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What should I do about my cross-dressing husband?

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Question - (2 November 2008) 29 Answers - (Newest, 14 March 2010)
A female India age 41-50, *riya5502 writes:

My husband regularly wears saree and other Indian female attires.He feels very comfortable in them.We do share saree, salwar kameez,blouse,petticoat(saya),nighties,ghagra and cholis, bras ,panties etc.In fact I always buy free size women dress, so that I can share that with my husband.We have a six year old daughter, and she is absolutely familiar with her father's dress. She in fact helps her father while he wears saree.Only when he goes to office he wears male dresses, but with my or her mom's underwear on.At house he never wear male garments.My pops-in-law and mom-in-law both are conversant with their son's dress habit.My mom-in-law also shops free size garments for me and her son.

I do not allow him to wear women's clothing when he goes out locally, but when we go for a tour, I, my daughter, and my mom-in-law generally cross dress with jeans and T-shirt, but he always wear saree or other female dresses.He loves to be called by Latha while we go for holidays.

But these fetishes didnt diminish his personality, and he is not a homosexual.He loves me and his habit doesn't come in our way of married life.

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A female reader, Bassu India +, writes (14 March 2010):

I m a male cross dressor 28 year old. I was always attracted towards girls since childhood n i ve a strong desire to become female n live with them like them. in home i was wearing my sisters chudidar salwar kameez n my moms saree secretely. But once i was cought then i told my desire to be a female. Initially they felt bad for me but later they understood my feelings n allowed me to dress like a girl. Now i always wear female dress. Wears chudidar salwar kameez saree bllouse petticot. I ve purchased many dress for me My sister is very sweet she helps in doing make up to me i share all dresses of her i ve kept my hair long n now they r just below my shoulder n i tie it in a cute ladies fashion applying clip n pin. I ve pierced my ears n nose wear ear ring. I do all house hold work n my mother is very happy with me n she considers me as her daughter n my sister introduces me to her friends as her sister. I m called by name shruthi. I don want to wear male cloths any more i hate males i want to live as female for d rest of my life. I m very happy that u ve understood ur husbands feelings n let him to become women. U make him to become more women n permanently stay in home as ur wife n enjoy life..

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010):

i liked the last answer very much. i am a man. but i love to wear women's clothes and act as female during sex with my wife. i am not gay and do not want to have it with another man. i want my wife to dress up as a man make love to me when i am dressed as a woman. she should play the male role and i can play the female role. this is my very very great desire. but it will never happen.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2010):

It is so nice to see husbands wearing saree and other ladies garments.I also wishing every husband should wear ear rings and nose studs as a sign of a married men.If we train them in cds they should be, the real house wifes for us.Me having strong inner desire of conducting my marriage as my husband(real wife) should sit as a bride wearing saree,earrings,nose studs,bangles,ornaments,anklets,chains,long hair with jasmines,and bindi in forhead and me as a groom should tie mangalyam yellow rope around his neck.I support crossdressing so that we are the bread earners and enjoy my life to the greatest extent

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A female reader, shobhana India +, writes (22 February 2010):

It is very nice. Encourage him to become total woman. Train him in all works done lady's. He can be totally transformed into nice wife.You can be bread earner and achieve goals in career. You should be lucky to have such a cooperative wife.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2010):

we women mostly want our husbands should be very obedient and carry out all our orders. This is our strong inner desire. why can not we achieve by making our husbands wear saree, salwar,get their ears, nose pierced and do all household works. We can relax and pursue our hobbies. We can become bread earners and lead family in better way.

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A male reader, sivikaar India +, writes (10 February 2010):

Hi,i want to tell u one thing,one day the girl is my friend came to my home when i was lonely seeing tv,she ask me shall we play the game on stripping the clothes and i lose the game so ihave to remove my clothes,she forced me remove my clothes and i got naked infront of her, later she gave me a saree to wear and dance like sriya(actress) and she played the role nithin(actor) and finally she sqeezed my wait,ass and my dick.

