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writes:The other day some cupid guy or gall asked a question that concirned friendship and love between a man and a woman. I want to here the answers weather it is best to end the friendship when you love your friend and find that the feeling is not mutual, or to continue beeing just friends.What is the best possible way of telling your friend that you're in love with her? Reply to this Question |
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reader, no_one_should_feel_that  +, writes (8 August 2007):
its not impossible ... i did it and we are still good friends .... i just told her first before i told the other girl that i liked her ..... so i told my friend that i love but only as a friend ... i am sorry ... i would like to still be friends with you.......it worked out just fine with me .......but never leave the one you love for the one you like cause the one you like will leave you for the one they love.......i should have listen to this ..... but i say with you .... if you know you truly love your friend then i say go for it and regret nothing..........i wish you the best of luck and i hope that you get what you want in he end......
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reader, laki_topalovic +, writes (7 August 2007):
laki_topalovic is verified as being by the original poster of the question An update to the question asked:
What do you do in a moment when you know for certain that you love the girl? No men can watch a scene where other guy is taking the love of your life away from you. The love is about togetherness, in every aspect, including making out and sex, you can't be an honest friend and hope that your girlfriend never finds anyone to spend the rest of life. How can I be her good friend if I lie about my feelings for her? How can I stop loving her romantically and love her just as a friend? That is just impossible.
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (7 August 2007):
Any Gf who can read the tealeaves of togetherness would already know that your are in love with her. However that doesn't mean that she is in love with you, nor does it mean that she wants any more than that friendship. There are lots of loveless ongoing relationships,because one or the other person can't or won't add love to that togetherness. Wouldn't you want both a mutual mind commitment,and also a heart cmmitment inthe relationship? We both know the answer to that question. As for ending your friendship with her, You would be a fool to do such a thing,as I see it. And here is why. I spent two years with my Gf in JC and it was a deep,satisfying,nonsexual,heaven on earth for the both of us. Do hope that you sort out in your mind that friends are as important to us, as the one we chose to spend our lives with. Besides,Men fall into sex long before they ever fall into love. It's Called, Early-Genital-Fixation, Love for a man comes much latter on in the relationship. Women are Love-Givers at an early age, so they get a jump on us men. And in most cases,If a woman says, "I Love You". You can take that to the bank. Hope I have been helpful. And may God Bless your relationship.
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reader, no_one_should_feel_that +, writes (7 August 2007):
you tell her cause i did for a best friend ... i loved her like a year and finially i got the guts to say i love you and found out she loved me too ...the whole time .... but in the end it didnt work out with me and her...... she got scard of me and left me for a dick.... sorry but that is what that guy is and he hits her and i never treated her that bad but... sorry i left off into my story... um the way i asked was..i played a game with her and just asked alot of questions and triedmy best to make her laugh ... when she was luaghing i told her 1 last question that will ether end this relationship for the better or worse only you know ... and i said what would you think of me if i said i loved you .... and i worked i hope all your dreams come true.. may the best of luck to you cause the hardest thing to do it tell your friend that you love her...
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