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writes:Hi this is a question for girls only cuz i don't think guys can answer this question. Anyways i'm 13 and i have a boyfriend who's 15. And yesterday he was finger banging me but it wasn't the first time. But yesterday was different he got me extremely horny and it was really fast too. I mean after like 2 seconds of fingering me i was already horny. And i want to know if i experienced an orgasm because i'm not really sure. Do you feel like you have to pee when you are about to have an ogasm? I need answers please. ASAP!!! THANKYOU TO ANYONE WHO ANSWERS MY QUESTION.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): first of all your 13 you should not be finger xxx anybody and that boyfriend of your is just playing you honey if he really cared about you he would wait till your old enough to be having sex first it fingering your then its penertrating you and next thing you no your pregnate your moma done kicked you out of her house or dad your broke living on the streets dropping out of school and to top it all of your boyfriend done left you and moves away all because you let him finger xxx you and trust me on this i would know see the playa change but the game stays the same
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2008): yeah. i get it too. im 13 as well, but i was reading another answer to the same question and the lady said its fine, its just that his finger might be putting pressure against your bladder which would make u feel like u need the toilet... (: happy fingering x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): its like the most amazing thing ever. its impossible to describe how it feels. if you have to question weather you had one or not. then most likely you didnt have an orgasm. you will know when you have one.
but i do agree with the older people who said you should wait. wait for someone you really and you know there the one. im only 15. & i had sex for the first time when i was about to turn 12. it was a mistake. i wish i wouldnt have done it. ive had sex many many times since then. & only one did i truly love. & it is so much more amazing when your with someone you truly love. the sex is better. (:
you dnt have to listen to me. i didnt listen to any of my friends. & im sorry i didnt. its one of the only regrets i have.
peace. (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): im only 14 years old and i lost my virginity at age 11...its not that big of a deal as long as you are mature...i lost my virginity to a 20 year old who had a big cock...but he used a condom so i felt safe...now me n him have had sex over 15 times...its ok...if you want sex then go get it....its a wonderful experience and just remember this...lose your virginity to a big cock!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): Man, I read some of these answers and none of them seem helpful at all...an orgasm feels like all the muscles in your vagina contracting. The feeling like you have to pee probably means you were almost there.
Just one thing, sex is not worth it at 13. Wait a few years until you are emotionally ready and it will be much better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): A lot of women have never had an orgasm or think they have because of myths like these. You've probably realized by now that women have trouble describing an orgasm. However its true that once you have an orgasm, you will know you've had one. If you are asking yourself "Did I just have an orgasm?" then you have NOT.
If you feel the need to pee, it is likely because your g-spot has been touched or stimulated in some way. The female g-spot is comparable to the male prostrate gland, and sometimes stimulation of the g-spot will lead to female ejaculation, which can be accompanied by a feeling of pleasure.
What you really want is a clitoral orgasm. The way that I find works best is when the female is on top, and the man lying on his back. The female should face the man, and press her clitoris onto his pelvis bone area in a circle or front to back motion. Don't worry about being too rough, often the harder you press into your man and the faster you go, the sooner you will reach an orgasm.
(This is written for women who are mature and in relationship."
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): Wow. This makes me feel sick. I had just had my first period at 13. I didn't even THINK about having sex at that age. I was still into toys, and fun stuff about being a kid. I am 21 now, and to be honest, I am glad I didnt have sex at 13. This is sickening. 13 year olds know nothing about sex. No wonder kids are getting pregnant. The world truely has gone to Hell. Grow up some before you start ruining your life with something meant for adults. Seriously.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): Hey hun at 13 you should be enjoying your life and being with friends. I don't believe that there is anything wrong with dating and having a boyfriend but you have so much life ahead of you to be sexual. You don't want to end up having any problems life is too short and too precious. When I was 14 I met a boy who I fell in love with and I understand hormones are raging but it's worth the wait. My bf and I were together for 3 years before we finally had sex and that is because i knew he was my one and only. I know it's not my place to tell you what to do I just feel like kids today don't have a childhood anymore...they are too busy trying to be grown up and I know everyone says when your older you will wish you can go back but it is soo true. I am 19 now and i realize I too am still young and my bf and i are now together for 5 years and I am glad we waited so long to do it because it made it that much more special. Live your life as a kid while you still can....there is so much time to have sex. I am sorry to those who do not agree that she is too young but she really is. Sex is complicated and feelings evolve that you will not be ready for...
