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What's the real reason my boyfriend doesn't want me to get out of the Navy?

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Question - (29 August 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 30 August 2011)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

this is a situation me and my boyfriend are going through: we've been together off and on since march 2010. i got pregnant by another guy while we were broken up and just had the baby. i'm in the navy and i don't think it's for me. i live in virginia with my boyfriend and i would like to get out on a hardship discharge, due to having my son. i served 2 years in the navy and i'm not entitled to the G.I. bill, unless i stay in for one more year. i wanna move back to illinois to go to school using the grant offered from illinois for military since i will not be able to use the G.I. bill. but my boyfriend would rather me stay in for one more year to get the G.I. bill. the problem with that is, if i don't get out now, i won't be able to get out for another 4 years. he doesn't want to live in illinois at all. but he's been by my side the whole time.

any suggestions, referrals, or guidance in this situation?

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (30 August 2011):

chigirl agony auntDo what is best for YOU and your baby. Your boyfriend is your boyfriend, on and off. He's isn't the father of the child, nor is he your husband, nor has he been a steady boyfriend all through the years. My point is, you can't count on him to be there for you. Time will show if he can be there for you, but the current experience with him is that your relationship might very well continue as an on and off affair. Which means the relationship isn't a solid factor. Your life and future however is solid, you know you'll be stuck with yourself no matter what, and you know you will be with your child no matter what. You don't know if you will be with your boyfriend no matter what.

So, he doesn't get a say in it, and you shouldn't factor his desires into what you plan to do with YOUR life. You can't count on him. What if you do what HE prefers, only to have him leave you before you come back home? Be accountable for your own decisions in life, do not let someone else, who can up and leave you at any time, make the important decisions for you!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2011):

You do what you think is best for you and your child. All he has is an opinion and a preference and he can walk away at any time. You have a young child to support.

If your boyfriend wants the G.I. bill so badly have him join the military.

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