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A male reader, das India +, writes (7 January 2010):

This is true story

I met a female who used to show me lot of love, one day i happened to be invited to her house. She told me to change the dress and stay with her, but i had not carried any dress with me, she offer me a petty coat, bra, blouse and saree. I told her that I did not know to wear it. She said she can help me and within minutes she dressed me with it. She made me wear nose ring, ear ring, bangles she asked me weather i was confortable with it, i said i am comfortable by then my dresses disappeared she told me if i wanted to go i can go but i was helpless. Then she said that i am her slave and do what ever she wanted me to do. She made me do all which i cannot explain, even she made me sleep with a male and hired me to some ladies who where her friends. She used to change my dress every evening and i was with her for about a week. it was a real experience which i cannot forget in my whole life

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A female reader, sangeeta India +, writes (1 December 2009):

hi, after my marriage i come to know about my husband's desire to be a women rather then man. he wish to wear saree, sandals, bra panty etc. and live like a housewife. in start i was very confused. but after some time realize, that not allowing him will make him unhappy and it will affect our relationship. so i started to wear male dresses and he started to wear saree, salwar suit etc. at present i m working member of my family and he is househusband and a bahu for my mother-father. i drove his bike and its make him very happy. he do all the job like cleaning, brooming etc. in night he comes to me wearing saree with bra-panty and i have to remove them for sex. as i m only child of my parents its working good for us. as i am from well to do family and have a good job he don't need to do anything. sometimes he irritate me and i punish him, he feel good in that situation saying that it is part of his life and he needs to control in that way. my friend and family member also treat him just like my wife.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009):

good

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2009):

Happy to see the readers crossdressing their husbands and enjoying their life to their fullest extent and also the 5th OCT reader.

Couple can enjoy their married life within their limits and respecting each other.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009):

Ours is love marriage, and i am a crossdresser my wife known about my habit and she is also encourages me to wear sarees. She is a software engineer and i am a small job holder. she is getting 50,000, and i am getting 7,000, everyday morning at 9 we should start from house and we reach at 10. days are going we are getting irritation bcz of job timings. Because of recition i lost job and her job timings are increased. she has to reach office 9, and she reaches after 10 at night. one day my wife told me that "you dont have any job, why dont you do house work". After that lot of discussions, finally i decided to be stay-hame-husband on one condition, i told her that i will do house work with female dress only. She agreed now i am wearing saree full day, i wake up early morning at 5. first i do some exercise for 30 mts., later i cleans stove, arrange all uncleaned utenciles in sink, sweeps house, later i clean all utenciles and after that i take bath wear saree, blouse and other ornaments. Then i will start preparing food. around 8 clock all work will complete, later i arrange flowers and bathi to god and prays for 10mts. She wakes up at 8 and she brush, bath and come at 8:20 and i arrange morning break fast, she eat mean time i arrange lunch box, she leave house around 8:45, after that i cleans the dining table and check any work, at 11 clock i start washing the clothes, weekly once i wash all bed sheets, every day i clean house with wet cloth. Afternoon after a small nap i start evening work, i prepare chapati and curry for dinner, later i take bath and wear saree, bangles and other jewels, waits for my wife, it started around 15 months before now we are very much comfortable with this, now i have hair up to shoulder, so i purchase one long hair(not a wig) for braid, i braids my hair with that extra hair, and i put some jasmins and will wait for my wife. My mother,father and her mother, father also know about my dressing and staying home, they also compramised for this situation. Now if they come to our house also i am wearing sarees and doing house work, some time they combing my hair and putting flowers also, they given me some old sarees and jewels, they treat me as female. I dont have any problem in sex now my wife is pregnent 3rd month, my mother-in-law came and staying with us, and she is teaching me preparing all curries and other food items, some time she asks me to apply pain balm to her feet,i do that, she calls me with her daughter name "Lakshmi" and she is calling to my wife with my name "Raja".

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009):

His behavior is sick and perverted. If you have no problem with it, then carry on as usual.

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A male reader, manalinamrata73 India +, writes (14 June 2009):

wow if u support him its great... he will be ur slave all ur life....

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009):

my husband is also crossdresser. we are from well to do business family. my husband wanted to wear my bra and panty initialy. since my size doesn't fit him i had to gift him bra and panty set of 36" size. he used to wear them every time we had sex. he says it arouses him.

after some time he wanted to wear high heel sandals during sex. his desires to dress like woman grew more and more and one day he suggested me dress him up like a complete woman in saree. i agreed since we both love each other very much

now he wears saree with blouse specially stiched for him from my tailor. he also wears high heels, bangles,lipstick,ear rings etc

his ultimate fantasy is to wear designer saree and blouse and go to parties or shopping. he looks slightly like lara dutta when he wears saree.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009):

I think it is okay if he crossdresses sometimes. I am a middle aged man. I love to shave and wax my body, wear fake breasts, artificial vagina, hip enhancers, full make up, bra, panties, underskirt, wig, saree, blouse etc. and play the female role in bed once in a while. My desire is that my wife should also dress as a man become my husband temporarily.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009):

That's realy great. At our initial days of marriage my hubby had a fascination over nail polish and lipsticks. He even tried nail polishes on 1 or 2 nails. He stays with us as ghar jamai. Within three months I started to make him wear sarees and salwars, with nail polish, lipsticks, churiyas, bindi, sindoor, earrings, nose ring etc. I also tied payals on his feet. Now he stays as my wife, my dad-mom's daughter-in-law and my sister's sister-in-law.

