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What does anal sex feel like?

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Question - (10 October 2006) 57 Answers - (Newest, 22 August 2010)
A female , *onfussed jane writes:

Is anal sex sore? What does it feel like? Any tips

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010):

the first time myself and my girlfriend did it we were inexperienced and it hurt her the first 2 or 3 times. but now she quite likes it. we've even expanded on it. my girl friend give me a blowjob first to lub up my cock before penetration. she says it feels better that way

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010):

It will be my first time both my vagina and butt. At first I wasn't sure about doing it in my butt, he convinced me that he'll be slow and stop anytime I want. He's not my bf but we dud date once, but now we are just more than friends. I'm nervous about it cause I have fingered my butt before and it hurt....I'm excited to do it vag though. How bad is it gonna hurt? Should I lose both on the same day? will the pain be bearable?

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A male reader, sky1two Canada +, writes (14 August 2010):

Well , being a guy , I was suckered by internet , into beliveing that there was this mysterious G spot in guys in the bum

Being a horny little prick I am I said sure why not , jumped off a plane lets put a dildo up my ass let a girl dildo me

So here I was found courage to go thru with it , I took it in like a champ , but did not felt anything other then putting something up my ass, kinda felt like large poop in ass

Absolutely waste of time , then I just turned around saw my girls pussy , and I just went for it , HELL with anal sex not for me

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010):

i just had butsex fot the first time tonight and it hurt so bad and still does and i dont know if its supposed to i feel like my buthole split open and i cant sit down and i cant move.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010):

Well, my girlfriend and i have been seeing in some years, ofcourse we have been more closer to each other.

And yes, we have tested Anal sex some times now, the first times, like another reader wrote, i was gentle, and careful. And she was in pain, but she didn´t want me to stop.

(i would stop if she asked me ofcourse.)

But now she kinda likes it as normal sex(vagina).

Hope you have a great time. Bye!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010):

My boyfriend and I have tried it on multiple occassions. The first time we lacked knowledge and preapation, it hurt like hell. He didnt even get it in before I had to stop him. I've never felt like I needed to poop during. I really like the idea of anal sex, but when we try to have it I end up just enduring. Lately I have felt an intense, almost electric sensation that goes over my entire body. The feeling is disconcerting. The only time that the pain was minimal we used baby oil. "Relaxing" sounds easier than it is.

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A female reader, NatGe Serbia +, writes (13 February 2010):

I had tried it twice before I actually did it with someone I am seeing now. The first two attempts were just painful, done with no experience-just as if had been a vagina.

The last experience with my new partner was different. First he asked couple of times if I`d do it and I said no, or not yet. He didn1t try it. Then he started with his fingers on couple of occassions just to prepare me. Finally, last time we met, we did it. Lots of care, slowly...It was great. No pain AT ALL. I couldn`t believe it was happening as it didn`t hurt or feel unpleasant at all.The following day I felt as if it had never happened. The conclusion - patiend and caring partner, lube and it is perfectly right.

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A male reader, heartfullalove Ireland +, writes (10 September 2009):

heartfullalove agony auntNo two ways about it, it IS sore at first, but more than worth it if your man does it right. You'll need your partner to be gentle and considerate, rather than just slamming it in and pumping away. Go slow and easy when you're starting out. Condoms and lubricant (KY or Easyglide) are an absolute must.

With lots of practise, it gets much easier, as you get to know how much you can take and how deep, and what size of c**k you can handle. The orgasms are unbelievably intense, often multiple and continuous. Like a volcano and earthquake going on at the same time. In the case of males, this is because the prostate gland (a submissive male's sexual pleasure centre, equivalent to a female clitoris) is being pounded. I don't know whether the situation is equivalent for women, or whether women have a prostate gland.

Take care and have fun!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009):

I disagree about going slow before pen and using fingers.

1. Fingers are fairly sharp objects, your not supposed to put sharp objects in your butt! Dildos/Dicks or other objects with well rounded edges and no fingernails are less likely to cut or tear the skin and the penetration occurs slower.

2. Go slowly during pen, you should be stimulated both anally and otherwise (horny), relaxed and comfortable and your partner should have rubbed your anus for a reasonable amount of time or preferably rimmed it if he is willing [goes for both genders], I find I am able to be penetrated a lot more comfortably, quickly when I have been rimmed prior without the use of lube. Just a little saliva goes a long way.

