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writes:Hey Guys, What does I am afraid of getting in over my head mean?I have known this guy who is quite a bit younger than myself for going on 6 months, he pursued me until I got the nerve to ask him to dinner and then he continued to pursue me, we had sex one time, and since then have spent time together; even one entire day, but it has been over two weeks and he has not made another move to have sex with me....and when we talked last he told me that when he was with me that day that he keeps having these feelings for me that make him take two steps back, and when I asked him why, he said that he had these strong feelings that made him afraid he would get in over his head, and that he did not want to sleep with me too soon again, as he was worried that the emotional attachment would be too strong and could basically cause problems (or something along those lines...) What does this sound like to you, really? Am I being too hopeful here, stupid, is he sparing my feelings, what? Reply to this Question |
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reader, Country Woman  + ♥, writes (26 July 2007):
 Getting in over your head means that you fall too quicly for someone and basically too hard, you give your heart and soul to that person and it could all end in disaster as you don't hold back.
Like you have said you are older than this guy and maybe because he is younger he is scared of getting hurt.
Perhaps you showed or displayed a maturity that he is just not used to.
Too much too soon can be a lot for someone younger than yourself to handle.
He I think is acting quite mature here and wants to give himself some time to get his head around all of this, don't push him, you could send him running in the opposite direction.
Give him space and maybe send him a text saying look at the end of the day I like you but I would never want to pressurise you into a relationship that you feel is too much for you right now. Just be honest with me that is all I ask.
Once you have done that you have told him you understand that he may be scared of getting hurt but you like him and the rest is left in his court to decide what he wants to do or not as the case may be.
Sex so early on in a relationship or acquaintance in this instance may make him think it happened all too quickly and he hadn't really got to know you before you ended up in bed. Maybe he has been hurt before and is just wary of it happening again especially as he is younger than yourself.
I hope things work out for you but give yourselves some time, not every guy is keen to jump into bed over and over again, some are more sensitive than that as this guy sounds like one of those guys.
Best of luck and keep us posted eh!
BFN
Country Woman
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