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writes:Well I am in a wee bit of a predicament. So last Friday I met this cute girl at a party and chatted her up. I think we hit it off pretty well, I knew her friend from class. For these purposes, her name will be Sofia. The following night at another party I told one of my friends that I met Sofia, and it turns out he knew her too. He was drunk when he told me this, but he claimed he had already slept with her and her roommate and that he wishes me a lot of luck. Monday night I went to another friends birthday party and I talked to Sofia again, and things proceeded along smoothly. She invited me to her friends birthday party this Friday. Moments ago, this friend of mine walked into my room at the house (he was coming to drive one of my housemates someplace) and asked me if he had said anything to me the other night concerning Sofia. I told him he said that he gave me his support. He asked if I wanted to "fuck" this girl, I told him that eventually, yes. He then said that he has apparently been working on her for about 2 months now, and has not slept with her- they aren't in a relationship, just to be clear. I told him the rest of what he said to me when he had been drunk (that he already had slept with her) and he dismissed it as wishful thinking. He said he has not slept with her, only her roommate. I asked him if he was asking that I stay away from her or giving me the go ahead, and he didn't really give me a direct response, he just said "go for her" and walked out of the room to see the other housemate. I went down to see how he was and he was behaving pretty normally, not mad or anything. They just left, and now I am wondering, what should I do? Continue pursuing Sofia and see where it goes? Drop her and tell him she is his? I just don't know if he is being completely honest with me since his stories don't match up, and I don't know if I should just let Sofia decide, I mean, she is the one that's going to end up deciding who she ends up with right? Any advice would be appreciated. I apologize for the length. Thanks!
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reader, meltedfire13 +, writes (20 January 2010):
have you asked her about it? he could be full of it if he wants her
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 January 2010):
 Why not get to know her before you "give" her away to another guy?
Obviously he likes her, but what IF - SHE likes you?
I don't think he has slept with her either. He might want too, but really if he is talking about her like all he wants is to get into her pants, then he will try another girl fast enough. I mean that he doesn't seem to be emotionally "invested" in her at all.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 January 2010):
But she isn't his. She isn't yours yet either. She may not even be interested in this other guy. I say go for it.
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