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What is the ideal penis size?

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Question - (30 November 2006) 71 Answers - (Newest, 12 December 2010)
A male , anonymous writes:

What do women consider to be an ideal penis size? My friend told me all women want a penis that's at least 8 inches long and 6 inches around. Is this true? I'm way below these numbers in both categories and I'm really afraid to have sex, now. Any opinions?

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A male reader, firelikehel4 United Kingdom +, writes (12 December 2010):

dude if your penis was in those proportions you'd pass out every time you got a bone on the average penis length is 5inch and about 3 1/2 inches in circunfrance and its not about size its about how you use it

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010):

If you want to know what women prefer go to an on-line adult toy store and take a look at the range of dildos sold. What's the most popular?

Do a little research and figure it out...

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010):

I'm 7 and 7 baby, just like the drink.

For those that say size doesn't matter, probably have a small penis.

And having a 9 inch dick with a 5 inch girth wont cut it boys. You gotta have the width if you want to pleasure you're lady

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2010):

Up your mine is 7and 3quarters Long and 6 and a half inches around

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2010):

im 14 years old 5''9.5 and 6.25 and 5 around....i still have more to grow buh your fine. the av is 5.4-6.25 jus work on different positions and your good.

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A female reader, tu.paloma United States +, writes (21 May 2010):

Size Does not matter most of the time, honest. My bf now is average size and i have had bigger penis' before and the guys with the bigger penis did not really leave any lasting impression. the average sized guys always performed better.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2009):

I wouldn't worry about it, because there is nothing you can do to change your size, but _plenty_ you can do -- if you divert your worry time into productive learning -- to improve how you satisfy your woman.

It's all on the Internet, just research. Learn to use your head mostly -- understanding what turns on a woman and how to tease and excite her. Take lots of time and use your hands, your tongue, your body and _whatever_ size penis you have to drive her wild.

Of course a large one feels different than a small one. But so does a skilled tongue/hand vs an unskilled one, etc. At the end of the day, she either is satisfied or she isn't and at that point doesn't care how you got her there.

I learned a lot from my last two women. First I learned that yes, size does matter. Specifically width. Mine isn't thin -- it's about 6 inches around. But for my last girlfriend this was not enough. I couldn't bring her to orgasm and she ultimately shared that I was too small to stimulate her sufficiently. This hurt our relationship because I didn't really know what to do about it, and it undermined my confidence. We ultimately broke up (over other things).

And then, second I learned that there is a lot you can do to compensate for it. The next girl I slept with also prefers thick ones and she agreed I'm not thick. she likes closer to 7 inches girth. Her preference for large ones is key to my point here: she was telling me just this week about two guys who are great in bed and she rates their penises as nines on a ten point scale, so very large. She does like mine -- I'm probably a good 6 out of 10 on her scale -- but I'm not her ideal fat girth. BUT NOW HERE'S THE KEY: she taught me all sorts of secrets that similarly sized men had used with her to make her feel great. So even with a woman that loves size, as long as a guy knows how to satisfy her she is happy.

And that's what I'm telling you. Don't worry about size. You've got your own tools that can make a woman feel great. Just learn how to use them.

Good luck!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009):

I think as a general rule, whatever measurement a guy gives for his penis then you should probably take off about an inch. I think a lot of women who say they have had an 8 or 9 inch penis will most likely have been enjoying a 7 to 8 inch penis at the most. Having a penis longer than 8" is actually much rarer than most people think, and it's purely down to guys lying about their size.

This is not good, because a lot of women will now beleive that they wont be satisfied unless they have a dick which is 7+ inches, which is complete BS because they've probably had plenty average sized dicks in them which have claimed to be bigger than they really are.

To test this theory, take out a tape measure and have a look at how big 9 inches really is. Now try and picture a dick that size..

Anyway dude, your penis size is fine. Anything between 5 and 7 inches will satisfy most women, with 6-7 inches and 5-6 inch girth being the ideal size. Smaller than 5" then you'll need to know what you're doing, and if she wants bigger than 7" then she's probably a bit of slut!

