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writes:What is the difference between love and hate? I know this seems so obvious but I am so sure it is. I want to hear your deepest most profound musings lolI have this friend that wears on my last nerve, and I think the feeling is mutual lol We argue a lot, we have so many communication problems its not even funny, its like we are speaking a totally different language. Yet not matter how much we fight she continues to speak with me, and I continue to talk to her and I still get excited about talking to her, she's someone I like to tell right away about things. She's someone I find myself showing off too as well, but at the same time she has certain traits I've found to be difficult to accept, she hits on a few of my biggest pet peeves, as I imagine I do for her. I know she doesn't feel the same as I do though, doesn't want the same things and so we disagree on that too, we want different things from the relationship.I can't stand her sometimes really but...I just don't know if I love her or hate her. Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlol you might be right, it seems the case with my friend
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): there is no difference what so ever! you can love someone so much you hate them for it...
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reader, Annalisa  +, writes (7 May 2008):
 They say there is a fine line between love and hate. You can love someone so much, because you might have known her for ages, and expect so much from her that when she turns out to be different from what you expect, you can't accept it and resent her for it.
True love, even in friendship, lets you accept people just as they are.
I have 2 best friends I grew up with and we have nothing in common, but we cherish our friendship and are there for each other through thick and thin. Different personalities just mean we see less of each other than we used to and compromise on what we do when we meet.
But you must learn not to judge each other upon your differences. I think you need some space from each other and to pursue your separate lives. It will be nice to catch up and compare notes. Rather than trying to impress her, live your life for yourself, the way it makes you happy. If you do everything the way you think one friend would appreciate, you risk getting old and realising you are not only alone, but also know nothing about yourself and haven't lived your life the way you wanted, only to spend your time resenting that person for it.
The only person we should answer to with our actions is God!
Good luck!
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