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reader, Tamara12  +, writes (27 June 2008):
Don't listen to all those old people who say we shouldn't experience orgasm at any age. When I had my first orgasm (self made) at 13 it was like I found heaven on earth. The slow build up in my genitals, usually a warm feeling, quickly spread through my anus and abdomen and then my whole body. It is an incredible feeling that lasts from about 10 seconds to a minute or more. All ages should have this feeling whenever they want, however often they want. Whats wrong with that? And by the way, once someone has had an orgasm, there is nothing anyone can say to stop us from having more. It just feels too good!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): One thing i feel is like a warmth in your genitals.
It almost feels like its burning but a good kind of burning.
But i think there is such a thing as little orgasms and the BIG O.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): I lost my virginity at 13 aswell. Honestly, it's all about maturity. Just use a rubber! I couldn't stress this enough. All it take is one littlemistake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): Hi,
im 14 and me and my boyfriend of 6 months recently had sex for the first time, after about 10 seconds i got an exploding feelling like i was gunna pee, so yes it does well maybe for some people. be careful though, me and my boyfriend talked about having sex for about a month before and we went to a clinic at my school to get free condoms.
be safe and have fun, its amazing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): well I think when u feel you r ready to have sex you'll no if u feel like u could let your self go to your b/f your ready. So good luck! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008): i lost my virginity at 13 to the same boy i married eleven years later. Dont let anyone tell you that you're too young. Sex is something that can be done for the right or the wrong reasons. When i decided to have sex with my boyfriend i made sure that he was the one that i wanted to give it up to. that he was special. for all you people here telling this girl she's stupid, dont be pissed off because you didnt find someone tht special at such a young age. count yourself lucky and dont listen to these judgemental idiots. as long as your safe about it and you know in your heart that your both doing this for the right reasons, there is NOTHING wrong with it. Age is only a number. MATURITY is what matters. As for an orgasm, it feels so good your mind goes blank, so if it feels like peeing it wasnt an orgasm because you still remember it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): Hi hun!
Im 15 and I have gotten that feeling you know that afterwards you feel like peeing...im almost sure that its not an orgasm becouse orgasms your muscles contract and it's like you want more!! but its really your body acting for you and your just in soo much pleasure you cant event think straight...and im soo sorry you have to read all those other comments...people citisising you and all that stuff...gosh like they wher never our age...its easy to say things but when your in the situation its very hard for us to control ourselfs and our hormones!! dont mind any of those comment hun but make sure that if you are going to do something take care of yourself and do everything with responsability =] becouse your decisions now will affect your life later on okay, i know you know this allready but we are teens and women and we gotta watch each other's back =]
HUGS SWEETY
take care
laury
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reader, Bella_Babe57  +, writes (12 June 2008):
 Sometimes you do need to feel like you need to pee.
If you experienced an orgasm, you would know for sure.
