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writes: Hi, I was just wondering what everyone thought of online relationships and possibly meeting up with them etc. I'm 23 and in this position that I've met someone online who I really like and spoken to him on the phone. Has anyone else had similar experiences and how did they turn out? Plus I'm a bit scared of how he might be disappointed if I wasn't what he thought I might be in real life. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2006): i was once in an online relationship it went on for over 1 year, online relationships never go anywhere, the guy i was dating would always say yes lets meat but then when it came around to it he never went ahead with it, in the last 5 months of the relationship i didnt want to be with him anymore as he told me he would kill himself if i was to brek up with him ,then a day later he told me he was bi sexual and loved to wear womens clothing and everything he pretty much told me about himself was a total lie, in the end i was scared to break it off as i though he would hurt himself and he also threaten to come and hurt me if i was to break up, so in the end i though i have to get him to break it off with me instead so i cheated on him, it was wrong but i run out of options, at first i though everything was great but he lied about everything even his age, my point is that you dont know them really, i though i did but he sure fooled me, if you can meet up do it but in day light and with some friends watching your back in a public place, and dont let it drag on or else it wont go anywhere and your wasting your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2006): Hi,
Well I actually had the opposite experience with online dating. I met my current boyfriend online and I have no words to describe just how great our relationship is :) (Im 21 and he is 27 btw)
We have been going out for a 1yr and a few months and I will probably end up marrying him! I always thought that the month or so we spoke online helped us get to know each other, I knew things about him (like if he would ever get married, have kids, what religion he was, if he smoked etc) that you wouldn't normally know if you had just met for the first time in real life, which meant when I was going to meet him for our first 'proper' date I already had a pretty good idea we were going to be compatable - and over the next few months got to really know him (tho after a week I knew he was 'the one' so to speak!:P)
As for the 'if he was dissapointed when he met me', well noone can know for sure if you'll hit it off! You may meet and find out that actually, he isnt what you were expecting! But you shouldn't let this hold you back. You seem to have spoken to him a bit, and so I would assume he's got an idea of what you are like etc, and if he agrees to meet its because he likes what he has heard and wants to know more! :)
So I would say it's a good place to start - although before you decide to fall head over heals for this person I would reccomend you meet them, as, even though my now boyfriend was great to chat to online, it was still different talking/walking round with him in person (like how he held every door open for me when we were walking which shows something about his character you could never learn from an online chat), for me it turned out great! But I think you need to talk and be with someone in person, see how they respond, and just their general manner before you can really start to get to know them :)
Hope it turns out well for you!
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reader, vixsfix +, writes (19 March 2006):
 You have to really careful here. If you have no plan in never meeting up with this person then it is harmless fun so long as you never give out any personal information about yourself. If you do plan t take things further, please for Gods sake do not go alone or to a secluded place, only big public areas. A friend of mine meet up with a guy off the net after talking for a year, almost, he turned out to be nothing that she expected, he had built up an internet persona that he couldn't carry out in real life, after a few meetings with me and other friends in public places she chucked him. They're a lot of work and extremely risky? Are you ready for this complication in your life?All the best with whatever you decide
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2006): I had an online relationship that lasted about 8 months, but in the end it didn't work out. We lived 3000 miles away from each other and we talked every nite. After about 7 months he flew out and stayed with my family for almost three weeks. It was great, but then after he went back, he started being jealous all the time. I went on a vacation with my family for a week and he was freaking out if I didn't answer his phone calls immediately (like calling my bro's cell or leaving 50 messages for me). We started fighting all the time and I couldn't handle it and broke up. So my situation didn't work out, but for you it might be different because you are older, I was still in high school. It is hard too because you always wonder what they are doing when you aren't talking to them, are they cheating or being true to you. So I would just say you should be just be cautious.
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