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writes:I recently found out that my boyfriend's been to strip clubs in the past before he met me, and got lap dances, which I'm totally all right with, but I'm wondering what exactly is a lap dance? I'd rather I give him little stripteases and what not, I think he'd like that I dunno =p. Any tips?
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reader, wildman  +, writes (2 March 2008):
 In my vast experience with lapdances, most anything goes. First you should be barefoot and wear maybe a thong with a see thru top or mesh maybe. You should be able to tell when you are doing th right thing. Stand up on the bench for him to be about waist level part way through the dance. Put your hands down his shirt possibly and other places. You should do fine what ever you do. Lapdances vary tremendously from girl to girl.
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reader, O Connor  + ♥, writes (26 February 2008):
 lapdances are great fun!!! well first of all you have to feel completely comfortable with wat your going to do, cos if you dont then it will show! get into your sexiest underwear, and cover up in a sexy outfit or something. turn on some music and just go with it!start by dancing really sexily for him and slowly taking off your clothes, then just get closer to him and dance on his lap while he's down. wen you start you will just go with it and know wat to do! tease him a little aswell, moving away from him wen he tries to grab you and stuff!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): Exactly what those guys said. You sit your man down, maybe on the bed or a chair (a chair is often easier, as you can get closer to him easier and you have access to move right around him better). Slowly start stripping off, but leave your underwear on. Make sure your underwear is sexy though :] tease him, brush up close to him, but make sure he doesnt touch you! This must be the main rule - so tell him beforehand he is not allowed to touch you in any way unless you push yourself against him on purpose. Once you've got into the music (yes, music, put on a sexy song, but one you like too), then start moving your hips, grind against his lap near his penis (making sure you dont squish it lol) and maybe bring your breasts close to this face. Give him a good view of you from behind by bending over in front of him - but do this in a ladylike way if you can. Try not to touch his penis - leave that for afterwards, presuming you have turned him on enough for him to not want to stop and leave you alone! Also, guys are often very aroused by smells - so put on a perfume you know he likes and keep your skin soft with a moisturiser beforehand. Obviously, this will probably lead into sex so be prepared! Hopefully, by the time the song/s is/are finished, he won't be able to keep his hands to himself anyway, so take his hands and place them on you so he knows he now has your permission to touch you. Then... I'm sure you know where to go from here! Good luck :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): Hi Hun
right you get some sexy gear on but cover up you get him all comfortable and bang on his fav tune then hunny you dance real sexy, you go up to him, (He should be sitting)
as you are walking up to him you peal things off so make sure you have something slinky and easy to get off, then you are left with the sexy gear always leave a little to the imagination as that makes a mans mind work overtime..
Then you can work your magic slowly go down his body (he is not allowed to touch) in sexy movements using the music to guide your body, go close to him and slide back up with your face very close to his then turn around and bend right over then hunny just carry on anyway that you feel comfortable as by that time you have got the Jist, practice with just a chair and you biggest cuddly toy first if it makes you feel more comfy, I no it sounds funny and you may laugh at your self at first but its a good way of practicing the moves and in front of a mirror so you can see just what you look like and get it down to the mind blowing lap dance EVA!!!!!!!!! TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): Well good for you but watch it. Relationships should have some of this naughty fun in them but life is not pornography and just so long as you don't feel you are competing or validating yourself using this trick. Sex can be bought it is true, be wary of his attitude to women and make sure he can still respect them as human beings since he can obviously also compartmentalise them into sex objects. I am not saying there is a problem but check your feelings out. If he gets a bit bored with you will he go again and would you be fine about stilll if he is in a relationship with you? Do make sure you tell him what you are comfortable with or he may get the impression that you don't mind him indulging in fantasy sex with live women while you are together. If you don't mind that is up to you. I just know how important it is to be clear about your feelings at this stage and not give off mixed messages in case you are later disappointed and hurt. If all that is OK and you really trust him, not to brag about it for example, why not?
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