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writes:i "went out" with a guy for 4 months. only ..we weren't actually going out. you see, his mother doesn't allow him to go anywhere and keeps him locked inside the house. he just turned 16 like a little while ago..and nothing has changed still. anyway...he was my first real "boyfriend." Yet the only way i got to see him was in school..and like..twice..outside of school i think. (we accidentally met up). he's very immature. he wanted me to change everything about myself...so that when he IS able to go outside his house, we'll be able to be 'the perfect couple.' i had a feeling he was using me. so i broke up with him after the first two months. a week later, cause i missed him so much, i took the immature jerk back. all we ever got to do was make out in school. there were several occasions where he stuck his hand down my pants in the hallway..when nobody was looking. but he got a slap to the face momentarily after. during our..fake relationship, he'd hold my hand ..and in the midst of holding my hand, he'd kiss passing girls on the cheek (greetings...) i thought it was rather odd that he did that, but assumed it was a cultural latin thing so i let it go. it was after that ..that he cheated on me once. he kissed a freshman girl because i was away on vacation for ONE WEEK. the idiot couldn't handle himself for 1 week. i forgave him because he apologized sincerely. after i did, he went back to his pimpish ways...flirting with girls behind my back..and in front of me...(yes, the ego! the ego..) his behavior disturbed me of course. the making out continued...and here comes may. i broke up with him a week ago. apparently, he was losing interest in me..after telling that to his friends. i didnt want to get hurt in the end, so i just broke it off. he took it like a man..even though i hurt his pride quite a lot. for the first three days, he acted as if he could care less. then, the flirting started. and now, he's asking me if im sure that i made the right decision. and even that statement changes every other day..first he feels like getting back together, then he doesnt. i dont know what to say to him because ive broken up with him once already...and taken him back. i do miss him. because he's my first "boyfriend" even though it isnt really considered a relationship. school's almost over and if i did take him back..i don't knoww what the point is. so ..i cant really put this into a question..but what im trying to ask is...how do i deal with this? what do I do? he's a very immature little boy. he acts like one. he talks like one. he's an attention seeker. but i miss him. please help me out.
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reader, Emaz help  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 You always 'get over' people.....eventually
the best way to do it is not to speak to him/about him, you will eventually forget what you felt for him
I think that you just 'want' him because he's just there and you miss him, not because you really like him
Why let him use you again? and also you should NEVER let anyone change you
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reader, DiovanLestat + ♥, writes (21 May 2008):
 I don't know how to put this in a way that won't hurt...but, well. He is very immature, but, he has a right to be, his mother has been very protective .... but you are also very immature and I don't know why?
No where in your post did I see the word love, or even liking. You want him back because you "miss" him and he's your first "boyfriend" even though your not having a relationship.... I'm probably being harsh, because this is correct and admirable behaviour at this age. You should be spending time with friends, you should carry out your relationships in public or with supervision.
It's just that I don't know if you like this boy or not. I don't know if your just using him, so you can tell everybody "I've got a boyfriend." If this is the case, it could make some of his behaviour more understandable..... He might be flirting to get your interest, to show you other girls like him more than you do.
Any way, all this flirting, attention seeking, jealously, is not good. This is not the sign of a healthy relationship, frienndship or otherwise. He shouldn't be trying to change you, is this an indication of how your life would change if you ended up with him.....Him hurting you, you hurting his pride, and everyone around caught up in the drama.... I don't know. I think you two need to sit down and talk before your freindship develops into hate.
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