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A male reader, cockrobin United Kingdom +, writes (20 October 2009):

I've not measured myself since I was in my early 20's but the last time I measured my erect penis was a little over 8 inches in length and between 6 and 6 1/2 inches in girth (circumference). With 20+ years of sexual experience I'm confident that my penis is considerably larger than average in both length and girth but consider my size as something of a mixed blessing.

The majority of my sexual partners have been satisfied with my size but on occasion, I've had women who really didn't like the length or added girth. Women have conceded that penetration was uncomfortable while others have considered sexual intercourse with me as pretty painful.

Sex with women who have limited sexual experience has been difficult. One virgin bled for a week after intercourse which did nothing for our relationship or for my self esteem, so being well hung is not always the be-all and end-all to a happy sex life.

Its true, for some women (and I'm only talking about a small proportion) really do find extra stimulation from deeper penetration, the measuring of larger members or even finding arousal from visualizing well endowed men like myself. But again, these women are in the minority. I can only recall three partners who have really been focused on size the way that many men are. Two of the ladies in question said my size was more appropriate after childbirth. The other girl could be labeled a 'size queen' and she told me that the majority of her sexual encounters have been with men between 5 - 7 inches and that finding larger penises is far more difficult than one might imagine.

It may be of comfort to know that when women may 'say' that the ideal penis measures 8 inches in length and 6 inches in girth but how many women actually measure every penis they encounter, to statistically chart their preferences?

I've had partners in the past say my flacid penis 'must be 8 inches in length' when in reality I'm probably between 5 - 6 inches, depending on room temperature. So don't get self conscious about 'the ideal penis size'. The average 5 - 7 incher is far more common than women realize and far more comfortable too.

oscar

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009):

Your friend is wrong. _Some_ women want that, yes. But most women want something average to a little above average. Don't take my word for it, there is an article here about a study done on this precise topic: http://sexsecretsblog.com/how-long-is-the-ideal-penis/

I am actually about the size your friend mentions: 8.25x6, so I'll tell you what it's like. (A) No one has run screaming when they saw it. (B) Neither has anyone orgasmed just because I'm big. No matter what size you have, you have to know what you're doing.

I _do_ think that size matters to most women, but only if it is very small or very large, and even then it is _way_ down the list of things they care about.

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A male reader, MBR98 United States +, writes (11 July 2008):

I am 21 and on a good day almost 6'', but usually a little over five. I've only ever been with two girls but neither of them have ever complained. what I once heard and still like to remind myself of, is that when it comes to measuring anything, can you really tell the difference between in inch? If something is 19 inches, without measuring many would beleive its 20. If something is 10'' someone could easily guess 11''. So if you think your small being 6 inches, dont worry because if you just tell the girl your seven, theres a great chance she'd never know the difference

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008):

If you are 4-6" when hard you are good to go for most women. For the small percentage who like bigger dicks, rock hard abs and defined chest will complement nicely.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008):

My boyfriend is well endowed and he has always found it difficult buying condoms that fit comfortably. This can be frustrating, as I don't really like condoms but had bad side effect from taking the pil – longterm. At the moment we use the Durex XXL but would appreciate any tips if anyone can suggest a supplier of larger condoms. Out of the 20 or so partners I've had my boyfriend is the biggest. I love his size, although it did take come getting used to. He measures 8.5" in length and over 6.25" in girth. I measured him and I know he liked it. The strange thing is even though he knows how to pleasure with what he has me he tells me he would prefer to to be a little larger. May be this is a guy thing. Never being satisfied with what they have.

