understandable he wants to wait but if he wants to be a couple, he will be a couple with you. If he is just trying to keep you off of the dating market so he has exclusive rights and does not want to commit and you put up with it, it will not change. Give it a couple of months and then get clarity if he does not ask you to be his girlfriend by then.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (26 March 2014):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntIt becomes official when you say to him: "Say, (his name here), are we an ITEM, or WHAT????"

If he says, "Of course," then you are an item and it's official. If he says, "I'm sorry, do I know you?" then you know that it's not official....

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