my BF is says am cheating on him when am not. when i go out with my girlfriends he aks me if i got chatted by other guys or did i got drunk.when am not that kind of a girl that would do that. i really like him and am falling for him but am sacred cos his behaviour is pushing me away cos he says am taking him for a mug, what should i do? ive treid to tell him is him that i want but he doesn'tt seem to believee me. please help should i break up with him? any advice would be great. thanks..x
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reader, MuffinGirl +, writes (5 February 2009):I'll be a bit dense, but if i were you i'd leave him. Why? Because he's kind of person who is not good to be with, and i don't mean just temporary, but in the future too. This MIGHT come to the physical violence or possesive behaviour and you'll feel like you're in prison. You HAVE TO have friends and going out with them and he should trust you, in other case he doesn't love you on the right way. Maybe he had some bad experiences with girls (or in family) in the past, so that's why is now so suspicious.
I'd suggest you first talk with him and tell him what you have told us, wait another week or maybe month and if his behaviour wouldn't change, leave him. You're young, you need to have fun with other people too. I'd say that a little jealousy can be healthy, but what is too much is too much. I think everyone of us need to have personal freedom and independence in relationships too. I'm sorry to say that.
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (5 February 2009):Hello,
He might be a very insecure person who wants more love and affection and attention from you. Having said that, there are weird people out there who have more serious issues - really jealous guys, stalkers, guys with trust issues, just plain aggressive guys. If he doesnt listen to anything that you say that is a big problem, watch him how he treats people around himself, how he treats his family and you of course. Is he the selfish kind? Try to observe him in various situations and keep your feelings to yourself for now, you might be falling for a complete stranger. Why I am saying this is that I used to chat to a guy online for months, almost a year, I know, thats different we only met once, BUT it took me months to realise that this guy was a nutcase! So be careful.
All the best :)
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