Its like overwhelming pleasure, exploding. Lasts a few seconds...Congrats!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): I think this is crazy. You are 13!! My niece is 14 and her baby is due in november. Do you want that?! Kids your age have no idea.I am 28, I do remember being 13.you might not believe it,but you honestly don't know what you want,which is why your parents still make all your decisions. Sex, is not a bad thing but for your age group it is. There is no cure for AIDS, remember that always.people of all ages should. And babies are lots of work-just ask your mom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): hi, everyone on this page is being far too judgemental of you. they are taking the liberty of commenting on your personal life just because you are young. you asked a simple question, and you should get a simple answer. there is a double standard for men and women in terms of how acceptable it is to express your sexuality, and have sex and enjoy it, and these people posting here are adding to it. you should trust your instincts and do what feels right for you. there is not one right time that is good for everyone to start playing around. it's not bad advice to take it slow, but for some people waiting for mr or mrs "right" is just not top priority, and that's fine. i think it's totally normal for someone at 13 to be curious about sex and experimenting sexually, so just don't listen to everything you hear and be your own person. also, there are a lot of sexual activities that don't involve penetrative sex, and it sounds like you're having fun exploring that. this will give you lots of time to discover what you like and don't like.
as for an orgasm, here's what happens: stimulation of your clitoris, either indirectly through rubbing the vulva, or directly throught the hood of the clitoris, or on the clitoris itself (gently and with lube - saliva or other), is necessary in order to reach orgasm. the clitoris is actually a wishbown-shape, and only the tip is visible, the rest sits around the entrance to your vagina, and underneath yoru vaginal lips. before orgasm, your breathing will speed up, and so will your heart rate. more blood will be circulating in your genital area, creating a feeling of warmth that is pleasurable. at orgasm, your muscles in your genital area, around your anus and vagina, will contract 4 to 15 times approximately, and other muscles in your body will likely contract too. this is because your muscles have reached a threshold and are now allowing the blood to rush back into your body. this, along with the release of endorphins and oxytocin from your brain are what create the wave of pleasure that is an orgasm.
-tal in calgary
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): Like many here have said, what you experienced wasn't an orgasm. You just probably hit the g-spot. When you get an orgasm you just know it. And let me tell you, it feels great. From what I have felt, I felt my body shaking and after the intercourse, I could barely stand up (my legs were feeling weak). The feeling is sensational and although it may only last a short time (about 10 seconds) it feels like forever. You might have the feeling to pee, but that's not always the case.One thing that concerned me, though, is your age. I won't call you stupid, but I just wish you could appreciate more your childhood. I'm 20 years old and I wish I was 13 again. Having a childhood is wonderful, let me tell you, since there's barely any worries I can take. Trying to reach adulthood like you are trying here is the worst thing you can do! Try to live up to your age. Also, another thing is waiting for the right person. I lost my virginity when I was 18, and it was a great decision; the reasons because I was more concious about my actions and I had waited for the right person. Also, when you get into high school you'll have a terrible reputation if you ever say you had intimate relationships with a guy at 13 (And mark my words at this) If you decide to go all the way, though, just don't spread the word. Sweety, don't rush things with your boyfriend. You two are still kids and like I said, live your childhood!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): Alright so I am 18 and I have had sex before but let me tell you if you are only 13 its NOT worth it. Trust me I went through all my friends at school and classmates finding out and the guys just wanting to talk to me so they could "hit it" You dont want to go threw high school looking like a easy whore. I think you are too young and should really wait for someone who loves and appreciates you for you. Sex is a very great thing and feels wonderful but for your age, do you even know what to do? Think about it before you actually do it. But to answer that question it wasn't an orgasm. When you have one you will just know. My whole body shakes and I get tingly feelings in my vagina and legs. It's great But if you do choose to have sex be safe and talk to your mom about birth control. Hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): silly girl
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): listen im am 53 years old and never in my life i have experience a lot of little brats talking about oragism. you are just too young for this. please think things clear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008): Heyy Darliing im 13 and i think your just to young to be doing stuff like that and even if your parents do think your ready dont do it because your parents or your boyfreind wants you to.. please if your gonna have sex use a condom babe :)
Much Love ..x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008): To help induce orgasm, tense your abdominal muscles when you feel your highly stimulated- always works for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): So alot of people have been telling you the wrong thing so far. You did nto have an orgasm. Feeling like you have to pee just means you're really turned on and being pleasured, but haven't hit orgasm. An orgasm feels like this: All of your muscles get tense and then just let go and it is the most incredible thing you'll ever feel. It's almost like a sneeze, but incredibly pleasureable. When you have an orgasm, you'll know it- you won't have to ask.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): Hi, I lost my virginity at the age of 14. I was wayy to young. Me and my boyfriend had been together for 8 months, and I thought I was ready. But boy was I wrong. That one time turned into him wanting it all the time, and I wasn't down with that. He kept getting really mad at me, and finally I just had to end it. So, be careful what you get into. I thought I was 'in love' but I wasn't. Your first time should be with someone special. Use a condom though if you're going to. It's your decision, but personally I think its too young.