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A female reader, Cherriepie United States +, writes (26 January 2008):

Cherriepie agony auntHi Hunny...i want to put in my two or three cents here. I do like guys with bigger dicks. my boyfrind is 9 inches and very thick, and hes perfect for me. not only is he big...he does know how to use it! It hurts when we fuck and he first goes in deep, but that soon passes and its so good after that. i have had smaller guys...i mean regular sized guys, and they can do the trick, but im more turned on by bigger dicks. im just telling the truth. Ive had sex with a lot of big guys and maybe the perfomance was lacking but the size did make up for it. any big guy can make me orgasm without trying hard, and thats all that matters.

another thing...ive never had a real good quickie with a smaller guy, but a guy with a bog tool can always get me flowing fast.

i thnk that for me the minimum would be 7 inches. if i go smaller than that he better make up for it with some good foreplay. i dont stand around with tape measure when i hook up with a guy, but i know whats big enough when i see it...or feel it. a couple of times ive been guilty of making guys hard when i meet them in clubs, jst to see if he has what it takes (why do you thnk we like to grind you when we dance...thats one way of seeing if you measure up!)

this is just my opinion but size does matter!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007):

No your fine. The average penis size is 5.5 to 6.5 inches for a grown man.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2007):

Is funny how when asked of their penis size guys tend to exagerate, 8 - 9 inches and is funny how women when asked of an ideal penis size they also say 8 -9 inches.

Ironically enough the average penis length measured by professioals under medical procedures is around 6 inches, some can be more some can be less.

Of course there are men who have penises that are larger than average and also smaller than average, however the very big or very small are exceptions to the rule.

I am a man whose penis is 6.75 inches long and 5.25 inches girth, and personally have received complements of having a good-sized and good looking penis.

Bottom line is that an ideal penis should be something closer to reality to what a human penis really measures, something not to big not to small.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007):

i am 17 years old and my penis is about 6 1/4 inches long, im not sure about the grith.I have had many sexual partners and Many of my partners have told me my penis is the perfect size. ive never had any complaints. Most of these chicks could even take all of it, i had to go little by little. so guys out there with smaller penises dont worry just think of it this way "ITS NOT THE SIZE OF THE BOAT, ITS THE MOTION IN THE OCEAN" and if you are really small just use your toung... girls love it

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007):

Hey, man. Don't even worry about it. The average penis is around 5.5" long. That's the fact based on the most highly-accepted studies in the sexual field. I don't recall the average girth, but it's nowhere near 6".

Don't worry about being able to pleasure a woman. Honestly, I'm 6" long and I made a girl (non-virgin) orgasm when I lost my virginity. With ZERO experience. You'll be okay, don't sweat it.

Also, don't listen to these other posters. Women don't think 8" is average, they won't have problems with a 5" penis, and none of the people on this board are 11.5" long. Not even the guy that said he was. Seriously, less than 1% of men are over 8". That's from the same study as above.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007):

Hey, man. Don't even worry about it. The average penis is around 5.5" long. That's the fact based on the most highly-accepted studies in the sexual field. I don't recall the average girth, but it's nowhere near 6".

Don't worry about being able to pleasure a woman. Honestly, I'm 6" long and I made a girl (non-virgin) orgasm when I lost my virginity. With ZERO experience. You'll be okay, don't sweat it.

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A female reader, penta United States +, writes (20 September 2007):

penta agony aunt6 inches around? Yeouch! Keep that thing away from me...

It really matters more how he uses it. There is no perfect size.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007):

I am 20 years old I am 5'11'' and have a penis size of 6.25 inches, I have had a girlfriend for the part year and a half or so and am just nervious to break up with her because i am afraid that my penis is so small for other girls, even though i have been with a few girls who have said its huge because its rather thick, my gf right now has made fun of the size of my penis so i am all thrown off and dont know what to do

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007):

