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writes:Me and my long term boyfriend are about to become intimate but im nervous because im not confident about my performance. The main problem i have is not sex, but the points leading up to sex. Basically, how are u meant to touch a guys penis during foreplay? What am i meant to do? what do guys like? I don't mean oral sex, i mean what do i do with my hands??Thanks, any advice would be really appreciated
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (3 March 2008):
 A bit of a followup here: While I have no doubt that some men may enjoy or somehow prefer lubricant when being fondled, sucked or during intercourse, it's use has never been part of my regimen over some 45 years. Only recently did a new woman friend introduce some lubricant without asking me a couple of times, and before I suggested otherwise. We no longer use it together and the feeling for me is much improved - sexual pleasure much greater.
Lubricants, in my case and perhaps for many others, is simply unnecessary and almost seems to deaden sensations due to the sloppiness. A bit of friction is preferred in my case, does absolutely no harm and in most every case, the mutual natural lubricants from our bodies provides ample wetness for every activity. Keep it handy if doubtful, as "Collaroy" suggests, but use only if necessary for some reason.
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reader, Collaroy  + ♥, writes (2 March 2008):
 Hi,
If he is relatively inexperienced as well then too much attention on his dick will cause him to ejaculate too early.
But practice makes perfect, so you should gently run your hand down his shaft then massage the head using a circular motion. But make sure you have a supply of lube on hand ( Ky jelly is fine ) as he dick needs to be wet when you do this ( otherwise it gets sore ).
But as I said you might find he comes while you are doing this , but with practice he will be able to hold it in.
good luck.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (2 March 2008):
While he is likely to be kissing you all over your neck, face and orally quite passionately, while fondling your breasts and eventually your most private area, you should become very aroused. Whether you are both nude or partially clothed, when he reaches your crotch area, it is perfectly natural for you to begin stroking his hardened penis gently. It may be as simple as slowly rubbing his shaft from bottom to the tip, grasping like a steering wheel and stroking gently yet firmly, or vigorously "pumping" his member from bottom to top (may cause a climax).
As "Uncle Phil" mentions, your boyfriend may not endure the excitement long before ejaculating, but if he can withhold, intercourse could follow when both of you are fully aroused. I would suggest that you delay your fondling and "playing" with his sexuality at least several minutes, preferably 10 minutes or more, until you reach a high level of arousal. It takes a lady quite a bit more time to simmer, while he will likely respond almost immediately.
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reader, q1605 +, writes (2 March 2008):
 As long as your not wearing welding gloves nothing you can do will be wrong
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reader, Uncle_Phil +, writes (2 March 2008):
 You don't necessarily have to touch his penis, but if you get pretty close to it on his inner thighs that will be enough to get him excited. The only time you need actually touch it is when he's about to enter you and you offer a guiding hand to point it in the right direction.
If this is his first time, the chances are he's going to be really excited and if he lasts any more than a couple of minutes without 'squirting his dirt' he'll be doing well. The more you play with his bits, the more likely he is to be over and done before you've even started, so take it easy! Remember - if he says "Whoaa, stop" or something like that, he means it - so stop whatever it is you're doing and 'extract' otherwise you'll end up disappointed.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (2 March 2008):
 Be like a small kid and be curious...
Any small kid will know what to do when given a new toy....
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