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What is really going on with my friend?

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Question - (31 March 2013) 1 Answers - (Newest, 1 April 2013)
A female Canada age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I met this guy a few months back through mutual friends. We after a couple of times hanging out, he asked for my phone number. Now he has become one of my good guy friends.

We text pretty much everyday. When we go out he always checks to see if I got home okay. I have also met most of his friends now. I have noticed that he is extremely outgoing and (almost) obnoxious around his friends and other girls but gets very nervous and tongue-tied around me. On one of nights out he got really drunk and revealed to me that he gets self-conscious. That same night, he was all over me and kept slapping my butt . Occasionally during text messages, he gets pretty bold and talks about the two of us having sex. But he has never really made a move sober.

Another weird thing, whenever group photos are being taken, he avoids being photographed next to me. He also is okay with us hanging out in group settings but avoids having it be the just to two of us. However, if some of the girls in the group start talking about guys (celebrities,etc) he gets super jealous.

A couple of weeks ago, I accused him of sending mixed signals, he accused me of the same thing. Then a week later, I invited him over to my place to hang out, but got no response.

I am so confused on what is really going on here!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2013):

Assume he just wants to be your friend. Assume when he drinks he is just flirting. If he wants MORE than that, let him let you know. If he wants you, he will make a move. Sounds to me like he is either still making his mind up, or he isn't free to be with you at the moment.

Get on with your life, date other guys, and WHEN/IF he makes a move by inviting you on a date.. maybe review it then. I had a man 'friend' for six months before he invited me on an official date. He wanted us to build a friendship first, and I think he was afraid of getting hurt... but when he made the moves....there was not misunderstanding or mixed signals.

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