Well im 16-years old from Georgia and I can say that I really do have a perfect size. Im 7 1/2 inches and about 5 1/2 around.But fellas come on if youre 4 inches and a good lil bit around,can stroke em good enough, kiss em and talk good to em,you good to go.Think about this tho, when you and a lot of friends just all wanna have sex together,say a 4 on 4 or 5 on 5 and the one who stick bottles in them wont get pleasure because she too big,then she will be jealouse because the other girls will be moaning in delight and pleasure while she looking stupid.and she will regret doing that, if you be real the girls who do it now most of them regret stickin bottles in them. but lemme tell you this have fun with it, a virgin girl will moan off 3 inches *note(if used properly)so there's hope for you three inchers. but if you are my size (not bragging) then women, not girls, women think that is a way to perfect size so have fun (men never loose hope there are women out there for every man)look up not down.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007):

i just turned 15 and have had erections ranging from 6.5 to 9 i have never measured girth but i would say its medium thick and i have had no complaints so far besides scientist say the most pleasurable part of the vagina is 4 inches in so most any dude has the tools

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007):

ive talked to my wife about enlarging my penis and she replied that if i did she would leave me because theres nothing wrong with my size and im just 5.5x4.5.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007):

It seems to me you are not asking the only question that needs to be asked. I have had 30+ sexual partners and have to say that 70% of those women did not do it for me. I am around 7 1/2 inches but not very thick (Dont know numbers) but have had women who as has been suggested in other posts positively scared of me but also had many women who seem frustrated by lack of girth. This has been with women from 18 to 35 and it aint only the 18 year olds that have been awed. I think it is more about finding someone who fits you cause if she fits snug to you you are going to give her the time of her life and also avoid the frustrating times where you can question yourself dont get down on yourself and keep looking for the perfect woman

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007):

I am a 13 yro black guy and my penis is 6 1/2 iches long. is that small. I worry cuz everybody says a black guy has to be huge and im afraid i wont measure to that.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2007):

I have a penis of 11.5 inches long and 6.8 inches thick. Yea i have scared some lovely ladies in my time. The lady im with now loves it. She comes around 15 times on average because she says my thickness pushes directly on her clit and g-spot at same time and the length stimulates her T-spot.

She comes for about 2 minutes each times, but once she came for 30 minutes which blew me away?? Didnt realize that shit could happen :) On occasions when i pull out cause i need 2 blow, instead of gushing orgasm on my penis she shoots orgasm all over the bed. About half a litre and they seem really intense.. her whole body spasms. She said she could never reach this pleasure with any size samller in the past? So i guess for some women they love a huge cock but for others its too much. But if ya stretch em slowly and warm em up slowly like 1 hour of fingering and then 1 hour of gentle fucking with the head then the next hour you can really plunge all of it in. I love women who scream in pleasure during sex.. it gets me rockin. lol

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007):

Im 14 and my penis is 7 1/2 inches long and im not finished growing will my penis hurt a woman in the future?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007):

hey mine's only six and a quarter inches long and 4 and a quarter around but it depends on the girl and how much sex they've had....cause my first was a girl that had only had sex a few times and when I had sex with her it hurt her for me to go deep even after we'd had sex 10-15 times so I think it takes a woman over like 25 with a lot of sexual experience to need a giant dick

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A male reader, SupaFreak United States +, writes (29 June 2007):

Mine is 6 1/2 by 6 inch thick and i love mine. I wouldn't even wanna be 9 inch because I love it going in all the way and I love being able to bang it up in all positions. I never had complaints. I'm not the biggest but still have reach and thickness. Yes we are bombarded with 10 inch sluggers in porn movies. But half the time you see the woman trying to keep the guy from hurting her. And how much goes in anyway? 6-7 inches at the most.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2007):

no.im 22 and had sex many times.girls always said i have the perfect size gives the right amount of plesure..im 7 and half inches long and 3 and half inches in girth and i love my lenght

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007):

One thing that is strange as far as penis size goes (and I'm not sure if any research has been done on the subject), is that the general male poplulation averages out at around 5 inches in length give or take, and yet males who use the internet would appear to average around 8 - 9 inches; I wonder why this could be...?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007):

my boyfriend has an 8 inch long penis with a 5.5 inch girth and i think he is average and does not fill me as much as i am used to be filled, so it depends...

