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writes: my best friend is kind of obsessed with this guy we go to school with named ''todd'' who's a year older than us and is a sophomore. she knows practically every single thing about him: his hobbies,b-day,class schedule, middle name, everything. well, the other day she found out that ''todd'' had a girlfriend. well, she didn't know that at the time i was dating 'todd'. when she did find out she started sobbing and asking me 'how could you do this to me? you took him from me!' what should i do to make this right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto be more specific, i clearly told told her 'todd' asked me out and she said go for it. well, we've been dating for two months and after a while she really really started to like him. and i tried to tell her that i was dating him but she said i was just saying that and now she's throwing herself at him and it's making him uncomfortable. me and him have talked about it and we are in love with each other and don't want to break up. but the only way she'll forgive me is if we break up. what should i do? HELP!
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reader, Miss Karma Louise  +, writes (22 October 2008):
Well..were you seeing him before she liked him?
if you were seeing before she started the obsession thats fair enough you had him first and thats the end of it.
however,you should have let her know straight away to back off. just imagine how stupid she feels?
Good luck,
Karma x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 October 2008):
So you let her make a fool of herself chasing this guy and all the time you were dating him behind her back and laughing at her?
Or was it that you knew she really liked him already but he asked you out and you thought "meh, why not? I don't care about her getting hurt."
You are really not a very good friend and I don't think she is going to forgive you for this. I think you need to apologise to her and explain exactly why you did this to her and didn't tell her.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, francy  +, writes (22 October 2008):
my friend if you know you love him do not let your friend ruin your relationship, never. but the biggest mistake you did was not telling her that you had a ka fling going on between you guyz, knowing she loves him. for now i think you should keep things the way they are and watch their moves. do not just take any step right away.
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reader, epifanatical  +, writes (22 October 2008):
 This is a lil confusing to figure out, you say your friend likes a guy names Todd, but you were dating him. When did this dating occur? when your friend liked him? Did you do it under her nose or were you dating before she started liking him?
If its the former, well, you dont have much respect for your friend, knowing how crazy she was about him. If its the latter, then your friend shouldnt be concerned as you found him first. If it is the latter, how come you didnt TELL your friend you were dating him? and you let her find out the hard way?, sorry dear, but either way it does seem a lil disrespectful coming from a so called friend.
What can you do to set things right? Well, a sincere heart-felt apology would be a good start. and in future have a lil more consideration for your friends. Its difficult to know if she will accept it, but at least that eases your burden. Only time will tell. I wish you both all the best in getting together again, and hope you have learnt some valuable lessons. :)
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