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41-50,
*lairyfairy
writes:Who would u choose? A man whos reilable.honest.could trust 100 percent. Caring. Sensitive and shy. But you dont quite fancy them totally like u dont wanna rip their clothes off! Or a man whos gorgeous. Fit body.you just sit there thinking oh my god your so sexy. A charmer. Know the right things to say.makes u laugh. But doesnt treat u very well. Lets u down so unreliable. Is a jack the lad kind of man. But you just fancy the pants of him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): Dear lady
Keep looking for Ideal but it is not sure u will get that.
i feel it is you who make your life happy or complicated and sad. Not any one else.
if you want to be happy, you will need to find your limits of self containment and rest u will need to leave to God.
otherwise you will keep your self after your dreams and fancies and at the end you have nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2010): There's someone inbetween the two for everyone, and when you find them you know about it. Not necessarily when your looking for them either.. one day you could bump into that guy you cant get out of your head cause he's so gorgeous and by getting to know him you will realise hes everything you want in a guy, caring, trustworthy, sensitive and at the same time knows what to say to make you laugh. Trust me, there are men out there with all of those qualities out there!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 February 2010):
Neither man. Somewhere the will be a guy who is nice and caring and makes you want to rip his clothes off. Keep looking.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (28 February 2010):
 Neither!
There is such thing as a man who treats you right and you fancy the pants of him! So dont settle for either - you will never be happy with either of these men and will always feel you are lacking something in your relationship.
So dont give up and settle for either of these guys - wait until you find the right guy who is a perfect combination of both. I know it seems like an impossible task, but these men do exist! Someone who makes you laugh, someone who is gorgeous, someone who is caring and treats you with respect.
You just havent met the right guy yet, so dont fool yourself into thinking 1 of these guys will do because you will end up resenting them for what they lack. With the good-looking guy, you will enjoy the sex and will enjoy his company but will feel worthless if he doesnt treat you right, the way you deserve to be treated. He will only hurt you and you will feel stupid for even falling for a guy who you knew from the start was a bit of a 'jack the lad'. Whereas with the other guy, you will love the way he treats you but will look at him and wish that you felt more for him - after all you cannot force yourself to feel something for a man just because he treats you well. That spark has to be there in the first place!
So I think you are best just to end things with both guys and wait for the right guy to come along, dont waste any time with either of these guys because they are not right for you.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (28 February 2010):
 Well, it'd be nice to have a guy who has a balance of these two things, but its not quite possible...
I won't tell you who to "chose." But, I will say that though you may not be extremely physically attracted to someone at first, that can change as you fall more in love with their personality. You can be in total lust with one person, and want them like nothing else, but in the end, sex isn't everything and you may fall out of the attraction because besides the good looks, there's nothing to them. If they're not treating you well, soon the resentment will start, and that leads the hatred. Pardon the expression, but in time, it may come to be like having sex with air. Personally, I'd choose the first.
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reader, AskAbi +, writes (28 February 2010):
 Hello (:
Well i think i speak for most woman when i say this but we have alll been in this situation once in our life.. if they havent already they are bound too!
I myself have and i chose the good looking one, totaly drop dead gorgeous but it didnt last... because he just wasnt right for my personality.... and i think thats the most important thing of all, someone you can relate too, tell everything about and have fun with!
Even if you are not sexually attracted to this reliable guy, i think in time maybe this will happen... but the most important thing is that you are both happy... and if your with someone who isnt reliable then the chances are you will end up feeling down because of this and this is how relatinships end!
Only you can decide this
But i hope this was very helpful (:
Best wishes..
AskAbi
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