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007):

It's true that some girls will be uncomfortable or hurt with a too big penis. Sensitive and considerate guys will acknowledge this and take it easy with those first thrusts. When the girl gives the right signals you can push the whole lot in. Entry from behind can reach deeper so be careful here too.

Of course the less well endowed guys can use the doggy position to get a better reach.

Girls are best pleased with fat rather than long penises.

When in doubt invite the girl to ride on top then she'll take as much as she prefers. If you're getting right in you can be fairly sure that you are not too big. The average vagina adjusts to accommodate whatever gets offered, there is no standard size for it. That way it rarely feels slack.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2007):

most of the times when u look at surveys and such for the average penis, the average length is about 6" and average width is about 5". of course there are slight deviations to that (like 1.5" to length and .5" to width), but if u ball-park it ur good.

fortunately (or unfortunately, if u wanna look at it that way...), i have a much larger penis (9.5x6.5"). and from my experience, some women absolutely love it, and some dont like it as much because it is way too big for them.

i think guys dont need to be concerned about the size of their penis. too much emphasis is put on a bigger one when its not needed. just as long as their woman (or man, if they go that way) loves them, thats all that matters.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007):

the ideal penis size is the size of your penis...

dont stress out

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2007):

I'm not the biggest dude in the world but my penis is 7 inches long and around 5 wide and I think that is plenty big because girls always seem to be amazed at how big it is and I've actually had a couple that were scared of it so trust me that 5 inches is the biggest most girls have ever had....don't worry about it dude

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2007):

Wow that is quite large being that most men are not the large. if 5-7 inches is the norm 8" is much larger that what women consider perfect.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2007):

7 inches with 5.5 around is fine by me!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2007):

i got a 7 inch dick 5.5 inches around will that be good enough??

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2007):

Love ultimately matters most. Lovemaking is an outpouring of a couples love together. Not to say that size doesn’t matter. I have been with 2 different sizes: 5 1/2 inches and 8 Inches. I actually prefer the 8 inches just on pure feeling. That doesn’t mean Idon’t love The 5 ½ inches also. Both are skilled and confident but strickly on the way it feels, the 8 is better. I guess it fills me up better.

Karen

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A female reader, kayleen United Kingdom +, writes (4 June 2007):

Just to add to my previous answer, I can't say exactly how big my new lover is. About 7 inches possibly, but he's REALLY thick. I can't close my middle finger and thumb around him! We've made love every day for nearly two weeks now and I just can't get enough.

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A female reader, kayleen United Kingdom +, writes (3 June 2007):

I've been in several relationships and have just started new one. We made love for the first time last week and he is massive. It was a bit of a shock to feel so completely filled but I loved it. I thought penis size didn't matter but have changed my mind since!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2007):

Wow! i'm glad i found this site. I'm from the south (Georgia) and there are a lot of big black guys like me doun here and DAMN! i actually thought i was average! porn does really screw your mind. My girl tell me im porn star size(7x5"),and i thought that was average? The camera really does exaggerate size. Kelly Ripa must be tiny.lol!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2007):

I've been with lots of men and prefer bigger than average myself especially thickness. Length is more of a visual turn on, but once penetrated six inches is enough

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2007):

ive always thought my penis was bordering on average, 6inch nothing special. but the first time I revealed it to a woman, she thought it was huge. this was an ego boost, and probably made me perform better. if youre confident then it makes 200% difference.

women that want big ones are usually not worth being with in the first place i reckon.

i believe porn has brainwashed men (and even women!) in believing a big penis is essential.

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A female reader, billy b United Kingdom +, writes (13 May 2007):

I think men should stop obsessing over how long in inches their "member" is, and instead find out what pleases their partner. An attentive, caring, affectionate, and non selfish lover will win hands down, compared to some clueless prat with a ten inch dong.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007):

I'm male around 5'8" average build and my penis is 5" in length and 4.5" in girth. I've never had any complaints and I've never experienced anything, such as a partner becoming disinterested, from the size of my penis. I've had 9 partners. Don't stress!