3. Positions DO MATTER, the easiest positions for me for initial penetration have been doggy style and cowgirl (or boy), when doing this you should have your legs bent up in a way that allows your anus to open up slightly, remember first time its better for it to be in your control not the other persons especially if they have no experience with anal sex because they will go to FAST can't just jump in like vaginal sex.

4. There is sometimes a slight pain during initial penetration, if the partner goes slow enough this pain may only occur as the tip enters you or not at all, after a 20 seconds or so the pain should be completely gone; remember for larger men you should not go entirely in, chances are it will begin to hurt her/him after about 4 inches in the beginning.

5. Its important not to eat 1-2 hours before anal sex as this can push waste down and make anal sex more painful (or possibly dirty). Its good to use an enema or use a dildo prior to anal while showering to both open you up in a controlled environment and help clean you out.

6. Use condoms during anal penetration, especially if he plans on putting it in your vag afterwords it can cause infections otherwise.

7. Anal sex is just another way to experience pleasure, some enjoy it more than others some barely enjoy it but all can be stimulated by it; its a matter of doing it correctly.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009):

hurts at first then just feels like normal sex

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009):

My hubby and I have anal pretty often (and he is really large - 10" and as big around as my wrist). The most important thing is to relax and work your way up. Even now I usually put MY finger in and play with myself before he even touches me. Then sometimes (but not always) I will put a small vibrator in while we continue foreplay. USE ASTROGLIDE lubricant. KY dries out way too fast. Use it every time and use a LOT - both on him and on your anal opening.

If you take your time and relax, it is an incredible experience. Learn your own body first before you let him touch you there. Then you know how to relax :-)

As for the poop stories, I find them hard to believe. We have been having anal sex for 12 years. I have never used an enema and we have NEVER had an "accident." And yes, it may be slightly uncomfortable at first, but it should not hurt.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009):

i have tried anal sex with my husband but it has never worked for me before.. we used lots of lube, relaxing etc. but nothing. but one day we were having sex and i was really horny after we got done with sex he was just pleasuring me fingering my clit and massaging and slowly after about 20 minutes of relaxing and enjoying he slowly started caressing my anus with his dick and i was the one moving around on it and it went in, no lube nothing that night, just a lots of relaxing loving and time. i started moving slowly left to right ( he was facing my back i relaxed my body put one leg up up on a comfortable position ) so his dick was going slowly in and out. that was the first time it got in. it felt weird.. not really painful but weird.. it felt a little like you have to go poop so i freaked out that im going to poop and we stopped after a few minutes. today i decided to explore around there my self so i relaxed played with my sex had an orgasm and started massaging my anus i put some anal relaxing glide i have never tried that before i heard it has some relaxing stuff in it, i put a little finger sized dildo on my anus and it went in all alone no pressure.. while i put a vibrator on my clit with one hand and the other i was putting the lil dildo in and out my ass it felt good a little weird but good. it still feels like i have to poop i dont know if that feeling is going to go away or is just what it is but i am willing to try it out more and more but slowly.. i will probably just use toys for now when i get used to it i will try anal sex again with my husband.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009):

I love having anal sex though it's been off-limits for me for some time as I've had tremendous butt probs (haemorrhoids) due to having some very forceful anal late last year.

Anyhow, yesterday was the first time I've had a penis up there in ages and we kinda had to start all over again in terms of getting it in (had to try quite a few positions until we found the best one - me lying on my side with my leg up at an angle) and loosening up the butt muscles. I was surprised at how tight my hole was.

We used loads of lube and he pushed in real slowly. There comes a point though where it just slides in with no difficulties and you know that soon you'll be rocking and rolling and I have to say, I'd forgotten how fantastic butt sex is!!!!!!!!

There is a loose kind of feeling but not so that you poop your pants, just a nice warm tingly feeling and everything's heightened like orgasms and just general sensations really. I know people say it's an out hole and shouldn't be used for sex but for me, I love it and there's nothing quite like it and another reader has said their whole body feels it, I totally agree. My whole being quakes when I've got a penis in there working away inside me. I also love being fingered and rimmed.

There is one slight prob though, even if you are clean down there it can still smell a bit during and after. The smell's a bit like rotting apples. I don't mind it all that much but I'd imagine someone straight walking in there after might be a little grossed out. Poop and semen aren't to everyone's tastes smell-wise!

