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writes:I fell in love with a guy named Mike he is very attractive and he is very kind. He laid out the mat when I fell for him. He is gay....which is a really weird situation for me. He says I am the only woman he could or ever would go gay for. I don't really understand how that could be so I just wanted to be friends. He said he loved me so much and he wanted my babies.....Well, I finally got up the courage to tell him that I love him but I didn't want anything else with him. He acted fine and we hung out for the rest of the day and he acted the same as if I never said nothing....now being about 1/2 month later he acts totally different. Today I was at his house and his kitchen is very small there was 5 people in it and he said that is was to packed and someone needed to get out then he looked at me. I walked out and kept on out of the house ( I was mad) He said that if I have an attitude then I don't need to come back (which I don't understand cause I didn't slam the door or stomp or anything) I'm not sure how I should handle this Should I not talk to him anymore and hope that he realizes how much he misses me or should I say I'm sorry when I'm actually not? I am so confused and I can't stop crying. He messes with my emotions. Is he just being mean to me because he is scorned?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007): People have bad days - I know what it feels like when your house is like a train station - bloody annoying when all you want is a bit of space at the end of the day.
I think you caught him at a bad moment.
Talk to him - friendships and relationships are based on communication. Get him on his own (take him out for lunch) and let him know how you feel/felt about that day.
If that still doesn't fix it - you have no reason to keep him as a friend.
Good luck!
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (15 June 2006):
 That jerk is a cancerous growth that needs to be removed from your life. You did the right thing, and you are already stronger for it. I am encouraged that you feel better without him. Take care!
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reader, AndersAmanda +, writes (14 June 2006):
AndersAmanda is verified as being by the original poster of the question I Have taken everyones advice about mike and haven't talked to him in about a week, since i posted this question he keeps spreading rumores but i make it clear to everyone that confronts me that he is just lying. He has even went as far as telling my family bullshit lies. I am so much happier when I am not around him. Thanks for everyone's advice!!!!Amanda
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reader, Wild Thaing +, writes (13 June 2006):
This guy is a jerk - you have NOTHING to apologize for, even if you misinterpreted his intentions. Maybe he feels embarrassed about making you leave and is behaving incomprehensively now - that still does NOT excuse him or warrant any sort of apology from you. If he makes you feel like crap, then he is not worth your effort. If he is any sort of a man he will approach you for a talk; if he realizes how hurt you are he will apologize to you. After you get your apology you should lay down the boundaries of acceptable behaviour within this relationship.
If he really adores you he would not treat you this way. He's acting like a disrespectful child, and children need to be sat down and told what is unacceptable behaviour.
His loss is your gain. Don't speak to him again until he grows up and treats you with respect. Good luck, and take care.
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reader, camille  +, writes (13 June 2006):
 "He is gay....which is a really weird situation for me. He says I am the only woman he could or ever would go gay for." that didn't make sense... but I assune you mean 'go straight for'? Anyway, I want to say if he's gay his comments are irrelevant. Unless he loves you and wants you to have his babies for selfish reasons? Perhaps he was sounding you out? Maybe as a gay man he realises that if he wants children he may have to persuade a willing female to be involved. Who better than his friend who he cares for and thinks may agree if he pays her enough compliments? Hmmm, I am suspicious of his motives, otherwise, why is he being so mean? Don't contact him, he has more to lose than you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2006): sounds like emotional abuse to me. You're better off on your own.
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