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A male reader, chino cochino United States +, writes (2 May 2007):

What is the ideal penis size??

Saddened to say this is a question that should'nt be asked. But here is my answer from experience.

For the record, I am a black male with a penis that was 6.5 inches in length and exactly 5 inches in thickness. I too worry about my penis size because I have slept with alot of women. So I know that some women like em big. Now I am fat, and I have developed a fat pouch around my pelvic bone, making my penis seem to be shorter. When it comes to length, I doubt that the majority of women can honestly say that 6 inches is a bad penis size and really mean it. Consider this fact, your father had the same size as you. SInce the majorityof penises are 6 inches, then the majority of fathers had or have 6 inches. There are alot of women that orefer a big penis. These women are women that have had sexual repeated intercourse with a big penis. Thus there vaginas adapted for something bigger. Then there women who have not been that permiscioous to find a big penis so a small 4 incher would be just fine. The answer that you are looking for is what is the ideal penis size, well there isn't an ideal penis size. It depends on the woman.And just like penises, vaginas come in different shapes and sizes as well. My first girl friend had a big ole huge vagina. So our sex was never satisfying for her. After we broke up (because she liked to tell ev1 that I had small penis) I found someone else. She had the tightes vagina that I have ever been with. Not to mention that she was a very small petite girl with a small waist. My most recent girl friend at one point in time told me that she wanted me to have a thicker penis. Things happend and she moved to away. When we started having sex again after 6 months, she was extremely tight. Also, she had been with several big penises. So what I am saying is that this ideal that you are looking for has no correct answer. There are things you can do to maximize your sexual experience. Number one, prepare your mind and (which will be hard to do because I know how we men can feel about our ability to satisfy a woman)is to quit worrying about it. You can quit worrying about it if you choose to not do it. Look for a mate that is of smaller stature. And before you get sexually serious with her, discuss it. Communication is your biggest asset in a sexual relationship. Also, research the topic. You will find several responses to this question. Some women will tell you that it is not the size but the motion...BS. That is the biggest crock of crap that have ever heard. If you put your average penis into a loose big vagina, you can move all you want to, she is going to be bored because her walls are not being stretched, meaning that she is not feeling your penis. Even some women on here has said that already. Another thing that would help is if all the women would quit feeding us this crap because they are afraid of hurting us. HINT women, we are men, we respect the truth and honesty. If you want a big penis, go find it. If he wants a tight vagina he will find it. WOW this is alot. But it is true that techinique has a major role in it. Sex is more thatn a penis and a vagina, it's a psychological and emotional bond. Some women prefer big penises because of the psychological response of feeling that he is deadly in the bed, or he is more of a man. Eventhough a big penis does not harvest any of this as being true, a big penis may be a turn on because the mind is the most powerful sex organ.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007):

you sound totally fine my BF is around 6.5inch long and not sure about girth, anyway there are some postions where it feels too big like its gonna come out my mounth or something so trust me your fine xxx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2007):

My boyfriend, has a 9 inch penis, and a girth of about 6.5 inches, and I find that pleasurable, but the first person i had sex with was only 6, and that was the best sex, I've ever had... so, don't worry.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2007):

I know all too well about worrying about your trouser snake's length, my own demons stopped me from having sex until I was in my late 20's, mainly because I was convinced that every woman wanted every man to have 3 legs (sweet Jesus, all those missed years!).

Porn has a lot to answer for here, the other penises I saw were those of male porn stars (I had to live vicariously you see), and they are hired on their ability to have a large part of their penis on show during sex for camera angles etc. Not something that usually is a major factor in relationships (well...perhaps not the actual camera angles, but I'm getting ahead of myself here).

I'd say the ability to relax and be an attentive lover is of much higher value to most women sexually speaking.

