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writes:My ex and I broke up about two months ago. We have known eachother for a year and dated for 9 months. He has been going out with or flirting with a couple of different girls, one in particular, and last night he called me late, after being out at a bar with her and her friend.I work nights so he knew I might still be awake, so I guess he wasn't being rude for calling so late, he was a little drunk.He told me that he can do better than this girl, and that he doesn't really want her, she is just a friend...I am not sure I believe him, as they work together and he calls her every day and she calls him almost every day, but they have really short conversations and he says they are always about work or her legal problems with her child's father.Anyway, he flirted with me and teased me in sort of a mean way, and he hinted that he wished I would ask him over right now, but I said no. When he said goodnight, he said affectionately - I'll call you tomorrow.A couple of nights before this he came over to talk to me at my request and when he left he kissed me deeply and that is the first time he did that in two months, but then when I asked him to go out of town with me for the following week just for the day, he said he doesn't want to go out on a date with me. He says he has forced himself not to continue our sexual relationship because he doesn't want to settle down with anyone right now, and he felt that he would hurt me if he continued sleeping with me, and he wants to be friends. I know this sounds like we are over, but what did the late night call after being out with that girl mean, and what about that kiss and that hug low around my waist mean?...Do you think he was being disrespectful for calling, or do you think he maybe misses me and has his doubts about this new girl he is hanging out with? I want him back, and I think he would be an idiot not to know this, but I also have told him in the past that I would never marry him (for reasons that he can't commit, dud) but did not really give him the reason why.....What do you think, was he trying to be rude and mean, or did he miss me and that is why he called? He started out the conversation that he wanted to show me this web site that he and his room-mate had been looking out, a DJ's web site, but then the conversation got silly and he was talking about the above mentioned topics.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): noo girl you dont want him back, trust me! he's only calling you kissing you and do all these things cause he can't get enough of one girl.. he's just bored and tryna play on you again! don't fall for him again or else they gonna think your the idiot!
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reader, DearSteve  +, writes (27 April 2008):
 After you’ve been with somebody for a while, you come to rely on them emotionally for advice and support; even simple conversation. When you break up, it can be quite disorientating when that crutch is removed, and in times of weakness it’s easy to want to back, and that may even manifest itself is physical intimacy, perhaps out of habit more than anything. The cruel fact of the matter is that he may not have the intentions that he may be leading you to believe he does. Where you see his attempt at rekindling the relationship, he may simply be looking for support from the one person he used to get it from. This is where the confusion comes in, and complicates matters further. The real question is, how do you feel about him? If you want him back, then you have to tell him and make him question how he really feels. If not, then you need to cut yourself off from him once and for all and make him go cold turkey. Only then will he move on with his life so that you can move on with yours.
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