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What to wear when having sex for the first time...?

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Question - (2 February 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 3 February 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

hello! as im sure you know, its valentines day coming up and me and my partner will be having sex for the first time! i know i want to do it so please dont tell me to make sure im ready as ive already been through all of this in my head and i am definitely 100% sure! my question isnt actually about the sex at all. its about the preparation, if you like! i want it to be as enjoyable for him as it can be, and although i love and trust him with my body more than anyone else, im not completely comfortable with my body and i dont think i ever will be completely confident. so im a bit unsure of what to wear? ill be going round his on for a nice romantic evening anyway, so ill just be dressed normally, but underwear wise, do i wear something sexy? or should i just wear frenchies, thongs etc..? i dont want to ask what hed like as i do want it to be a suprise for him and im really unsure of how to go about it. any advice appreciated!

my other question is that i will be with him all day and i know this sounds sort of disgusting but im sure its a common worry with us women.. im worried i might smell a bit down there! i would have obviously washed in the morning but we'd have been out and about doing stuff during the day and time we get to it im worried it wont be as fresh as i'd like!! so any tricks or tips on what a girl can do last minute to help with that would be brilliant!?!?!


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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2010):

don't have sex till you wear a wedding dress legally. that is my advice.

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A female reader, Not My Name Australia +, writes (2 February 2010):

Not My Name agony auntWear something that flatters your body type and looks classy. You should be able to find some web sites about cut's that suit particular bodies.

eg: no thong's on a pear shape, ... boy leg's and tanga's suit only if your slim through the hips, ... dont wear string sides or anything too low rise if you have a tummy on you, etc, etc, ...but never any granny style bog catchers - ick!

Half cup or balconette style bra's work for everyone and imo look way nicer than full cupped style.

Think classy, not cute or nasty, and I would stick to a basic non printed color,, white, or red.

If your actually staying the night, a nice little lace or silk chemise with matching knickers would do the trick to hop in to bed in.

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A female reader, Angzw Zimbabwe +, writes (2 February 2010):

keep wet wipes in your bag to freshen up your bits. And a spare pair of knickers.

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A female reader, janniepeg Canada + , writes (2 February 2010):

janniepeg agony auntWhy don't you take a shower together? Washing each other with soap can be very sexy. I have a cherry outfit (it's pink with cherry prints and two little red plastic thingies), it's a gift from my boyfriend. Your question make me think about that. Since it's your first time a cherry outfit would be perfect for you.

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (2 February 2010):

Fatherly Advice agony auntWhat you want to do is present yourself in the best possible way. I would go with white, classy not trashy. lace or satiny. Make sure the lace is soft not scratchy. Matching bra (of course).

As to your second question: Get some flushable moist towelettes, in a purse pack. Wear cotton panties all day then change into the synthetic when you make that last minute restroom break. From the receiving end I know that this will leave you fresh as a daisy.


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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010):

Your "downstairs" problem and how to be sexy can be solved by one simple expedient - go without panties and wear a short skirt! The rest is up to you....or him, when he finds out!

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