I could be wrong there - not being a woman - but if you found a woman who didn't rate those qualities, would you really want to stay with her?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007):

I know I'll probably get the same answers as everyone's been giving this guy, but is 6.75 inches and 5.5 around/girth small? I'm about 6'2" 175 pounds, 19 yr old black guy. I just get the feeling that most women expect me to be huge, but i'm not.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007):

well thank you people im a 17 year old guy with a '6 1/2 inch; penis and reading this has reassured me i am not too small and can please most girls :) thanks

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2007):

my cock is like 6in-7in long by about 5in-6in.i thought this was small but i fucked this girl for the first time in my life a month ago and she told me i had a big cock.lol i thought she was gonna laugh at me i told her before hand it's not that big lol.i fucked her for 40 mins hard and she cum twice when i fired me bolt it was like a nuke bomb going off,best feeling in the world cumming inside a woman.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2007):

I can understand where you are coming from.

During my High School days, I was so low about myself, especailly when I heard 'size matters'. No matter where you look, penis size has to be 'bigger' than the average joe. Porn pretty much shows the bigger man, even models look like they have a package on them when you see them in briefs, etc. It masturbates with your mind and women can understand this when all they see is beautiful women in their usual magazine, etc.

I practically stopped myself from having sex because of the size of my penis. I didnt feel comftable showing it because I felt like a laughing stock to the female comunity. I couldnt let anyone know during my teens, as it really would have screwed my head and overall feelings.

However, in all honesty, I am an average man in that department and once I got into my 20's, I started to accept myself and what I have.

Today, I don't care as every girl is different in what they like in a man. There are going to be girls that like a bigger penis but you will find this out before you go to bed with her anyway. However, if she is a serious person that likes you, she will judge you far more than what between your legs.

Go out there and enjoy. This may not be an answer you seek, but I just wanted to say that you are not on your own about the "issues" of our member. My advice is to accept who you are and overcome this silly debate of the size.

In the end, it means nothing, as there are many things in the world of sex than the penis-vagina penetration. I dont say this to myself to feel better, but understanding your partner's needs in the bedroom is the key, not the size of the penis.

Take care, and I hope you overcome this issue.

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A female reader, sam12345 +, writes (15 December 2006):

don't worry its not the size its how you use it think about it women can orgasm with fingers their not exactly the longest of things lol and as for the thickness as long as it touches the sides your fine lol so unless your in the rare few dat r extremely small then your fine! and even if you can't satisfy her with it toungue n fingers come in handy 2 lol don;t worry about size its all a matter of opineon and most women will be happy with what you have :) hape you feel better

xxxxxx

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (4 December 2006):

eyeswideopen agony auntHoney could you bring me the tape measure? And hold still.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006):

Well to be honest its just based on opinion but the truth is because there arent many people who arent bigger than 6 anyway most women will be glad with what you've got and technique should help you out a lot. I mean my bf is 9 - 10 inches and 5 inches around and I'm only 5ft 5 and it feels incredible but a guy smaller wouldnt suit me but thats just because ive only ever been with big guys it makes no real difference though aslong as you're gd at what you do believe me x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2006):

I would prefer my man to be 6-7.5inches rather than 8 because its not the size that matters. What matters is how well he can make her moan or how well he can work it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2006):

Don't worry, guys. I've got what you would classify as a big penis or at least above average (girlfriends have confirmed this) and I'm not near 8" long or 6" around. If that was really a women's "ideal" size then 99% of men wouldn't be getting laid. Relax and go have fun.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2006):

just a hard one will do

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006):

8x6? Ouch. 7 to 9 inches? Ouch. Can't orgasm unless it's 7 to 8 inches? She's going to dissapointed often.

I like proportional penises best. I call them the "all-around cocks." My last boyfriend was 5.5 long and 4.5 around and it was soooooo nicely sized. The worst if hes real long and very skinny or real short and very fat.

