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writes:Hello, i am a bit confused and i would like some advice.I have noticed a change in a female i recently met at a party about 8 months ago.because she lives quite a bit from me, we have been communicating more on the phone and on line.However, i noticed that she's been a bit distant from me these past 3 or 4 weeks, which is around the same time i stopped flirting with different girls on twitter. I never saw her flirting with other guys, she just chats with a few girlfriends. Now you would think that a girl would be flattered when she sees a guy changing certain things about himself just to show he has taken a liking for her.I dont want to question her about that because if i am wrong, then i would seem arrogant and i'm not.But yes, i stopped flirting because i started to like her. And she knows this as i told her so and she seemed touched by it in what i thought was a good way.she always appreciates my compliments, never told me to stop sending her "XOXO's" and "3" hearts on her Facebook wall, i've pretty much made it obvious by week 3 that i was into her. can anyone tell me what they think went wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@so very confused. well put, duly noted. i'll keep you updated. thnks.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 September 2013):
 So you have not told her how you feel you just assumed she stalks you and noticed you have made changes? Do you think she’s a mind reader?
Are you guys close enough to visit on weekends? If so make that happen a few times and see how it goes…
there is no sense in just making assumptions... and living your life online is foolish and just lets you hide from real interaction.
how about you two stop communicating on twitter and facebook and start making phone calls?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 September 2013):
 Did you tell her you like her, or did you tell her you like her therefore you stopped talking to other girls? That's a big difference.
Does she check your twitter? I assume you told her because how else would she know you changed your habit for her?
I don't think that's a flattery at all. She may like your attention but doesn't consider you a boyfriend. The way you wrote it it sounds like not talking to other girls is a great achievement, and that she should be overjoyed that she stood out amongst many girls in line. You probably did not intend to sound arrogant but she may feel that you are playing the role of Bachelor (the reality TV series) and that one girl (her) stood out and won. Kind of degrading, putting you in the up position, and she, just one of the many girls. It may have been better if you just told her what you like about her and leave the other girls out of the subject.
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