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writes:There's a girl i have a massive crush on in University. We're both comfortable with each other and we dance together whenever we go out and she doesn't mind me touching her at all. Thing is though, i'm really scared to tell her how i feel. I wanted to tell her how i felt yesterday but she was busy with work. She said she'll speak to me soon which will be today where we'll probably meet in the club. How do i go about telling her that i have all these feelings towards her? I'm scared and nervous as i'm very awkward around girls despite being extremely confortable around her (at least when i'm drunk). I want to convey my feelings across to her in the best way possible so that i have as much chance as possible and that way when she rejects me at least i can say i did my best and can move on without any regrets.I really want her and i haven't slept properly in about 4 days because all i can think about is her.I'm a boy btw i'm 19 and never had or kissed a girlhelp please !
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 December 2010):
Good luck!
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reader, HondaTohru  +, writes (13 December 2010):
 Very good answer from CaringGuy. To add to it, try not sounding desperate. What you need to make her understand is that you're interested in her, not that you NEED her in order to be happy or that you'll never get over it if she refuses you (although you might be feeling this way right now). That would just be pushing her away.
So yeah, be sober, direct and respectful, and remember "no" means "no", not "maybe". Good luck! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk i'm going to swallow my fear and just go for it, wish me luck
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 December 2010):
This is one of those 'go for broke' moments. You've got to make this good.
First rule - No drinking tonight. At all. If you want to make a decent impression, you need to be sober. There are few girls that are impressed by drunk men asking them out.
Second Rule - Be pretty direct, but not arrogant or forceful. Don't waste time. Just explain to her that you really like her, and that you'd really like to get to know her more. Then ask her if she'd like to meet for a coffee or something.
That's about it really. Don't drink, and when you speak to her show her respect. Good luck.
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