I'm placed in good job, so I dont let him work. I make him do all household things and he's also happy. He looks so preety and cute that I cant stop loving him. When I come from office, he takes off my sandals and rubs my feet. He also rubs my mom's and sister's feet. Every night he comes to bed in bra and panty with all ornaments on. Trust me, I feel so delighted to see my man as my obedient wife. He knows classical dancing. So, frequently at night when he is in bra and panty, my sister tie ghungrus on his feet and we make him dance. He's just my SWEETY.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009):

I have followed the tips and crossdressed my man in a black saree from two days now he obeys me and gives me lot of fun. I am treating him has a female he is helping me a lot. I want to keep in saree for a week and free him after a few days I will crossdress him in a red saree again. later I will make it his dress when he is at home.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009):

Easy step to Crossdress men in Saree.

First with love tie his hand to the back tighly so that he will not be able to free his hand himself.

Now make remove the pant and tie a petty coat on the waist. And a panty instead of his under garment.

Keep the pant out of his reach.

Untie his hands and remove all his top cloths. He will obey you now, make him wear a bra and stuff it with cloth so that it looks like breast. Make him wear blouse of your choice preferable black or red. Now make him wear a saree in black or red. You have a crossdressed man in saree keep him in this dress for atleast a week and enjoy him as you like. From next time he will obey to crossdress him when ever you like. Try it with men all the best.

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A female reader, Mushgirl United Kingdom +, writes (6 May 2009):

Mushgirl agony auntI think that's brilliant - not only the way he is so comfortable with himself to dress how he likes, but also the fact that you and your family are all so accepting. If only more people were less bothered about what is the social norm! I have a huge admiration (and fetish, it must be said) for cross-dressing men, it must take guts of steel. Not to mention it's great to hear about someone who isn't afraid to explore all aspects of their personality.

I reckon you're doing exactly the right thing, good on ya!

I must get my fella to wear dresses a bit more often...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009):

Crossdressing in saree or half saree is to be made a hobby the female crossdresses her man in saree or half saree. The female should try to crossdress like a male it will be lot of fun. Try it you will enjoy it to the maximum

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009):

you should be happy to have an husband like this. You can ask him to wear more of davani(half saree) instead of saree. Make him do more of household work like washing of underskirts, bra etc. When he is in saree treat him as your slave. Make him do cleaning of house like sweeping moping etc. He is an asset for you as you have co-operation from your mother in law and daughter.

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A female reader, mrs seema South Africa +, writes (18 April 2009):

you should be happy thatyou have such hubby..my husband also wears such cloths & looks good...we are like close friends & can discuss about anything...and have similar taste

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A male reader, madhuri2009 India +, writes (12 April 2009):

madhuri2009 agony auntPlease encourage him . Do not conflict. He is not guy. My husband used to wear my brassier. Now I allow him to wear complete set of woman cloths , jewelry and makeup like bangle earrings.

He has become so lovable now to me that. he could not remain alone for single day. He has also change his figure to 36-30-34. Now both of us daily wears saris in the home and living as sisters. Some times we go outside, when I used to wear pant and coat and he wears saris, as my wife.

You will not believe, but some time he does not hesitate to rub my feet before going to bed also. He is my lovable daughter now a days. So please do not afraid , and love him

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009):

There is no harm in it. I advice that try to make him perfect woman, so that he can understand you properly. I would be happy if my husband would be like yours.

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A male reader, anitacd India +, writes (1 December 2008):

I am too cd from india who like to wear saree and woman jwellary secretly. can wear saree but not jwellary coz my ear isn't pierced.

your husband is lucky coz he got wife and family who understands him and help him to be what he want to be.

good luck.

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A male reader, anon_e_mouse United Kingdom +, writes (3 November 2008):

anon_e_mouse agony auntBuy him a nice dress... And get yourself some trousers :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2008):

I think that she is trying to convince herself that she's okay with it.I personally feel its a silly prank played by someone.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2008):

I don't see what the question is here...but I congratulate your open mindedness to your husband's habits

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2008):

So why the heck have you posted this question?Seems like he is a transsexual.If you don't have any problems with it then who are we to judge?I have read this question once before on Dear Cupid.Why are you posting it again?

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