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writes:Hey all,I am working at a restaurant as a waiter. There is this girl that works as hostess. She is very nice and pretty. I like to ask her out but don't know how. I also don't know whether I should wait or not because I have just started working there--less than a week--and only work on weekends.What would be the dating 101 advice?thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for your awesome answers. Few things. I agree with "not dating within where you work." all the workers, except for the owner, are college students and I have got to know most of them. We all help each other and have each other's back. what I am saying is that I don't give her special attention. In fact, I help the others more because we are a team and gotta take care of the customers. Also, I absolutely don't want to be shallow.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 August 2011):
 Wait. You don't want to come off as desperate. You haven't worked there for long, and if you start by jumping the female part of the staff you will soon get a reputation.
What has already been mentioned by Monks is also good advice. Be careful with dating people you work with. If things don't work out she will talk about you to the others she works with, as she knows them better, and you will always stay the outsider.
Take things very slow if you want to go on a date with her, and do yourself a favour, dont be shallow. You only like her because she looks nice, you barely talked to her. You have no idea who she is as a person yet. Do your field work before jumping into this situation. Start talking to her first, getting to know her and everyone else who you also work with. Do not give her too much attention, she is your colleague first and foremost. If she finds the attention you give her uncomfortable you could very well get fired. So get a foot in with the boss and the other colleagues first, and find your place at work, before you attempt to flirt with any colleagues.
Find out if she's single by talking to her, do not ask someone else about her. Just ease into the workplace first and get to know everyone, and take it one step at a time. Get to know her first.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (27 August 2011):
 My dating advice would be, first of all, be very careful with dating within where you work. You say she is a hostess (I'm assuming the same place you work). If things don't work out, things can become quite awkward at work. With that in mind, I'd say it doesn't hurt to ask her out for a cup of coffee some time - you know, taking it slow - and see how it goes.
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