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male
age
26-29,
rook
writes:I have a very interesting relationship with a girl I work with. We have hooked up before and both have admitted to having feelings for eachother. However, she just broke up with her boyfriend, and is enjoying being single.Over the past few weeks she has hooked up with 5 different guys, who are all the complete opposite of me. We talked for a little last night, and I told her I really cared about her. She said "You still care about me after all I have been doing?"To me this indicates that she doesn't truly respect what she is doing, but I think she needs to do this right now.My question is what do you think shem means by "you still care about me after all I have been doing?" How should I read this and what should I do.Although i am jealous, I do understand. I have done what she is doing, but I am passed that stage.What is everyone's advice or insight with this situation.
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (1 April 2008):
 What she means by that statement is probably exactly what you said- she isn't respecting what she is doing by sleeping around but she doesn't intend to change it.
You read it right and you understand the stage she is in because you went through that stage but are no longer in it. I'm not sure you can do anything to force her to be on your wavelength- she'll do that on her own and only when she is ready. I understand you wish you could have more with this girl but the timing is off and sometimes you have to accept that and do nothing for the time being except be a supportive and positive influence in her life. If she ever does change, you will have a good history with her and who knows, she may want a relationship but she doesn't right now.
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