However, I do have a boyfriend now. I'm 16 and he is almost 18. We got together a month after me adn the other guy broke up.. we've now been together for almost 2 years.
He is amazinag in bed. I've gotten an orgasm when we have sex, when he fingers me, when he eats me out. You name it, he does it. An orgasm is the most amazing feeling. I love it, however I wish it lasted longer. But to answer your question, I don't think you had an orgasm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): That definitely sounds like you're just having your gspot hit. An orgasm is much more intense. I'm really difficult to get off but when it's done right, my left leg gets shooting hot tingles, my lower body tenses, the area just under my clit gets really hot and there is about 5 seconds of intense pleasure and then it slows and I relax. This is always through clitoral stimulation as penetration doesn't do much for me.As for the age issue, I think you should really be careful about losing your virginity. When I lost my virginity I was 14 and it was to a boy I dated for 8 months. We rushed into it and neither of us were ready and so the end result was bad bad dry sex that didn't break my hymen. Technically I was still a virgin when I met my current boyfriend whom I have been dating for 3 years. Our first time was fantastic and I'm glad I waited 6 months before we went for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): erm but i get this feeling and i don't like it i have only had it about 7 times with my partner im 16 and wen it getsfast i tell him2 stop i dont enjoy the need 2 pee feeling! do you think because im fairly new to it it will get better the last time fewlt diferent to the others maybe im just sorefrom the first times?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): What you felt i do not think was an orgasm... I think this was just a simple cum. When I first lost my virginity it was very unpleasurable however after the 3rd or 4th time it became quite enjoyable however it took a longer length of time to get an orgasm. When i did get my 1st orgasm I began to breathe really heavily I didn't even realise this as I was enjoying the feeling so much I at that time felt happy and there was a feeling going through my hole body like no other feeling. It was AMAZING!!! i do not think you had an orgasm and I certainly do not think you should rush into sex. Your virginity is precious and you can only loose it for the 1st time once. I waited till I was 18 and am very happy with doing so. Enjoy the feeling of being fingered, kissing and feeling each other but please do not loose your virginity. However if you happen to do so use a condom because you certainly do not want a child at a young age. i would also strongly recomend a nice place as you do not want to be one of those people saying you were "broke in" in an alley way or somewhere like that do it in a bed its much nicer and far more romantic. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): funny you should ask this question because i just recently had my first orgasm. and it didn't invole a guy at all. i learned to explore my own body before someone esle did. I think that maybe you should too. then you will know for sure what an orgasm feels like. btw I am 17 years old
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): Hi Im 13 and a virgin and Have Wanted To HAve Sex For About 2 Months And My Bf Doesnt want To Rush Things Butt Hee Fingers Me And I Love Itt So Much. I Am Ready To have sex but i dont think he wants to. People think im too young but its not up to them its up to me and my parents well i havent told them how i feel my bf is a year older than me but i dont care. People should just but out and mind their own buisness as long as we use protection.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): you did not have an orgasm...he was hitting you're g spot...when you touch it over and over again itll feel like u have to go pee
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): i lost my virginity last year. i was 14 and it was one of my best experiences ever. im almost 15 now and iv had sex about 7 more times.it jst gets better and better every time.if u and ur partner feel u r ready to do it, then go for it.forget about underage sex!!!.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): well, sometimes my legs begin to shake and i get cramps it the top of my tights right below my ass.
