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What does it mean when women rub their breasts on men, when talking?

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Question - (7 June 2011) 8 Answers - (Newest, 10 June 2011)
A male United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Why do some women press and rub their breasts into you when they talk to you? This seems to happen frequently, especially when going to bars and parties with friends. These are happily married women. Actually, the single women I know do not do this. There are many married Women I know who do not do this, of course. But the number who do is more than a couple. Just the other night, a happily married friend with big breasts just kept pressing them into my arm.

For women who do this, Are you not aware of it? Do you do it on purpose to be flirty? I can tell you It's very sexual for the recipient. It's kind of funny, if I were to do it to them with my "package" I'm guessing it would not be well received :)

I know I would not like my wife doing this ( and she doesn't). But what is the thinking and motivation behind the women who do? I'm guessing it's not because I'm so hot they just can't help themselves ;)

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A male reader, Cerberus Ireland + , writes (10 June 2011):

Cerberus agony auntSome women are just like that OP. They're the female equivalent of that kind of guy who always has to have his arm around women when he's talking to them, you know the type? A little bit "too" comfortable being physically close to people but not over the top either.

Some people are just like that and think nothing of it. It's second nature to them and they'll do it without thinking.

I have to say the only women I've known to do that, the whole rubbing breasts thing, putting hands in risky places when talking and grabbing asses as a joke were middle aged highly sexual women who were also happily married but didn't mind being flirty as hell either.

Think nothing of it, it mostly means nothing and is simply a character trait of a lot of big boobed women, they just like to rub them against men because they know exactly what it does to the men they rub them off.

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A male reader, theboxer777 United Kingdom +, writes (10 June 2011):

They maybe fancy you!

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A male reader, idoneitagain Australia +, writes (8 June 2011):

For some women it can be a subtle way of flirting, sometimes even unconscious, for other women they don't really consider their breasts as sexually as men do, so they are unaware that it is happening or its just not a big deal to them. My money is on a bit of unconscious flirting, or conscious....

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2011):

This is the funniest question I have to admit. I doubt 100% it is intentional unless they are small figured in which case it is inappropriate and you have the right to make a polite and firm step backward so the immediately get the message you find it a bit sleazy. If it is happening often and with larger figured woman I would say you 100% are just very 'breast aware' and that bigger woman that are mothers are just in the habit of being cuddly and nursing and nurturing - they do not mean to be sexual. (Sorry ladies if this offends anyone - but it's true).

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A female reader, BettyBoup United Kingdom + , writes (7 June 2011):

BettyBoup agony auntOops. sorry for the double post.

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A female reader, BettyBoup United Kingdom + , writes (7 June 2011):

BettyBoup agony auntPerhaps they are just affectionate people? Are these women the type who hug on greeting and parting and frequently put their hands on your arm/back/hand etc when talk to you and making a point? Some people are very tactile and this is normal and natural for them. As humans we are meant to communicate with touch, not just for sexual reasons.

Also breasts are not ALWAYS sexual for us women. In fact most of the time my breasts have no sexual connotation for me. It is only in western society that men have sexualized the breasts. They used to be seen as a symbol of motherhood and mothering, and still are in many countries.

I believe you have asked this question before about a year ago? I remember reading this question, almost word for word. Is there one or two women who continue to do this? Ask yourself why does this bother you? Do you detect other motives, ie, do you think they are flirting woth you?

It is possible that these women are aware of the sexual effact of their actions, OR it could just be that they are tactile, and naturally get close to others when talking, and the fact that thier boobs brush against other people, may not even cross their mind. A breast is a bodily part just like your chest, it's just that they stick out a little more and will tend to get in the way with day to day activities. Do these women have particularly large breasts? They might just get in the way when they are leaning in to say something in a loud atmosphere.

Only you can know whether their motive is to flirt or innocent. Perhaps they get a thrill out of it, perhaps it is accidental, perhaps they want to flirt with you, perhaps they are oblivious. This will depend on the woman and boob contact incident lol. For me, I have large boobs, and on a night out when I'm drunk in a crowded bar I'm sure I've accidentally brushed my boob against people, but its not something I think about. If I did it, I'd ignore it and carry on. These things happen. Breasts are not like your package, because you would have to deliberatly touch your package to someone. Whereas breasts are at chest hight and therefor just get in the way! I don't mean to be rude, but get over it, it's really not a big deal. Breasts are not just sexual objects. They are part of our chest and are there to feed babies, not give men a sexual thrill always.

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A female reader, BettyBoup United Kingdom + , writes (7 June 2011):

BettyBoup agony auntPerhaps they are just affectionate people? Are these women the type who hug on greeting and parting and frequently put their hands on your arm/back/hand etc when talk to you and making a point? Some people are very tactile and this is normal and natural for them. As humans we are meant to communicate with touch, not just for sexual reasons.

Also breasts are not ALWAYS sexual for us women. In fact most of the time my breasts have no sexual connotation for me. It is only in western society that men have sexualized the breasts. They used to be seen as a symbol of motherhood and mothering, and still are in many countries.

I believe you have asked this question before about a year ago? I remember reading this question, almost word for word. Is there one or two women who continue to do this? Ask yourself why does this bother you? Do you detect other motives, ie, do you think they are flirting woth you?

It is possible that these women are aware of the sexual effact of their actions, OR it could just be that they are tactile, and naturally get close to others when talking, and the fact that thier boobs brush against other people, may not even cross their mind. A breast is a bodily part just like your chest, it's just that they stick out a little more and will tend to get in the way with day to day activities. Do these women have particularly large breasts? They might just get in the way when they are leaning in to say something in a loud atmosphere.

Only you can know whether their motive is to flirt or innocent. Perhaps they get a thrill out of it, perhaps it is accidental, perhaps they want to flirt with you, perhaps they are oblivious. This will depend on the woman and boob contact incident lol. For me, I have large boobs, and on a night out when I'm drunk in a crowded bar I'm sure I've accidentally brushed my boob against people, but its not something I think about. If I did it, I'd ignore it and carry on. These things happen. Breasts are not like your package, because you would have to deliberatly touch your package to someone. Whereas breasts are at chest hight and therefor just get in the way! I don't mean to be rude, but get over it, it's really not a big deal. Breasts are not just sexual objects. They are part of our chest and are there to feed babies, not give men a sexual thrill always.

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A female reader, RedAthena United States +, writes (7 June 2011):

RedAthena agony auntFirst, ALL women are different. It is best not to paint all women with the same brush!

One woman might be flirting with you, another might just have a big bosom and can not help it due to the positioning of her body. They are right in front of our bodies, so it is kind of hard to miss them! Shove a couple of melons in your shirt and see how well you can keep them off people in close quarters of conversation!

If you are uncomfortable with ANYONE invading your personal space, regardless of reasoning, speak up!

"Excuse me, but Im a married guy", can send the message that you are perceiving them to be coming on to you.

Who knows the REAL reason if you do not ask each individual?

Take a survey and get back to us! I am sure you will have some interesting results.

To each his or her own reason for boobage rubbage!

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