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writes:What satisfaction do some guys get from sleeping with so many different women? Seriously, what satisfaction does one get from this? It really perturbs me that there are men like this out there. Men who think it's nothing to sleep with their friend's girlfriend or get it on with three different women in one night. These men objectify and condescend women. They get the girl. Always. They down right use women and throw them away when they're done. They make having sex with as many girls as possible a game, and then brag to friends about how much ass they got. I think it's disgusting, personally. Do these cocky Lotharios ever change? Do they ever grow up? Reply to this Question
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (6 July 2016):
Biological drives developed from thousands of years of evolution.
A mans most successful reproductive strategy is to impregnate many different females. That simple.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 July 2016):
 THIS IS THE BEST ANSWER
A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2016):
Idk. Why don't you ask my wife. She had sex with many, many guys before we were married (about 3 dozen) under all sorts of circumstances. An guess what...she is a woman! OMG. Me? I have had sex w maybe 10 women before we were wed.
Fast foward 20 years, she has given no reason to ever question her fidelity to me. And yet, friends around us, men and women, with many, many fewer sex partners, have cheated and destroyed their marriages.
What's my point to all this? Stop with the stereotypes - and look to the actual person sitting next to you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2016): You said "they always get the girl. Always." Think about that. Girls do just as much to make these guys exist as guys do. It takes both sides. Bottom line, what these guys are doing works. They do get girls. Their ancestors had more kids than the guys who acted more respectably. The male sluts traits have been passed on to the present day. Most girls your age **SEVERELY** overestimate how much of the male population are male sluts, though. For every one of these guys there are a bunch of others who don't act that way. And many of those other guys don't have any big respect for the male sluts. The "slutty guy gets high fives in the locker room" idea is mostly a myth that girls believe. Most guys just don't care what other guys are doing with their dicks. Being willing to screw any girl with a pulse does not impress the rest of us. Being a male slut does more to boost a guy's popularity with girls than it does with other guys. Sometimes girls don't think they are attracted to the male slut just because he has so much luck with other girls, but it usually is the real reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2016): Idk. Why don't you ask my wife. She had sex with many, many guys before we were married (about 3 dozen) under all sorts of circumstances. An guess what...she is a woman! OMG. Me? I have had sex w maybe 10 women before we were wed.
Fast foward 20 years, she has given no reason to ever question her fidelity to me. And yet, friends around us, men and women, with many, many fewer sex partners, have cheated and destroyed their marriages.
What's my point to all this? Stop with the stereotypes - and look to the actual person sitting next to you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2016): Men and women do it?Sure.But at the end of the day, MEN do it MORE.WHY?Because it's an ego boost. Because boys will be boys and it somehow seems to be acceptable for men to sleep around. A right of passage, societal norm, expectation; whereas women are judged harshly for the very same thing. Likely because women are able to rationalize better and think clearly whereas men succumb to their little head and once they do that, any rational reasoning in their big head flies out the window.Let me make it clear that NOT ALL MEN are this way. I am not addressing women here as the poster was specifically asking about men.But men who sleep around are weak. They are insecure, not confident and pathetic. They place all their worth in sexual conquests. They think they are THE MAN becuase they are able to f*ck every woman who crosses their path. What they fail to see is this makes them worthless. No woman wants a man like that. It is a guy nobody takes seriously and we all laugh about behind his back with our girlfriends. You guys do not see that, do you? Yeah, good for a shag. That is about all. And if that is good enough for a guy, then he's got problems.Too many people give it up way too easily and get hurt way too easily.It is vicious out there. Too many users. Abusers. Self worshippers. Feeding off the vulnerable, the lonely, the desperate.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (5 July 2016):
Unfortunately...A lot of women have began doing the same thing as men as well.
Sex is like the ultimate drug to a man...And like any powerful drug, the more you use it, the more you want it. They would do anything, go anywhere, and do just about anyone, to satisfy the need.