I've whacked some Preparation H on my poopchute and I just feel great really. Bottoms really are tops!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009):

it feels amazing. I am a bi male and only do bottom. of course the first time is going to feel a little uncomfortable so do it a few times with a toy before having sex. i get a lot of pleasure out of it. I do gay porn and I am a notorious bottom. no joke! :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009):

anal feels wonderful.it isnt sore,and didnt hurt me first time.and it was a big penis.

i prefer it with hardly any lube but we are all differnet.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009):

feels like taking a sh*t, only in reverse. personally i like the sh*t to go out, not in

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009):

im bi and when i first had anal my mate was very big,he slowly pushed in just keeping up the same pressure while i kept very relaxed,he entered reasonably easy and after 20 yearsof doing it ,its easy

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009):

It hurts like hell, it feels like cutting yourself with a razor blade, i am not gay however, i tested fingering myself with my ring finger and it hurt, i guess that makes me gay wit myself, i however was experimenting i heard males had a g-spot down there but i guess that's bs' NEVER DOING IT AGAIN|||

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A female reader, ciaran reidy Afghanistan +, writes (2 August 2009):

if hes got a small dick it can be good, if hes got a big dick it hurts like hell and feels like u needa sh*t. If u want to get out of it tell him his dicks too big, he'll like that an u can give him a blow job instead

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A female reader, LaraSmith United Kingdom +, writes (1 July 2009):

I Tried it yesterday and it was great it hurt at first but after a small time it felt awesome.

I fingered myself as my boyfriend did it and it only increased the pleasure.

I only have a few complaints about it, there was slight bleeding afterwards, was really sore all today and it was the only time i had never had a orgasm with my current boyfriend, for these resons iam going to stick with normal sex

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009):

Ok, about 99% of these answers are horrible garbage, and anyone reading this should not pay attention to them.

Anal sex SHOULD NOT HURT! Not EVER! If it hurts, thats your body telling you that SOMETHING IS WRONG! If you do it right, you might hurt yourself very little for a brief moment why you realize you have gone too far too fast, but thats part of learning your own boundaries.

PLEASE remember that if it hurts, you could be doing DAMAGE to your body! If it hurts every time you do anal sex, eventually you are going to damage that area, and make it either hurt worse, or look very unpleasant. Don't do this ladies!

The biggest thing you need to remember with anal sex, is not lube, (although that is second), but TIME! You cannot expect to be able to stick a huge penis in there when you have never done it before. This is not something that you can just do the first time, like vaginal sex. The anus was not made for sex.

If you want to learn to take a penis in there, you have to be dedicated to it, and slowly practice over many months. You start out only rubbing the anus. Then when you feel comfortable with that, and ONLY THEN, do you move on to inserting a finger. This will take many weeks! You have to get used to, and enjoy the feeling. If you do not enjoy it, you wont enjoy going any further, and you will feel pain instead (yes you can feel lots of pain even from a single finger).

Once you can ENJOY one finger, which is probably the hardest part and can take many months, I would suggest getting a small dildo, as two fingers can hurt allot no matter what (nails are killer). Once you enjoy one finger, it moves pretty fast and you can go to bigger and bigger dildos, beads, etc. Always remember each time you do anal, to START SMALL! Start with rubbing, then one finger, then a small dildo. Don't just stick a penis right in there, IT WILL HURT!

Remember, If it hurts, that means there is a problem! And TIME TIME TIME! Also use lots of lube. And ladies, don't just let some guy stick it in there. Its a very sensitive spot and if he doesn't care enough about you to spend a year working you towards that goal, then he definitely doesn't care if it hurts, and you are just setting yourself up for pain.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009):

i do it with my fingers and it makes me feel grate and i am not gay it harts a bit but the feeling of cuming is way better and i do it all the time

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009):

me and my boyfriend did it since we wanted to do something new, and, OW! But as soon as he began to take it slow and we used plenty of lube it was fine. By fine I mean not really AS painful- but, he enjoyed it I guess. Still prefer 'normal' sex.

NOT recommended to young couples who've just begun having sex

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A female reader, bigtitbj United States +, writes (19 April 2009):

it feels like a clitoral and vaginal orgasm and remember too much lube is almost enough :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2008):

Hey

from a gay perspective, me and my boyfriend started having anal sex few months ago and it would hurt and we would have to take it easy, but now, my body just accepts it and so do I. Now, I would have to say that anal sex feels fabulous!

When were having anal sex, it may be the best feeling you can ever get. You dont only feel it in your butt, you feel it all over your body. On every square inch of your body, you get extremly sensitive and my boyfriend massages me and kiss me while we do it and i really have to say that all my senses go nuts! I feel vibration from everywhere and stars in my eyes and little buzzing in my ears and hair and almost shivering and even gives me goose bumps the whole time through. The feeling when he takes in and out is just incredible. Today, we did it for about 30 minutes, and i just feel so so so wonderfull!

