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writes:What does a wink from a married man mean?While I was at a friend's house, her (friendly) husband winked at me while I was leaving. We were talking at the door and he winked. Previous to that, I always felt he would be happy to bump into me in public, and the conversations would always be full of questions and charming smiles that would sometimes linger. I am curious to know if there is anything to this wink from a man who is friendly by nature. He also occasionally acts nervously around me. I do not see him ask other people questions and I don't see him talk to other women this way. Anything to it? He seems like a very loyal, quiet husband but it threw me off and caught me off guard. Despite this loyalty, I find his wife to quite rude to him and disrespectful and she is known to have a bad temper, and he is not the type to go out and cheat either. I know that for a fact. Suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2012): From original poster:
I don't want it mean anything. I just wanted to know the truth. It caught me off guard. Thanks everyone.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 November 2012):
 he's married and you clearly are friends with his wife.
if you would LIKE it to mean he's interested then it will mean that and you can blow it up any way you like.
if you would like it to mean nothing then it will mean nothing.
it really does not matter what it means. WHAT MATTERS is how YOU conduct yourself.
truly if you didn't care what he meant because he's MARRIED TO YOUR FRIEND, then you would not care.
so clearly you would like it to mean that he's interested.
in that case, let him leave his rude and disrespectful wife and then he's free to be with you...
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (3 November 2012):
 Oh for heaven's sake. A wink in itself is an innocuous form of communication. He was being friendly. As for him answering your question when you, YOU PHONED their house, and he said he was looking at real estate in your city, hey, maybe he meant he was looking at real estate in your city.
No signal, no symbolism, maybe you should tell his wife he said he was looking at real estate in your city and winked at you ..... she'll either take it as a signal or think you are flaming nuts! OR, and here's a thought, she might think you are looking for reasons to try and break up their marriage, hows that for a signal!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2012): It means he is a married man and not happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2012): Hello,
I am the original poster of this question. Thanks for all your answers. When he winked, the impression I got when I was leaving was one of "approval" of me and that he enjoyed our conversation and made me feel like I was very "nice". It wasn't sleazy in any way...but just thought it was unusual for a kind, and shy husband type to do this.
Since this has happened, I have moved to another state and when we spoke on the phone the other day (I was calling his wife and she was not there), he asked how I was doing and he said he was looking into real estate in my city. Was this another signal?
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (2 November 2012):
A wink can be a sign that he was joking about something.
A wink could also be an involuntary reaction to a foreign particle in one's eye, or a facial tic caused by nervousness, lack of sleep, or too much caffeine.
I'm sure he was nervous. With the way you describe his wife, it is very possible he was concerned that speaking with you (just a regular conversation) could be misconstrued by her...especially if you were paying him more attention than you were his wife.
If you really are his wife's friend, you will stop thinking about what a wink (intentional or not) may mean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2012): "What does a wink from a married man mean?"It means he's married. And that's all you need to know.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (2 November 2012):
 A wink is an all-purpose test balloon.
IF you "react" and give him any reason to believe that you are interested in a little extra-curricula activity with him... then this is a good start....
IF you exhibit no interest in anything more than the "friendship" that the two of you currently have... then it was a nice and warm "message" that he sent to you...
IF you are interested in him - intimately or s*xually - then this is your opening to reveal so to him.... If you are not... then you and he can continue the "status quo" and nobody is - or needs to be - the wiser....
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2012): For him to wink at you, there is something definitely going on in his mind, i think he wants somthing more than just a friend of his with... Yeah, he's loyal, have never cheated on his wife. But, if giving the chance he will have you. Men are not to be trusted
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reader, natasia  +, writes (2 November 2012):
 Well, I think he likes you, and he probably wishes he was with you instead of his unpleasant wife, but aside from being happy when he is with you, and flirting a little bit, I doubt he will do anything more, as he is a decent guy and would not want to, however bad she is, and however nice you are.
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