The problem has always been...women do not understand the power they have over men...If women truly understood this, men would stay where they are.
Women "ALLOW" their men to get away with stupid things like...threesomes, orgies, swinging, porn, and all kinds things that take away the attention from them, and put it somewhere else. They allow this and then say they did it because of love for their man...HUH!!! NO NO NO
When a man is focus on his woman, and knows she is his only source of pleasure...where is he going to go?? Ever heard that song "When a man loves a woman, he gives her everything he's got"
Anytime a man starts losing interest in his woman...almost always there is one base problem....ROUTINE!!! He no longer has something to chase after.
Ever see a cat with a mouse it just caught? It does not want the fun or chase to stop. It eats the mouse once it's bored, and moves on to the next thing. Cats always look bored...but move a string or laser light across the floor...give it something to focus on and chase...and watch it come to life.
Men are just like that. Instead of laser lights and strings to chase...we focus and chase after "HOPE". The hope of get in your parts. Men go to strip clubs for that basic need...HOPE. If I pay her enough, maybe...just maybe, she will let me have her for the night. The woman on stage knows this, she knows the power she has over him. She uses the very thing we focus so much on...Your body...to draw him in, and give him hope.
Why do men drop a woman and move on??? Because when a woman gives up that hope too soon, what else is there to chase??? I always tell women...3 months before any sexual contact. If he loses hope within one mouth...then there was no hope in hell that relationship was going anywhere.
In that 3 months, you drive him insane. Make his hope turn into a need, and the need into a want. Get him to want you, and he will stick around...maybe for life. Give him nothing to chase...and he will find it somewhere else.
We focus on anything sexual in nature...bras, panties, cleavage, legs in short skirts, butts, and so on...use it right, and we are yours. We will follow you all day. Ever see wild animals mating...it is the male that chases after the female. She lets him smell her, and then runs away...and the male chases until he gets her.
Only humans give it up without the chase, and expect the male to keep chasing.
There is a reason why women take longer to have an orgasm than men...You have the stamina to drive him crazy without having an orgasm. If done right...by the time you are ready and he enters you, two minutes later, both of you should be spent. If a man tried to turn you on the way you can do to us...he would need clean pants, or pass out from to much excitement. Why do you think most sexual enhancement drugs are for men to last longer? To keep up with a woman, not the other way around.
You have the power...know how to use it wisely, and you will see. :)))
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2016): Not all men are like that.I think when you truely love a woman you will not sleep with another.There is one thing though and that is a man can become bored of sex with the same woman for long time, like in long term marriages and sex becomes like a chore then the frequency becomes less.The only explanation I can give is that the man who sleeps with different women hasn,t met the one he truely loves.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (4 July 2016):
 Unfortunately, it's part biology (spread your seeds) and part social norms (the more sexual partners a man has the higher status he has among men and some women), and then you have the ones who are like kids in a candy store, they want to try EVERYTHING before they settle down.
But it is not just men who does it these days (even in the past women were promiscuous too, they just hid it better).
Now you ask if those guys ever grow up? Some do, some don't.
Now if you don't like the behavior, then never date or sleep with a guy like that. Which means.... date a guy LONG enough to know what kind of person he is. Is he a he-whore or is he a guy who wants long term relationships with ONE woman.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (4 July 2016):
I'm sorry but your post is very one sided and well I know women who do the same, go out looking to have sex with as many men as they can, they like to tease them and never call again, they get satisfaction of being able to have as many men as they like without the label, without ties and they can have as much fun as they want. It is not just men that do this, so it should not be labeled that way as it is sexist.
The thing is yes there are people out there who will use you for sex, lie and cheat. Its cruel but it is the way of the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2016): They do it because they are created like this. It tickles their ego.
But... why girls go along with it. Men would not be able to do it, if women said no. But women nowadays just agree to these kind of arrangements.. all the time. So, who to blame?
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