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writes:hi well im 14 and my boyfriend wonts to have sex with me but i dont think im ready.but what if i tell him that and he doesnt wont to go out with me no more?can some one tell me what i should do plz?
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (25 July 2008):
 There is more peer pressure about sex than anything else. Both from girls at school and boyfriends.
I had the chance to have sex at 14, nearly did, but didn't. There is no point in doing whatever you think somebody else wants. Things have to feel right and safe and legal etc.
I agree with what the others said, and second everything.
I was in the bedroom with a lad from school, and we were 14, we could have gone further but didn't cos I felt like a kid playing at an adult's game. I am not saying you are a kid, you are not. But I am just saying how something felt at the time. When I was a couple of years older things felt very different like the 'real thing' which believe me was scary enough! Don't be in a rush to be in an adult relationship, there is plenty of time when you are 16/18+. Don't think that you won't get other boyfriends/attention you will! And plenty of it!
Good luck, and be safe and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): If your scared and you know you are not ready then by all means don't do it. If he breaks up with you then who cares..you deserve better. If you do it knowing you are not ready then you will end up regretting it
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reader, TroubledLover  +, writes (24 July 2008):
 hun if he doesnt want to talk to you anymore because of the fact you are not ready for sex then he isnt the right guy for you.A true guy should understand you are not ready for it because you are still a young girl. The right thing to do is talk to him,i know it may seem to scary even to talk to him about the subject {sex} but if he does end up not wanting to know you anymore then he wasnt to one for you .I went through the same thing and things worked out well in the end and i hope things work out well with you too.Good Luck!
Sincerly,
TroubleLover
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): if your boyfriend loves you and has respect for you he would wait until you were ready. but you also need to tell him that you not. other wise you will stress over it more. if he has a problem with not having sex then you much better off without him. don't forget your only 14 you don't have to rush into sex.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (24 July 2008):
 Sweetie if your not ready to hae sex then dont at the oldest your 15 so its against the law anyway, but the fact your not ready is more important. If your boyfriend loved and respected you he would wait, if he keeps pestering you then leave him he obviously doesnt respect you if he keeps bothering you.
So talk to him about it if he is understanding and respects you he will be happy to wait, if he isnt happpy then just get rid of him.
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reader, Nikki-chan +, writes (24 July 2008):
 You're 14.The legal age for sex in the UK is 16.If you decide to have sex with him cause you're scared he'll leave you, he'll be charged.If he forces you to have sex, then that's rape.If you two carelessly have sex, on top of what I've just said, you'll end up pregnant.Try saying 'I'm pregnant' to your family at the age of 14, that won't go well.Tell him that you're not ready and CLEARLY point out the fact that you're underage.If he can't understand that, and if he can't wait for you, then you really should find someone who will wait for you until you're ready (and legal), and will not threaten to leave you when you don't want to have sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): Well, then you know for sure he's a selfish creep and you'll have done yourself the favour of finding that out now before you waste any more time on a guy who cares more about getting laid than about you. Letting guys know you're not ready for sex is a really, really good way to screen out the losers. Just to be clear, the losers here are the guys who get mad, or sulk or who don't want to go out with you "no more" after you tell them you're not ready. Think of it like a test: if he says he understands you're not ready and he's happy to wait until you are ready, he passes. If he says anything other than that, he fails.
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