hehe. its fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): Girl, there's a reason why everyone is saying that you're too young - it's because you are. As previously mentioned, this will eventually lead to sex, and you don't want to make any mistakes that you can't undo. Take your time with something so sentimental and personal as this, you still have quite a few years to go. I had sex when a couple years after i turned 17 years old with my boyfriend who was 18, turning 19. Even at that age, I think it's way too early, I can't take back what I did though. Just think more logically rather than letting your hormones make the decisions. It's so easy to give in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): When you have an orgasm, does it feel like you're going to pee? like I mean when I'm with my guy, it feels like im going to pee and even when he's doing oral stuff on me.. i feel like im going to pee, is that normal?im afraid I will so I always stop him, so i've never had one before.. will I go pee? im so confused and upset.. HELP
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): ignore people that say you are too young. i think if your ready for it and get parents consent Why not? im 14 and my mum feels the exact same way and if you are ready ignore what other people say!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): Do you realize that not only are you too young to be doing things like that, it's ILLEGAL!!! You are not having sex, you are being molested. You have too many adult years ahead of you, just be a girl right now. Do you want to end up having a baby before you can even take care of yourself? And where is your mother? Why aren't you asking her for advice? Is it because you KNOW what you're doing is wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): you are too young to be having sex hun. I don't think you're ready to have a baby are you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): your WAYYY To young to be having sex!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2008): I am 60 years old and had no man for 26 years. I met a friend 2 years ago and not even once could he satisfy me. Is it because I am to small after all these years? And it hurt, the last time we had sex was 1 year ago.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2008): im 13 (virgin), i think you're too young to have sex, i mean honestly????Why do you even want to?
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reader, daletom +, writes (24 December 2007):
Well, I am NOT a girl but the overwhelming consensus (like, 95% of people - maybe even 98% or 99%) is this: If you have to ask whether it was an orgasm, it probably wasn't.
Some studies I've come across say that people have quite a range of ways they experience orgasm. Surprisingly (to me, at least) it seems to feel about the same to men and women. The almost universal sequence is tensing up, awareness of sensations concentrated in the genital/lower abdomen (women often describe this as the "gotta pee" feeling), the "explosion", then the feeling of contentment. There will be internal muscle contractions though a few people don't feel them strongly enough to recognize them. There may also be twitching, squirming, shaking, etc throughout the body.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2007): I dont think you did I have had my bf do it to my and he said that i WAS screaming and arching my back and saying GIVE MORE GIVE MORE IT FELT LIKE NOTHING COULD EVER GO WRONG EVEN THOUGH HE SAID IT WAS ONLY 8 SECONDS IT FELT LIKE 3 YEARS.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): I believe you do need to heed the advice of others here and be careful, at least, about under-age sex. However, I can tell you that my wife is incredibly quick to orgasm, and what you describe seems to be one. I can hardly get into her before she goes off like a rocket, she goes into little spasms, sometimes screams with pleasure, her breasts get covered in goose-bumps and her veins stand out, and I can feel all the convulsions as she climaxes. In some ways I wish she were slower to get there, but I think you are either "hard-wired" that way or you are not. For instance, it takes me ages with mouth-sucking or hand wanking for me to shoot off, yet friends of mine shoot it in about a minute. My advice is for people to look around and find someone with whom your sexual response meets an equal, then stick with them!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): Both male and female when having an orgasm, feels like they are going to pee because of the muscles contraction. In fact after having an orgasm you wil lwant to pee 5 minutes later and you can compare the diference. Peeing actually feels good, many people just don't notice that.You said it was fast like 2 sec, you were extremely horny and you ask if you had an orgasm? fastest female orgasm I've heard anyway
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2007): i don't think 13 is too young. i'm 14 and my boyfriend and me have done everything legal. i reckon that life is short, and we should have fun while we can. (:
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