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*olagiraffe
writes:My boyfriend was physically abused by his father as a child. He claims that neither of his parents ever really loved him. To this day, he sees his parents as very negative things. When they talk, I can still feel the tension in the air. It really hurts me. He claims that he has problems empathizing with anyone. Despite the fact that our love for each other is completely different, I still deeply care about him. I am his first girlfriend and first experience with being close with anyone. He's moderately uncomfortable with being touched, but I think he's becoming more and more comfortable. He has a lot of difficulty expressing his emotions. He still enjoys being alone, perhaps slightly more than most people.On the other hand, my parents were a positive part of my life. I'm 19 now, and I still come home and talk to my mom about every part of my life. My dad is very supportive of my life and my future. I have fond memories of my parents sitting beside me before bedtime, playing silly games or telling me stories.We do have differing pasts, but we love each others' company. We can relate to many things. Have you been abused in the past? What was your first relationship like? Did you have a hard time getting close to someone? Reply to this Question |
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 Hi
speaking from experience and of friends ive known who gone thru similar things its something which makes u feel different to every1 else in the world, sometimes even lonely, keeping to oneself so not to risk getting hurt, its just a mode of survival.
i think the best thing u can do is always be there for him when he wants to talk, and in time he will learn to let down the barrier and let u in although it does take time.
you shouldnt get hurt by this, the children who have been child abused generally grow into such loving adults, so give him alot of time, patience, alot of love and then u will draw closer.
good luck
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reader, Fifteen  +, writes (4 July 2009):
my boyfriend also was abused by his father. hes not emotionally open but he
likes being touched. give him time
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