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writes:What do you do when you feel so alone? and the saying 'lonely in a crowd' applies very aptly to you right now. How do I learn to face up to problems and not to run away from them? How can I increase my self esteem which to be quite honest is at rock bottom. How can I overcome the emotional roller coaster I've had over the past few months?
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reader, macmichael +, writes (10 May 2008):
It depends , if your a woman then you can get a nice boyfriend and be happy as long as you dont choose anyone too confident. If your a man like me you dont do anything you just have to put up with being alone with no self esteem. ha lucky for you /(and not for me)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both for your replies. I have taken them on board and started to feel much more positive.
Thank you!
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reader, lolly pop +, writes (25 March 2008):
 It seems to me that there may be a few different things going on n your life at the moment. Everyone goes through low points in their time honey...People look at others and see the good, the excellent or the absolute amaing lives they are living...what people dont think about is the fact that we humans are very clever at hidingthings from others.Have you tried writing things down?when i get to a point whrer my brain needs a 'harry potter pensive' to remove some thoughts and emotions. the best thing i do and now some of my mates aswel is to jott down what ever comes into your head...like you ust said the word lonely, maybe there will be others too like 'miss-understood or traped' now i dont want to put feelings on to you but once youve written down all the words your feeling go back over them and ask why u feel each of those words it could be you answer one feeling with another e.g you feel lonely because your missunderstood but when you can start to see your feelings written down they seem to make more sense rather than having them milling around inside your head causing worry.Another thing is a diary, keep a mood diary and track what it is or when it is you feel like this the most. you may find a pattern there that you can work with to build yourself up and away from. At the time when you are in a state of dispare you won't be able to think to clearly about other things and wll dwell a lot but s long as you dont bottle things, speak on here, write things down or talk to family or friends you'll come through it a lot stronger.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): Hi babydoll!
Your question here is going to be the start of your process in overcoming all of these things, and it should be approached - one step at a time.
I am old enough to be your mother, and I can tell you honestly and from the heart, that most, if not all of us feel this way at various stages in our lives. Feeling alone is not uncommon to many and when you realise that, somehow your not alone anymore.
Lots of us have terrible trials, trageties and dramas in our lives. I suppose that is what make things that do matter to us and are cheerished, so much more important when we are low. To start to feel less alone, think about some of the things which you have in your life that are still very important to you. Remember also that many others are feeling low and may have lots of good reasons to let it get them down, but somehow they find something worth striving for and turn things around. It is about a choice to be beaten by things we can and do change with some effort. You can choose.
Learn that alone time is a quiet and peaceful time, enjoy it to just think. Explore all your feelings and try and work out where they come from. Some of our emotional times are also our learning a growth times. That is a good thing and something many people do not embrace. Start to think about all your ambitions, dreams and desires. Make some of them happen. You will fail at some and be successful at other, through hard times we get to know ourselves so much more. We also get to realise some of the things which we have caused ourselves to endure, which in hindsight, we know have been perhaps poor choices. So this is life, and as they say it is, what you make it.
I don't know what you have been through, but maybe there will be a reason that you will see in years to come. Your maybe at one of those times in your life now, where you can change direction, try something you where perhaps scared to do. Learn, grow, explore yourself and think about how much worse it could really be. Somehow this thought process gets me through!!
Shit - I wish I was only 18 - 21 again, making mistakes and having a life ahead of me to create!
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