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anonymous
writes:Me and my girl friend have sex like any other couple does, just problably a little bit more, but the thing is we both don't like or belive in using condoms. I don't know what to do if i get her pregnant, like i will not leave if she does i love her to much. But what should i do?
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (27 February 2008):
The only safe one I can think of is the femidom but once you have tried using one of those things I feel in no doubt you will return to the condom.
Surely if a religious view condemns a condom then it condemns all other forms of birth control too so you shouldn't be looking at any form of contraception if you are allowing your religion to take such a preferance in your life.
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reader, Collaroy  + ♥, writes (27 February 2008):
 I wonder if it really is both of you who don't like condoms or just really you ( I have never slept with a girl who has a problem with them ).
If its for religious reasons then you are already committing a sin by having sex before marriage - so that reasoning simply doesnt fly my friend.
I suggest at your age you get used to using condoms as you are going to have to use them for many a year yet my friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): The contraceptive pill is the next alternative, but the way you are going there could already be a baby on the way.Be aware and careful. It is ok saying you love her even if she does fall pregnant but no one wants a child that young, it is bloody hard work and your life just comes to a halt! Have kids when you are older and good and ready. Its either condoms or the pill.
take care
xx
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (27 February 2008):
 Birth control pills are the most effective prevention against unintended pregnancy, but offer no safety against sexually transmitted disease. If both of you are monogamous and disease-free, the pill is still not foolproof, but remains the best method. At your age, you would be wisest to stick with mutual masturbation and/or oral satisfaction for awhile.
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reader, red1982 +, writes (27 February 2008):
If you don't believe in condoms for religious reasons then there is only really the one option which is not having sex when your girlfriend is ovulating as Annalissa
If it's just that you don't like them then there are loads of options. Your girlfriend would be best talking to a dr or nurse about the different types of contraception on offer, most people choose the contraceptive pill, but more long term options are available such as the coil, implant and the contraceptive injection. This would also mean that she does not need to worry about forgetting to take the pill, or becoming ill and the pill being ineffective. And most forms of contraceptive are as effective (if not more so) as the condom.
But make sure that you are both tested for STD's before you stop using condoms, just in case. Some of them have no symptoms (such as Chlamydia) and are very common now.
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reader, Sandman + ♥, writes (27 February 2008):
 I'm gonna have to go with "guillaume" on this one. You might have heard or may hear of other methods but at 16, do you really want to risk it? It's bad enough that condoms aren't even 100%. Not using them will certainly decrease the effectiveness of not getting your girlfriend pregnant OR contracting STI's.
What is it about condoms you don't "believe"?
Trust me, you've got many years ahead of you to experience lovemaking without condoms when you married and all that. Just wait dude. Don't rock the boat. Rocking the boat will do one of two things; tip over or bring on water causing it to sink.
Hope this helps.
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reader, Annalisa + ♥, writes (27 February 2008):
 Condoms are important to protect you from STIs, but if you are close, there's no reason why you shouldn't both get checked. If you are both clear of infections and your concirn is just pregnancy, she could get advice about contraception from her gp. Most women go on the pill, unless religious views get in their way.
Religious or not, however, many women would rather go natural, as the pill can have side effects and frankly, no method of contraception is 100% effective!
Look up the Billings Method on the Net. It involves both of you going to see an expert teacher who will teach you how to recognise whether your girlfriend is ovulating, by recognising changes in her discharge.
It's quite effective, because you just don't have intercourse during the ovulation period!
God bless you both and good luck!
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reader, guillaume + ♥, writes (27 February 2008):
 Hi,
There is no alternative to condoms. You are playing with fire here. If you continue with unprotected sex, then you will make your girlfriend pregnant. You may hear of other alternatives, but this is like russian roulette.
Please be careful!!!!
best wishes, G.
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