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writes:my ex told me he has commitment issues....but he aint the cheating typ and i know he isnt. but what are commitment issues? x Reply to this Question |
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reader, happytochat  + ♥, writes (26 August 2009):
It probably means hes afraid of getting hurt, therefore he finds it hard to full give himself and commit to a relationship with the fear that it wont work, or that he will get hurt.
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reader, k_c100 + ♥, writes (26 August 2009):
 Its hard to say when I dont know your ex personally - it can mean a number of things for different people, so please take my advice as a general rather than specific to your case.
Generally when someone says they have "commitment issues" it means they dont want to commit to one person. It is not about cheating - it just means that they dont want to settle down, or be tied down to one person in particular. They want to avoid all the "serious" stuff in relationships like love and planning a future together because they do not feel ready mentally to commit to something like that.
Often it can just be a man's (or in some cases a woman's) way of saying "I'm not ready for a serious relationship". Commitment-phobes often enter into relationships but when things start getting more serious the back away and even end the relationship because they are too scared. I find it is a sign of immaturity - when someone is scared of commitment it often shows that mentally they still want to be young free and single, and keep their options open. To them, commitment is like something that will tie them down or hold them back from whatever it is that they want to do.
This is just a general view of what commitment problems are - often the person who is afraid to commit will have underlying problems as to why they wont commit to anyone.
I hope this helps!
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