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writes: Help! iam 19 but have never had a boyfriend. I don't think I am unattractive but I never get any guys interested in me. This is really getting me down as I feel like I want to be in a long-term relationship. How can I attract men and get a boyfriend?
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reader, jadieb  +, writes (13 February 2007):
All the advice given so far is so true. Im 19 also and went through a phase of why wont lads like me what am i doing wrong. As soon as i started getting on with my life hanging out with my friends liking myself i met lads. It was as if my self confidence was an attractive factor.
be yourself and enjoy going out having fun and someone will come along only a matter of time
As for having a long term relationship when it is meant to be it will be let nature run its course!!!
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (13 February 2007):
To know if your with a nice guy, i guess you would have to trust him first, and WAIT before you sleep with him.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (13 February 2007):
 Attracting someone and maintaining a relationship with someone are two different things.
Basically all you need to attract someone is to flash someone a smile at the right moment, wear something that is not unflattering, pretend to be interested in what the other person has to say.
In order to maintain a relationship much more work is required. To begin with, you actually have to be interested in what your partner has to say, you need to support him and let your guard down enough to share your wonderful personality with him (not easy for some people). In short, maintaining a relationship is constant work in order to avoid getting stuck in bad habits, avoiding getting jealous when there's no reason, etc.
I'm confident you will find a good boyfriend somewhen soon. Don't worry about it too much, because like so many other things in life, love is more likely to show up when you're not looking for it. =)
By the way, I didn't have any boyfriends until I was 19 either.
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reader, moomoomoo  +, writes (13 February 2007):
 flirt with them, talk to them and have interesting conversations as if they were friends, but dont go in the friend territory.. thats my bit.. since everoyne else is telling you to be yourself i decided to give a plausible straight answer
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reader, LISAG +, writes (13 February 2007):
 No relationship with a man is ever going to make you happy. No long-term relationship is going to make you feel okay about yourself. The one single way of attacting men and getting a boyfriend is to get on with what you want out of life - indulge in your hobbies, live your life, forget about men and do what you love and amazingly men will then start coming to you! Do all the things you enjoy and concentrate on those things however insignificant they seem! If you are too bothered about never having a b/f - men will sense that and it acts as a repellent ! Weird but true. Start living your life and things will happen for you ! Never EVER revolve your life around men - this is a sure way to being lonely ! Attracting men is easy when you're confident about yourself and you have interests other than just men. Which comes from you forgetting about them and getting on with your life and interests - magically they will then start coming to you when you stop looking !!!!
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (13 February 2007):
 I have the key to that question!
BE YOURSELF!
So many times people will put on a show to impress someone they think they may like only to find out later that they are incompatible.
And don't sell yourself short. My daughter is 22 and feels she is not pretty. Let me tell you, she is a knockout and turns every young guys head she walks by.
So I would wager you are prettier than you give yourself credit for.
Anyway, just be yourself and make sure you leave the way open for him to talk to you. If he likes you it won't be long before you know for sure. Hope it goes well. Doc.
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