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What does messing around mean?

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Question - (12 August 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 13 August 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

The guy I'm seeing totally me he's a virgin. He said he's only messed around with girls he's met at clubs and his ex-girlfriend. I don't know what that means. I really don't want him to go into detail about it either. I always thought messing around, fooling around are the same as sex.

What does messing around mean?

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A female reader, lm9hi United Kingdom +, writes (13 August 2009):

lm9hi agony auntmessing around could just mean kissen, love bites, cuddling ect or it could mean that he has proformed oral sex, either him doing stuff to the girl or the other way about or both, its just a cleaner way of saying it i suppose. It could mean he has done everything apart from penatration sex, or it could mean he has only done a little


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A female reader, birdynumnums Canada +, writes (13 August 2009):

birdynumnums agony auntMessing around isn't very specific. It's vague. I have heard it used by young people when referring to necking and fondling, but I have also heard it used by older people referring to full blown affairs that are fully sexual. So, I think the best way to figure it out is to get to know him a bit better as a friend. If he is only a new acquaintance, it might be too soon to believe him fully.

I have heard of some guys, the real players, using the "I'm a virgin" line as a way to get a girl to think of seducing him... (That is, if you aren't the trusting type, and think he might be less than truthful with you...). Just a thought!

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A male reader, doc,cupid United Kingdom +, writes (13 August 2009):

doc,cupid agony auntHi There

First of all the best thing you can do is talk to him and find out exactly what he means rather than get a load of different answers off here. I have my friends and my understandings of what it means but it could be completely different to what he means so best to just ask him and let him know you dont want to go into detail but just an idea of what he means.

But to answer your question for me messing around/ fooling around is anything but sexual intercourse. Again though best thing you can do is ask. Everyones different

Good luck

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