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What do you do after two break-ups and someone you love wants to try a third time?

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Question - (4 May 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 5 May 2008)
A male South Africa age 36-40, anonymous writes:

what do you do when someone you love a lot breaks up with you twice to be with someone else and then wants to get back together?

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A female reader, Ember13 United States +, writes (5 May 2008):

I disagree with the people here. I don't think it's a cut and dry case and depends on the situation. I think that if you have both changed in such ways that the reason you broke up in the first place is gone and you both want to try again, then go for it.

I would not go into the exact same relationship b/c it will probably end in the exact same way. It's starting a new relationship with the same person. It can happen but it depends on a lot of things.

I think we'd need more detail.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008):

Sometimes you just need to move on and this is that time, It will hurt but its not your fault it did'nt work out she killed it the first tym she broke up with you for someone else, you gave it a second chance and she disappointed you again, at this point the situation is disfunctional and nothing will come out of it.

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A female reader, smeedle United Kingdom +, writes (4 May 2008):

smeedle agony auntYou tell them to go to hell, they had there chance twice and still mucked it up, tell them its over and dont look back, why would you want to be with someone who uses you in such an appalling way.

You love her/him but they dont really love you or they would not treat you this way.

Time will heal your broken heart and a new love will also help, move on

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A female reader, sweetheart03 United States +, writes (4 May 2008):

I'm going through something smilar but don't get back with her. I'm sure what she has is not better then you that's why she's coming back. Put because she was able to put you through such pain shows she doesn't care about ur feelings. She's selfish for what she did! There's good women out there! So find one! Leave her alone don't run back to her cause then she will know you will always come back! And will contuine to hurt you! Put ur self first this time and don't let her hurt u

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A female reader, Rhian2020 United Kingdom +, writes (4 May 2008):

Hello,

I wouldn't get back with them for many reasons.

It's clear that this person has no respect for your feelings because they have broke up with you twice for someone else. This person sees you as a doormat, even though they've left yoy twice they keep coming back because they know that they can. Does this person only want to get back with you because their other relationship has failed? I know that you love this person but do they love you if they are willing to stamp all over your feelings? I think that you should tell this person that you don't want to get back with them and that your sick of being treated like you don't matter. If you don't do this then this situation could go on and on and it may cloud your vision when someone special comes along. Spend time with family and friends and forget about this person even though it will be hard.

Good luck.xx.

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