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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:i was seeing a man for 2 years, he became a very very good friend to me, we helped each other throu difficult times, he told me he didnt want a relationship just yet, was into his work and enjoying himself. i had no problem with this man, he was always at the end of phone, always texted and called, and i used to see him several times a month.we became closer over the months and slept together several times, and still carried on as good freiends. then one night he texted asked to see me and i told him, i wanted more in life than just friends with benefits, and i thought we should end it, his reply was sorry for messing me about, but would i like to go for dinner and movie all on him. i agreed, and we looked forward to our first real date. unfortunately i became pregnant by him and i ended up in hospital with complications, i had a termination and told him, he was ok with this as did not want any more kids. we met when i came out of hospital and he just said lets go out next week, and wanted to carry on as if nothing had happened for both our sakes.i got scared and texted him i did nt want to see him anymore, and felt this was a pointless relationship, of course i was all up and down. two days later i discovered he had moved away to nurse an ill relative, and when he was coming back was moving in with a girl local to me! this came as a shock, as i never knew he was seeing someone.i let things go and decided i would not say anything and just dropped contact. we did not speak for a year, then two days ago i texted out the blue, he was so sweet and wanted to talk and see me. i told him knew he had lied to me for two years about having a girl friend. he said i have it wrong, he is lodging with his good good friend and they have never ever been intimate, as he does not want to loose her.he is texting and calling me all the time, wanting to see me, as friends, but then says he wants to spend night with me and go back to how we were, it worked for us. i know he will alwyas be there i have no doubt about that, we are very close, but i do not want friends with benefits, i would like a relationship now, but he says he is insecure and does not want to ruin what we have. i have not met up with him yet for the reunion, i have so many questions for him, but if there was nver and never will be a relaionship, i cant ask these can i?what does anyone think he wants because i am so confused right now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): He wants a gullable woman he can screw,who will be there when he want it,who wont when he doesnt. I cant believe a woman your age could accept it. Get some confidence and get rid of the selfish rat.
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