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writes:Dear Cupid. I'm a really unhappy 17 year old girl. I feel so betrayed. My boyfriend broke up with me over a month ago and it broke my heart. He said he just wnated to be single and didn't know if he liked me much anymore. We were dating for around a year and he was my best friend. He flirted with other girls a few days later but he admitted to me later than he still loved me. We both agreed not to go out with each other again because it's not what he wanted but he still continued to either flirt with me outrageously or ignore me and pretend he felt nothing for me. I tried moving on but it was hard. Mutual friends have paries and we ended up kissing at the parties. I had a party at my house and one of my girlfriends needed a hoody to wear as we were going for a walk so my boyfriend gave her his hoody that I used to wear and told her it looked perfect on her. I was unaware of this comment until my friend told me recently and I kissed him that night. If I had heard that I would've just told him to back off from me.I was talkin to him online recently and he kept saying he misses my hugs and kisses. About an hour after syaing this he made his msn name "God, I'm sooooo nervous :S" and I asked him why that was. He wouldn't tell me but I guessed and said, "It's about another girl, isn't it?" And he sad it was and that he liked me but he liked her more. I just feel so hurt and like such a mug for being walked all over. Does he even deserve my friendship? Do you think he is using her to get over me and is just confused or do you think I was just naiive. He chanegs his mind so much and I'm really just sick of him and wnat to move on with my life but it's really difficult since alot of his friends are also my friends and I sit with him in some classes at school.
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reader, Asexy  +, writes (2 November 2007):
 Sounds like you're better off without the guy. I think you're doing exactly the right thing. His answers showed real immaturity, not to mention hostility to your needs. I think you dodged a bullet, and are well rid of him. So congratulations!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk well another update. He started talking to me online and I took a while replying and he said "Fine then, don't talk to me, eevn though I've done absolutely nothing wrong!" So I replied saying "Hey, i think it's best we don't talk for a while because you're confusing, you have messed me about and used me and I need to get my head sorted around things" and he replied saying "Well now that you'vesaid that I don't ever want to talk to you again so you can fuck off" and then he blocked me on msn. WHat do you make of that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for helping me everyone! I've taken all your comments into consideration and just to give you a little update... I understand the full realisation that I have to move on with my life. I've decided he isn't worth my friendship if he has treated me this way and i plan to tell him that I think it's best we don't talk for a while because he is confusing and I need to get my head around things while he sorts himself out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): The best thing for you to do is to move on. Dont look back and cut him off now. He certainly doesnt feel the same way about you so let it go. You deserve better and i think you have had a lucky escape as he would of done your head in. The future is great, so dont worry, you will meet someone better and who isnt so childish and child like as him.
take care
xx
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (2 November 2007):
 Hello.
Sorry to say you were right the first time he has made a mug of you, he is soooo IMMATURE you do not realize the lucky escape you have had from this person, you really do not want to be friends with this person he needs to grow up and not be treating people the rotten way he has treated you, god whats up with lads today, he has used you to gain another persons affection, what a dip stick, you are better than that, you really deserve to be treated with more respect, i know it will be hard for you but dont let him get to you, you should not waste a tear on him , he dos not deserve any affection from you, if he asked to be your friend just say what sort of fool do you think i am, now go away little boy and play with your so called friends, that will burst his ego, dont let him think he can keep coming back to you when other people find out what a plank he is, treat him with the same disrespect that he has shown you, if he tries to sit next to you in class ask him to move some where else or you move away from him,if you go to the same party's you dont have to stay in the same rooms as he is in, he will soon get the message, he may try to get back with you, dont let him he will only do the same to you again, get yourself another boy who will treat you a lot better than he did, and that will blow him away.
Hope this is helpful to you, go get them princess.
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reader, Asexy +, writes (1 November 2007):
He probably still loves you. But he's not IN love with you, and that's what you have to remember. He's told you that he doesn't want to date you anymore. If you're not careful, you could become "friends with benefits" and I know that's not what you want.
Draw a line; no more physical relationship of any kind. No more flirting with him. Give your heart a chance to heal. If this doesn't help you get over him, then you have to draw the line even farther away from him: no more friendship, at least for now.
It doesn't mean you have to be nasty, you can be cordial. But you have to be distant.
The man who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated is really out there hon. Don't be caught up on this guy when you meet him. Good luck.
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