If your small just work on your technique and find out what your girl likes and what you can do to make her feel good. Don't be afraid to ask. My sister's husband makes her moan all night and most 14 year old boys are bigger down there than he is.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006):

haha know what? apparently the average is six inches.... so dont worry.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006):

"penetrates her" and not "him"... [sigh] [waves fist in air]

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006):

Yeah, 7 to 9 is pretty long. I was just thinking that myself. Then again, one of my female friends told me that she prefers a guy's penis to be at least 7 or 8 inches when he penetrates him from behind. "Better reach" she insisted. So I asked her, "What about a guy with a 6 incher?" She replied, "It's okay, but anything smaller and I can't orgasm."

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006):

I'll agree with 'martini' that a penis under 4 inches might not be too enjoyable by most women, but 7-9 inches prefered by taller women? I'm 5'8" and in your weight range and those would be way too big. Anything over 6 inches is getting into the too big range, 7 inches would be the max. I'm sure your female friends exaggerate a bit, too, as the male anon below pointed out there aren't too many penises over 8 inches long. I'm fairly certain I've had more men in the 4-5 inch range than the 6-7 inch range.

I like the way a thick penis feels, but 6 inches is WAY to big. I don't think I could even fit that in my mouth! Give me a man who's penis is about 4 inches around and I'm one happy woman! All women would be!

Don't forget, though, use your fingers and tongues, too, no matter what you've got below the belt. And don't listen to what your friend says!!

Good luck and good loving, honey!

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States + , writes (1 December 2006):

TasteofIndia agony auntOh my God, 8 inches long and 6 inches around would be positively horrifying. I would cry. Don't you worry your pretty little face. Everyone else gave you good size/dimensions for the ideal penis... I just wanted to back up that 8x6 would be horrific.

I'm sure your penis is just fine. And it's how you use it... some guys might have huge penises, but are still horrible in bed. Some guys might not be as endowed, but are God's in the bedroom. Just practice up on the other things... oral, using your hands... kissing... your "moves".

Go get 'em, tiger.

xxIndia

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006):

Well I think it's dependent on the size of the female as well as the way you use your penis. For example, if she is about 5 feet in height and she is slimmer, then a 4 to 6 inch penis would be just right. If she is closer to 6 feet and higher, some women prefer their guy's schlongs to be about 7 to 9 inches. I think anything smaller than 4 isn't too enjoyable for some women, at least for all the females I've been with or have been friends with, they complained to me about their guy being too big or too small or too thick. Most of them are 5-4 to 5-7 and weigh between 105 to 150.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2006):

No, definitely not. I'm a guy and I've worried about the size of my penis on more than a few occasions, but I would never want to be THAT huge. I like to be able to keep up a speedy pace and switch multiple positions and girls like that, too. You'd have to be super careful not to hurt her that when your that big and then sex becomes more about not hurting her than making her feel good.

If that's not enough, there are always statistics. According to the Lifestyles Condom penis size study, only 0.9% of men have penises 8' or longer and only 1.1 of men have penises 6' or fatter. So both sizes are extreme and rare and a guy having both of those sizes would be even rarer. Not to mention there has been evidence that men who have longer than average penises tend to have more slender penises. Also, condom manufacturers have stated only 6% of men buy larger sized condoms a year.

There, that should ease your jitters a bit.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2006):

Ummm, no. Your friend is obviously mistaken. If a guy pulled down his pants and an 8x6 inch dick was staring me in the face I'd politely ask him to zip back up. That's just way too big. I'd get more pain than pleasure out of that thing.

Size does matter to an extent(sorry, guys) but it goes both ways. Too big is actually worse than too small.

I think 5ish is the average length quoted and my hands on research(lol) would agree with that. Anything between 4 and 6 inches long and about, say, 4 inches in girth is perfect. Anything smaller or larger than that range could be troublesome, but if you know how to use what you've got properly you'd be OK. Most women would agree with that, at least women that I know. I'm sure there are some girls who want a massive dick like mentioned, and even some who like miniature dicks, but not many of either.

So don't be concerned or afraid of sex. I'm sure whatever you've got is big enough to make women happy and keep 'em coming back for more! Good luck!

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