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*morino
writes:i'm a gay guy, aged 23 and i fell in love with this guy, aged 36. i really, genuinely love this guy and would do anything for him. however, he is the type that looks around, not only to other guys but women also. last weekend he broke up with me and i was shattered, i tried committing suicide. he told me that he is giving me another chance, but now things are totally different. not like it was in the beginning. i really love this guy, i can't imagine life without him. just the thought of not been with him makes me heartsore. please help me, what must i do????????
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reader, cherie38  +, writes (18 January 2009):
ask this man if he really loves you! if he does ask him why he broke up with you ask him if theres something that he wants from you that your not giving him talk to him its the only way you will get to the bottom of this hun! thats the thing with gay relationships nobody expresses there feelings needs wants and desires go for it ask him x
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 You need to recognize that you are responsible for your happiness, not anybody else, including him. Of course things are not going to be the same, you have attempted to control him through emotional blackmail. He is feeling manipulated and probably resents that he's been forced back into a relationship that he so clearly isn't ready for.
You need to work on your own mental health. I hope that you are seeing a psychiatrist, which if you have attempted suicide, you should be. Getting yourself to a stable place, where your happiness does not depend so deeply on another person who is essentially a guy who runs around, is your very first task. You can worry about him and relationships later.
So what must you do? You must look to your own mental health and figure out why you are making these choices.
I wish you good health and peace!
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reader, Sisyphus  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 Sweetheart, my heart melts for you, you poor thing! Being in love with a player can be torture. Personally I think if he's not going to be monogomous with you (and I doubt that he will be) then you should break up, however that's not your question.
'How do you keep a guy like this?' was your question. Ply them with sex and allow them to go off and fuck about with everyone they chose would be my suggestion. Allow them to treat you like dirt and with no respect.
Sweetheart, do you really want to do that to yourself? Do you really want a man who treats you like that? I hope not. I hope you stop slumming it with him.
Suicide is NOT the answer, I know it hurts, but you're better than that (and him). Focus on other areas of your life, become happy within yourself. When you are really happy then you will attract someone more deserving.
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