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What signs should I look for?

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Question - (13 July 2017) 3 Answers - (Newest, 14 July 2017)
A female United Kingdom age 18-21, anonymous writes:

Is it normal to look for signs that point to more than friendship? I've had this sort of thing going on with a guy I really like and we do lots of things and spend lots of time together, and there are lots of signs that it is something more but we haven't had any conversation about it. He says things like' 'when you are with your friends' instead of 'when you are with your other friends'. I don't think he has ever really referred to us as friends, but he has called me 'mate'. Do little slips like this imply interest?

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (14 July 2017):

I agree with Denizen. Guys don't tend to kid around when they really like a female. Men will try and make it as clear as possible; if they like you as more than a friend. We come right out and ask for a date; and when you hang out together, it will be called a date. He will eventually try to kiss you.

Even if he's shy, he'll do things like long gazes into your eyes, he'll touch your arm or back every chance he gets, and he'll hang around a lot. He will eventually say something to the effect he likes you and compliment your looks, your hair, and your eyes. Most will use the word friend, if that is what it is all about.

Calling a girl "mate" isn't much to go on, and not to encouraging. I guess you'll have to gather some courage and flirt more. If he isn't receptive and doesn't pickup on it. You're only "mates."

Just be sure he doesn't already have a girl he hasn't mentioned. That should have been the first thing you asked. It's also a subtle way of saying you're available. If you have and he doesn't; but still hasn't asked for a date. He's just a friend. He likes being with you, but you may not be his type.

Has he ever taken you someplace quiet, sort of romantic, just the two of you? Is it always something athletic or high energy?

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A male reader, Denizen United Kingdom +, writes (14 July 2017):

Denizen agony auntYes it's normal but what you offer isn't much to go on. Men just aren't that subtle to be frank.

What is your gut telling you? If you think it might be on then you have to help make it possible. That means taking a little risk. And if it's a 'no' then no harm done. No eggs broken - no crockery smashed.

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A female reader, Miss.Cupid United States +, writes (14 July 2017):

Miss.Cupid agony auntHave you thought about just being straight forward with him and tell him you like him?

You haven't really given much details about additional signs. But if you feel like he likes you then he probably does. When a guy likes a girl he definitely tries to make it obvious but maybe he doesnt want to push that 'friends' barrier. I say make a move and see how it goes

Good luck

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