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writes:i'm 16 and am getting really close to this boy i've liked for ages and he likes me (he's 17). i've never had sex and i don't think he has either. i don't have a clue what to do! what if i'm too tight? and also, what about pubic hair? do you keep it or do you wax it off or something? i'd really appreciate your help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): Hey i have somewhat the same worries,i feel i am tighter than normal. but you might wanna try inserting yourself in,just to get an idea and relax. its just you! And i tend to shave.
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reader, daletom  +, writes (28 December 2007):
Your first sexual intercourse will probably be uncomfortable, perhaps even painful. The advice to "relax" sounds good but in practice I doubt that ANY virgin - especially one with a virginal partner - is actually able to relax. You can minimize the discomfort by making sure both you and your partner have an orgasm shortly before attempting insertion, and you getting on top of him to help guide him into you.
There is more information about this in the thread "First time - painful?" here:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/first-time---painful.html
You can read about my own first time in the thread "I'm a virgin and worried about my wedding night..." here:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-a-virgin-and-worried-about-my-wedding.html
You will almost certainly be very tight - your vaginal muscles have never stretched to receive a man. This will probably cause him to climax very quickly, unless you have helped him to orgasm shortly beforehand.
I gave my opinion of pubic hair in the thread "Do guys get turned off by pubic hair?", here:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/do-guys-get-turned-off-by-pubic-hair.html
It sounds like you are rushing things a bit. If you don't even know whether this guy has had sex before, I don't think you know each other well enough to start a meaningful sexual relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007): hey tight is a goood thing and my guy likes me waxed
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reader, becky13 +, writes (21 October 2007):
it will be all right if younger girls can do it you can do it to
if you are to tight that a good thing not bad
i wish i was that way
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for your advice! i will think a lot before i do anything and i wont let him pressure me into it. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): how long have you know him? if you want it to be special, wait a few months, then try when you're really sure. if he is someone you've met at work or college, it could go very wrong. but maybe not. you never know. my advice is to wait though.
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reader, monsieurlepoof  +, writes (20 October 2007):
 You can't be too tight honey, a baby comes through there. It's a question of relaxing and enjoying it. About the pubes; groom it a bit, make it nice for him. If you have a lot trim it a bit, most of all be hygenic! But I think by reading through the lines, I think you're just not ready for it yet. Let him wait honey, if he's worth it he will!
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reader, dummyduckling +, writes (20 October 2007):
 hey, i was in ur situation only a few weeks ago. when it comes to sex, you should be completly comfortable with it, dont let him pressure you in to anything your not completly comfortable with. second i think ( and ive been told by my GP) that if neither of you shave its better, because if one of you shaves and the other does'nt, the shaved person can get irritated skin because of the rubbing pubic hair from the partner, or if still in doubt ask him what he prefers but as ive already said dont do anything you dont want to do. AS for tightness, its your first time then its completly normal its a new experiance and your going to be nervous, ive had sex with my boyfriend at leat 6 times and im still as tight as the first time, its different for different people as time goes by you will losen it might take some time but you will be fine. one peice of advice though Always Always Always use protection, and dont fall for any lame excuses like " im to big for one or i'll pull out before i cum" because your risking pregnancy and STI'S
play it safe and have fun!!!! hope this helps!!!!!!
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reader, JaffaZ  +, writes (20 October 2007):
 Hey,
Don't worry too much about anything. Trust me on this one. For guys, I don't think there's such a thing as "too tight." So far as I've been told, guys like it tight. It feels better for them.
As for public hair, I'm not too sure... I think it depends on the guy - they all have different preferences. I think half-way is usually good: trim it down a bit. Waxing it all off will probably hurt, but it's probably best to wax your bikini line (if you don't already), and then just shorten the rest of it a bit. Be careful though, cuz cutting it too short will make it prickly and itchy when it regrows.
Probably best to get some guys' opinions on this sort of thing too, I think...
Good luck!
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reader, Its_X_ +, writes (20 October 2007):
 If you're boyfriend hasn't had sex and you haven't either, then you shouldn't worry about messing up or being too tight. It's your first time honey, don't worry too much or sex won't be fun. And pubic hair wise, you can get it waxed which is painful, or shave which isn't as bad but it still kind of sucks. It all depends on your boyrfiend though. If he likes not having hair down there then go ahead and get it off. If he doesn't care, then it's your choice. Don't worry. Everything will go fine. And remember, use a condom. It seems like a lot of people are forgetting to do that. Good luck.
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