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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm a male virgin, and I'm not attractive at all. I've been told numerous times by woman that I'm not good looking. I did'nt have the nerve to ask any girl out high school. I've asked out 50 women in college so far. 48 of them turned me down. One gave me the rejection hotline number and the other one stood me up. I tried faking confidence. But at the end of the day, it does get to me. I haven't even been setting my sights too high. I'm always the friend, but that's it.I've tried asking out a girl just like me, based on the fact that she was very nice but she said no.I don't have handsome facial features. My own family has said that I am not handsome. I have a giant gut which I am working on getting rid of. I'm balding yet I have a hairy body. I have very bad skin and no treatments have worked so far. My eyes are too sensitive for contacts so I wear glasses. I'm a total geek. I read comic books, I play video games, and I own thousands upon thousands of dvds. Judging by who I am and my track record I am undesirable. So I have thought though it would be nice to find someone who truly cares about me and I care about them. I feel that I have to be realistic, and no woman is going to want a guy whose a older male virgin. Let alone me.I've thought about going to a prostitute just to experience but I'm not sure. Does anybody have any advice? What's a male virgin to do?
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reader, Rmonroe +, writes (24 August 2010):
Get a makeover, New Clothes. New Shoes. WAX.SHAVE. Dont be a nerd, Be loose around women dont be awkward. we hate that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): Stop putting yourself down and thinking so negatively about yourself. Girls like confidence and they like a guy who is positive to be around, not someone who is always negative and draining. I sympathize with you though, I know it can be overwhelming and upsetting when you try so much and feel like everything about you is wrong. But that's just not the case, you are far too young to be feeling so hopeless. You have PLENTY of time to change and enjoy life. Your virginity is not the issue and it's not what you should be focusing on. I know you think all the guys your age are having sex and you're missing out, but alas that's wrong. You will find MANY guys your age and much older that are still virgins, as well as girls. I completely agree with the other posters though, you need to get up off your butt and get out. You will never find anyone sitting in your house watching "thousands of dvds". I know its intimidating but its the only way. And yes you will get rejected over and over that's just life, it happens to everyone. Don't keep track and don't let it get to you, just say "oh well" and move on. If you don't like your looks just keep working on them, you say you already are and that's a great start. But looks aren't what keep a girl, your personality and how you carry yourself is what will keep a girl in the long run. Get out and find things that you enjoy doing and meet people there, focus on building friendships and not so much on finding a girl to have sex. It will happen in time.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): Get off the couch and find a gym. If you think your a geek and fat the only person that can change that is you.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 Well:
Don't keep score when the score is depressing
Women care less than you think about your facial features but they do care about what you do with what you've got and they way that you carry yourself. Everything can be dealt with:
- lose the gut
- shave the head close
- deal with the body hair somehow - there are methods
- laser treatment for the eyes?
Your skin is messed up because you spend too much time in doors playing video games and watching DVDs. Get outside under the sun and your skin will improve.
Find a hobby or pass time that gets you a little more active.
Don't go to a prostitute in your current condition or state of mind because you will leave feeling a bit disgusted with yourself. Wait until you are feeling as if you have made progress and treat it as a reward for success.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): I dont suggest going to a prostitute. I also find it hard to be believe that 50 women turned you down. If its true then you dont deserve them, someone that wants to be with you should be able to look past the physical flaws and learn to love you beacuse of your personality. My advice is to keep trying and your 1st time should be with someone that you love and they love you back. I wish you the best of luck.:]
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