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writes:I am 22 years old and have been with my bf for over 5 years, we have been living together for over 3 years.Everything has been amazing, but we have just grown apart.We have totally different interests in life right now, I have changed (grown as a person)... and it feels like he has stayed the same. I do not feel we have the same life goals anymore.Right now I am very driven with my college life and the career ahead of me, I am not even thinking about being in a relationship.We fight all of the time... never happy times anymore.I dont know what to do! I have tried to talk to him about how I feel but he just gets mad and does not want to talk about it.What do I do about growing apart? Should I move on or work at what we have left?
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reader, rcn  +, writes (22 December 2007):
 He gets mad and ignores. I bet deep down, he knows what you're saying is right, after 5 years it might be a bit hard to accept or to face.
It's up to you to decide if you want to work on it, or let it go. Can relationships like this be saved? Generally they can. It takes some work. All too often we get too familiar with our relationships. Taking for granted that things just are, instead of working on enhancing and growing the relationship its self.
Good luck, take care.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (22 December 2007):
 I think this is for you to decide. If you feel the relationship can be saved, and, more importantly, if you're willing to save it, then do. If you think there is too big a gap to bridge, then leave him. Sometimes we don't know what to do, but no one can help us; we need to take our chances.
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