I think that the trick is to have a loving and carefull partner and to really listen to your body in the way that you will know when you are ready to take it all the way. Some people have the wrong idea and assume it makes you feel like taking a dump; that feeling, if it happens at all, will not even last 20 seconds. Use lube and condoms but i dont know why everyone says to use a shitload of lube. I think a resonable amount is just fine! Just realx and dont go too fast til youre ready to.

Anal sex is one of the most amazing thing someone can experience. You really can feel a form of high from it and I always feel like i have at least 6 orgasms and it makes you appreciate your partner so much more.

I hope i have answered that question!

Have fun and love yourself!

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A female reader, babycate728 United States +, writes (4 August 2008):

babycate728 agony auntThe first time I tried it with my boyfriend it hurt quite a bit. But I was turned on by the thought of it. So, next time we were alone I was on my period, and he wanted to try it again and so did I.. And I thought it'd be a good time so we wouldn't be tempted to give up and just go back to the front.. We used lots of lube! And he was very sweet rubbing my back and telling me to relax. He went slow and at first it hurt, but once I relaxed he could move in and out pretty well so, after a few times of really moving it. It felt great! It was a little weird. But I think once I get really used to it...we'll end up doing it quite a bit.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008):

Does anal sex hurt? - Yes, but if you are the kind to enjoy such a thing, then the pleasure usually outshadows the minor pain.

The thing is, not everyone likes anal play, and you really have to enjoy it for it to be pleasureful. Explore yourself before trying it with someone else: try inserting a finger or two, then "upgrade" to a dildo (safe for anal entry).

When you do eventually try it with a partner, be sure of 3 things :

1. Everything is clean - very clean.

2. Use lube, no exceptions.

3. Communicate. - Anal sex should be done very slowly, and you need to tell your partner if they are going too fast, when to proceed, etc.

Finally, my best advice to you (well, what works for me anyway) is LOTS of clitoral stimulation. When me and my bf do it, he inserts himself very slowly ... its usually alot to take at first, but because its so slow, i have time to adjust. Once he gets it all the way in, which can take some time, he can then go as fast as he likes ... its getting there that's the hardest part.

So try it yourself first, and if you like it, go for it!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008):

Feels good from what I hear but two things cannot be stressed enough: LOTS OF LUBE...THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO MUCH (feel free to use almost the entire bottle); TAKE IT SLOW AND LET RECIPIENT ADJUST. When you are in foreplay, stick a lubed finger in and let adjust then 2 fingers and repeat until loose. Then when beginning penetration, slip in a little, an inch or a cm at a time, and wait for them to adjust before pressing forward 1 inch or 1cm more. This will make the experience enjoyable especially for a first timer. These are the most important but there are a few others:

Make sure recipient has had a movement before you start or things could get messy.

If the recipient is female (and you're lucky since I've yet to convince my girlfriend to try it yet) thoroughly wash your member or change condoms before engaging in vaginal sex otherwise you set her up for very nasty infections. It probably isn't a bad idea to wash thoroughly even in wearing a condom due to tearing.

Another tip I find is enjoyable is to do it in hot water baths as this helps loosen up the area, but you still need lubricants. HERE'S ONE MORE TIP: IF THE RECIPIENT SAYS IT HURTS YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG!!!!!!! IT NEVER HURTS IF YOU DO IT RIGHT!!!!!!

I'm not a recipient. These tips are from friends who regularly engage in it and research I've done on the subject, mostly from sex columns

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008):

I'm a gay male me and my boyfriend did it anal the other day and it felt great we used alot of lube it was painful at first but when i relaxed it startd to feel good going in and out of my hole.you might bleed a litte but thats okay.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008):

Well the very first time I didn't feel much, because I used tons of lube. Untill he guy got very deep it did hurt. but while he was pushing in, I really wanted it. and now it just feels very good to have something up my ass :)

so if you use a condom, loads and loads of lube, and if you're horny... and than use some more libe it shouldn't really hurt, but you will enjoy and long for more.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008):

I had it for the first time with lube. A little painful. I heard you have to relax as much as possible. I was drunk so that helped. Next day a little sore.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008):

use lots of lube and start off with a small penis and cause big hurts after 4 5 pushes u wanna do it all night long

