A
female
age
16-17,
anonymous
writes:well theres this teacher who i had a really close relationship with generally, but now my parents have found out everything that we've talked about, seen the emails, the headteacher has been informed and she didnt come into school today as i dont think she could face it. im just so scared she is going to hate me now, but i have got gcses next week and il be needing revision, but shall i just ignore him or what, im so confused :( i spent all last night crying because i just so upset.many thanks, Beth Im 15 btw :) x Reply to this Question |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): I agree with all that everyone else has said: you're not in the wrong here, your teacher has taken advantage of you, and to prevent him from doing this to other pupils, it could really help to report him and bring evidence against him.
And don't let the other teachers hate you when this isnt your fault, thats very wrong of them to do so. Try not to let the whole thing stress you out too much, it'll all get better :)
xxx
A
reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe isnt my teacher nomore he wont be taking my class ever again! and he never left school!
...............................
A
female
reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (18 June 2008):
 Hiya!
Ohh Dear, What a predicament? I know this all seems to much to handle atm, but it will get better. You just gotta let things settle down a bit for the time being! It is probably for the best that you stay away from him (for now) to avoid any more trouble! I'm sure your teacher won't hate you, as you've done nothing wrong! Has he come back to school yet?
xx
...............................
A
female
reader, Tevote  + ♥, writes (15 June 2008):
Ok don't stress! And breathe. I don't think that they're going to hate you, know one can hate a person. So here's the thing, considering it's illegal for student teacher relationships if they happen to ask you because head teachers and everything can get really pokie and stuff. So tell them that you just really enjoy her company and that you consider her a friend because she reminds you of you. This is just to get you out off trouble and stuff... Just make up something that doesn't point to the fact that something was going on or anything make it plain and when they ask you be calm. Just say it's a missunderstanding. You need to think of a good plan and be prepared for anything.
She wont hate you because you've shared a good relation ship and everything so far so i'm pretty sure that she wont be mean or anything to you. And if she does stop talking to you seriously don't stress! BEcause she will come back around i'm sure that she will need a little bit of space.
ok? I don't know if that helped but I really hope it did. If you need to ask me anything else you can.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou so much!
well the emails were flirtatious and also i think, well, i know, he told me far too much stuff. he was very upset one day and just cried to me :( that still upsets me. and yesterday i ws called in by the headteacher and she basically blamed it on me, and the head of the humanties department are all singling me out which has just really upset me and mr*** walked past me yesterday wen i was crying and couldnt even look me in the eye :(
im just so upset - i dont know what to do:(
...............................
A
female
reader, Smiles  + ♥, writes (12 June 2008):
 I have dealt with this in my life a few times whislt being very involved with schools and committees etc.
I want to advise you to relax, not to worry; you have done nothing wrong; it does happen occassionally that teachers cross the line and unfortunately for them, they pay the price, as they are the adults and should know of better.
I suggest you try and forget about this and not to discuss this with your friends at school; stories can get twisted, so please keep it low key and move on.
SHould there be any future problems with this teacher regarding your marks or his behaviour, let your parents deal with it via the principal or Governing Body.
Be strong!
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): Heyaa,,
That's unfortunate. Again, you didn't actually say what was in the emails except that your teacher flirted with you.
Did you just talk to your teacher as a friend? He was possibly using you.
He might also be suspended depending on the context of the emails, as it is easy for a teacher to break the law in that sense - they are really only there to teach you, and get you good grades.
I kind of know how you feel in a different sense, and I'm taking my GCSE's too so good luck!! I know the fact he might be suspended may and probably will upset you, but you haven't done anything wrong, nothing illegal and were probably strung along or used.
Again, what do you actually feel about your teacher is it like a crush or love or w.e. the hell you feel?! I know you probably worry about him and therefore care about him at the moment, and if you get really worried possibly talk to the Head Master about it and see what's going on.
...............................
A
female
reader, birdynumnums  + ♥, writes (12 June 2008):
 Well, You didn't say what the content of the e-mails was, but if your parents were angry enough to talk to the HeadMaster, I'm sure that your teacher must have crossed the line. First off, let me make this clear to you, You didn't do anything wrong, your teacher did. They are supposed to be the responsible adult. Any teacher has to have a clear understanding that they are trusted to educate children, without crossing boundaries that are considered wrong. She should not be teaching children other things that are considered the parents responsibility to teach, like religion or sexual mores, either. If the indiscretion was one of a sexual nature directed towards you, that is illegal and wrong. I'm quite sure that your teacher knows that she is the one at fault here and has accepted responsibility for it. It isn't your fault, Hun. She would be very petty to take it out on you or your marks. If this should happen, you have grounds to question any drop in marks that you might receive from her and have your parents take it up with the Headmaster again.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell he used to email me quite a lot about how he was feeling, i used to tell him how i was feeling, he always used to flirt with me, but i didnt like this so i sent him one email to scare him off which worked as he distanced himself away from me which was what i wanted but i dont understand why he tells me what he says: such as deaths in the family, we shud go see bands together, ive been to his house and so has he, to mine. i mean, its stupid i know, i have been extremely vulnerable to everything, its just that he didnt bother coming into school today though as obviously he must be ashamed and realised what he has done or just wants to hide away from it
anything else anybody would like to know then just ask and il expand :)
Bethany
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): Wow you really got yourself into some stuff.If I was you I would not show any affection for your teacher,at least for a while or else they're going to lose their job.After a little times past over try to talk to them again and get somthing going,but Dont EMail!!Talk over the phone or somthing so you dont get caught
...............................
|
