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writes:hi everyone , what is it that makes a female attractive to a male i dont mean their looks i mean like confidence but what happens if you dont have any what can help make you be more confident and other things like do they like someone funny serious its all the things that make a woman attractive what are they all thanks
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reader, girlgetsmarried  +, writes (15 February 2016):
 Confidence is the #1trait that makes any woman exponentially more attractive to a man. A woman who is confident in herself shows two characteristics that are very admirable - Self-Acceptance and Purpose.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 November 2014):
 I will say that independence is by far the most attractive thing in a woman, for most modern men. They love a woman who can go get what she wants and doesn't apologize for it. Confidence sort of also falls under this one, because confident people often do go get what they want without apologizing for it. But confidence is more like a problem-eraser, something that makes a good relationship possible to have. It's not something that attracts, it's more something that makes a man stay. Because with confidence you're not always second guessing yourself, you're not always suspicious he's flirting with someone else. With confidence you're not so scared of everything, or always moan and mope about your own life (which eats up energy). Confidence makes you BRING more to the relationship, while insecurity makes you TAKE from the relationship.
But in so far that confidence attracts? Just because men know that they will not have to deal with all the drama insecurity brings, I believe. In itself, confidence isn't necessarily sexy. Independence is sexy. Ambition is sexy. Passion is sexy. Those are things that are attractive.
"what can help make you be more confident"
Say "oh f... it" whenever a negative thought comes, and do what you wanted to anyway. Soon it becomes a habit to just go for it, and when you see that the world didn't collapse just because you showed confidence and went for it.. well, then you will start to feel more confident about it/yourself. It's called exposure, as my psychologist friend told me. That's how I try to get rid of my obsessive compulsion to always clean my kitchen (yet, weirdly enough, I can have dust bunnies fly around everywhere else). I just expose myself to dirty dishes and leave them in the sink, just to discover that the world still carries on and it actually doesn't matter. That's the same thing you need to do: make actions that you would consider normal for a confident person to do, and then you will see that you also can do it, without the world collapsing.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 November 2014):
 I think that totally depends on the guy AND the girl.
There isn't a SET formula for attraction.
Here is a list from AskMen Magazine:
http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-proven-traits-men-desire-in-women_10.html
And from a woman's perspective:
http://thesinglewomanguide.com/7-essential-things-that-men-find-attractive-about-a-woman/
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (20 November 2014):
 You are correct...The most beautiful women I have ever met are beautiful from the inside. If you can live this..."Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud; love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs; 6 love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth. Love never gives up; and its faith, hope, and patience never fail."Then you are off to a great start...Why?? because some of the key points like..Jealousy, selfishness, and so on, are things that will ruin any relationship. A woman who is slow to get angry will maintain peace in her relationship. Arguments can not happen with just one person, it takes two people.Confidence comes when you have no fear of life. You know bad things will happen, and you accept that. You know good things will happen, and you make the most of those times.Laugh...always...Life has enough troubles of it own, and you do not need to be serious about it all the time.So...what make a great person??? Someone who is humble, patient, kind, and who chooses Love over all other emotions. :) That is how I live...Is all of this tested every waking day??? Sure...but fighting for it...that's the fun part. :)
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