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008):

my boyfriend likes me to do it for him. but am scared. he told me he'll get someone to do it to me while he watch or he'll get me drunk then he can do it.....i'll like to hear him told me he like someone to do me, while he watch....please send me your [email address blocked]

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008):

I fingered my ass today while i jacked off, i cummed hard and it felt great

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008):

thats an exit not an entrance

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008):

I am male and straight but i really need money and a guy is paying me to let him fuck me n stuff but i need to money and its alot of money. The guy is much older but i just gana get it over and done with.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008):

tried it with my boyfriend once but it was very painful. i had to make him pull out with him just getting the head inside. i guess the next time we try we'll use lube=]

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008):

anal sex feels like when u had a large sausage roll and it comes staright back out again you know, a large poo with sweetcorn and nuts in it and it scratches the sides of your ass hole. it hurts like a very large poo.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008):

I really love it! it takes a while to get 'good' at but gets easier after a few times.

Always use lots of lube (anal lube is best) and wash first.

Don't start with a big cock but try a finger or some toys first. If you find your a bit leaky afterwards just use a panty liner for a few hours!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007):

Me and my boyfriend recently did anal sex, the important thing to remember is to relax and lube, just remember that you might bleed a little but that is ok and yeah its sore at first once the head passes its awesome.

If you have a hard time with relaxing than try drinking some alcohol, that might help or have him use anal beads those are easy and fun they even vibrate!

If this helps, thats great.

If not im sorry, maybe your better sticking to using the front door and oral

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007):

my first time was amazing. me and my boyfriend are so close and had planned it.

i bent over my pool table and tried to relax, we didnt use lube and it hurt going in.

then i had to get him to pull out, and we tried again with lube.

it was mind blowing and great, and felt like a really deep massage, i would advise anyone in a tight relationship to go for it!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007):

really really sore

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007):

the first time i had anal i was at my boy freinds house....AND YES IT HURT ( for the 1st time it felt lke a broomstick up my ass hole) my bf first put his finger in my asshole then he finally put the head in we used lots of lube ( baby oil really helps) after the first 4 or 5 pushes it feels great!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2007):

It can be really great if done well. And it can hurt like hell if done poorly.

You have to be really relaxed, and it shouldn't be the only thing going on (he should play with your clit, too). Start REALLY slowly -- maybe just some pressure on the outside -- with lots of lube. Start with a finger and slowly move up in size. And more lube. As long as you're going slowly and there's lots of care on both sides it can be mind-blowing.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2007):

I just TRYED to have anal today and it hurt so bad and he didnt even get the head in all the way. So i asked him to stop then later we tryed it again because i thought it might not hurt as bad he was hesitent because he didnt want to hurt me.. but we did! It hurt just as bad but I tryed to deal with the pain (we did this cuz we were cerious how it felt) anyways after he got the head in he moved it in and out about 2times and then i said no i cant handel it! So we stopped. YES WE USED ALOT OF LUBE!!! it still hurt. I am not so sure i would reccomend anal.

I am still sore. I geuss we will just have to wait until we are married and then have sex but for now we will stick with foreplay

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A female reader, Horsegirl New Zealand +, writes (5 February 2007):

Horsegirl agony auntOh no andrea23!! That's terrible. He threw the girl out???? That is really truly an awful thing to have done. And he blamed the dog???? Poor dog!!!!!!!!! And the dog got put down?? Really? Gosh. :( :( Poor dog!!!!!

Anyway I think it's quite nice actually. But really what it's like to me or anyone isn't nessiceraly what it'll be like for you. Tried using your finger first and see what you think.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2007):

I am a male reader: from a gay male perspective-

I think Yos gets it spot on when he said it feels great if you do it right, and downright terrible if you do it wrong. Here's my take on it-

The other day I tried self anal with a smallest diameter soft rubber dildo while self masturbating. It felt surprisingly good. To work I think you have to have a really stong erection going before attempting to inserting anything round back. Pressing the dildo on the anus felt pleasant and gently increasing the pressing pressure made my erection feel like it was been increased. Then slight unconfortable and same time pleasant feeling as the dildo pushed through the opening into the anus. All this done while working my erection with my other hand. Once the dildo was about half way into-it was only about a finger size dildo length and width wise- I continued masturbating my penis-a really strong hard on. I think the finger dildo was touching my prostrate and this seemed to make my erection want to get and stay harder. So my recomendation if you are a male taker-use plenty of lube, do it slowly, have a really good hard on before putting anything in, -don't force it in unduely-if it hurts excessively it's not entering at the correct angle, or you aren't relaxed enough.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2007):

it feels really uncomfortable for the first minute or so. But i know this sounds confusing, but its uncomfortable in a good way after that. Its like this my boyfriend has a pretty big you know. But i love having his penis up there its like taboo and thats what makes it enjoyable. I love anal fullness and having his %#%$ going in and out, i even have orgasms. I reckon you should try it BUT with LOTS of LUBE.

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A male reader, Yos Netherlands +, writes (18 October 2006):

Yos agony auntOh no andrea23!! That's terrible. He threw the girl out???? That is really truly an awful thing to have done. She must have felt like dirt. I have to say his behaviour there was truly apalling. I'm shocked! I'm upset actually, for her. Poor poor girl. She'll feel bad about that for the rest of her life probably.

To answer the original question: it can feel great if you do it right, and downright terrible if you do it wrong. Theres lots of sites out there on the web that give very detailed information on how to do it right if you want to.

One thing to bear in mind: I think a lot of people get the idea from seeing it in porn. Just remember that what you see in porn is not at all like reality, if you use porn as your main place to get information about it you'll end up having a bad time.

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A female reader, xsarahx +, writes (18 October 2006):

well iv jst recentley done it with my boyfreind at first he didnt use lubricant cuz at the tym we didnt think n it was really hard to get it up there it was so painful when it was i made him take it out, but then i tried again with lubricant and i found it was alot easier it wasent as painful but its the pain after. so its kinda put me off doing it agen lol

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A female reader, andrea23 +, writes (14 October 2006):

andrea23 agony aunti never tried it and don't intend to as one of my male friends told me while his mum and dad were on holiday he brought a girl back to the house where they ended up doing it on his ma's new sofa, well they decided to do a bit of anal but after a while this girls anal muscles all loosened so you can imagine what happened the shit was all over the ma's new sofa, so my m8 ended up throwing this girl out, well anyway here his ma got home from holiday and seen the faded brown stains on her new cream sofa and asked my m8 what the hell had happened and my m8 ended up telling her that the dog had shit on the sofa so his ma went and got the dog put down so the ole dog got the blame. so after hearing that i vowed never to have anal sex because i would be cut to the core if that happened to me

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A female reader, katzkitten United Kingdom +, writes (14 October 2006):

katzkitten agony auntone word PAINFUL!!! honestly ive done it a few times and it really hurts. it worked better for me when i was on all 4s and he was knelt behind me, we were more or less at the same height then. when i tried it jus bent ova it was too low for him. also u will need lots ov lubricant to get it up in the 1st place! however it did make the person i did it with cum faster and he enjoyed it alot, and i supoze it does feel nice once you get over the pain. but some more advice dont tell any one you know what youve done because chances are you'll both get ripped to peices. keep it between you and him and i supoze your best friends if you must tell someone. For a better experience get him to finger you as he does you up your arse. it feels so much nicer. u get pleasure from both sides :p

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A female reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (13 October 2006):

beentheredonethat agony auntR O F L M A O!!!!!!!

yep...pretty much what she said........

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2006):

It feels something like.

There's a poo coming.... oh hang on that's quite nice, no wait there is the poo coming again... maybe that feel's nice... poo again... slow down, that is a bit sore, poo again...

Didn' really work for me. Touching the bottom with finger is wonderfull though!

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A female reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (10 October 2006):

beentheredonethat agony auntWell this is truly where size matters....smaller men win on this count. Big guys have a hard time finding anyone willing because the bigger they are the more the stretch and the more it hurts. You will find it more pleasurable if you use a vibrator also, sort of revs you up and you don't feel the pain as much, but for a girl the sensation is very similar to a bowel movement...a very sizable one. And it must be done with lubrication and very gently. Now once you get over the shock and ouch...it can add a pleasurable quality to your sex life. Some people go wild for it...personally it is an occasional thing at best. And if you are intent on doing this...you should consider and enema before...nothing like having fudge come tumbling out too. Talk about messy. For guys I guess it is like a very tight vagina...with an Oder factor.

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A male reader, harshbutfair United Kingdom +, writes (10 October 2006):

harshbutfair agony auntFeels like you need a poop, so everyone says. I wouldn't know, because GOD intended it to be a one-way-street and that's the way I intend to keep it.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2006):

It hurts but you get used to it but don’t forget it stretches your muscles round your bum so it could lead to an embarrassing situation

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